How do you respond to disappointment when someone showed interest, said he liked you and then switches off just like that.
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Getting over disappointment
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At first I am perplexed,disappointed,sad,annoyed,and hurt. But,finally, I treat it as I would an audition. In other words, I have learned not to take rejection personally.It is best for me to move on. Rejection is just a re-direction.That person is just re-directing me to someone who really cares about me..
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Remember the condition of man. We are fallible an make mistakes all the time. If you are Born Again, the best way to respond is forgiveness. Be kind, forgive those who hurt you. Then go about your business. God has his will and His way.
Place Christ first in your life, make Him your number one. God if it is his will, he will send someone your way, that also has placed Christ first in His life. Understanding that the Love He has for you, should be like Christ love to us.
Seek ye first the kingdom of God, first, then God will send someone your way, who also seeks out God to guide His steps.
But the best way to respond as I said. Biblically is to forgive him, tell him you forgive him and that you will keep him in your prayers. Then walk away. Knowing that you've obeyed God and it's better to that, than to sacrifice your dignity and your holiness by being mean about it. Not saying you are being mean. Just an example.
Born and raise Pentecostal here. So know how it can be sometimes.
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Yes,forgiveness is very therapeutic. When I was a young christian,I thought that by me forgiving someone,that I was pleasing God. As an adult christian,I realized,that when I forgive someone,that forgiveness is for my benefit.
Yes,life it far too short,for one to go through all of one's life,hating others,agonizing over past wrongs,and being miserable because of one's refusal to forgive.
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Thank you for your answers. I have forgiven him. I guess I just did not like the fact that I complained too much about it to God more like it was God I was angry with. I did repent about that too. However, I just could not understand how I could have gotten that angry and behaved like that towards God. I kind of felt like now I am really messed up. This will get me to the next level real slow.
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Well, King David was once angry with God,check out Psalms 13.
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Yeah! The first two verses sounded just like me! He ended the Psalm right though 
It took me hours to end right but I did. Thanks!
It took me hours to end right but I did. Thanks!
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Yeah! The first two verses sounded just like me! He ended the Psalm right though
You are very much welcome. Just doing what little I can in order to encourage someone.
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Yeah! The first two verses sounded just like me! He ended the Psalm right though
Just to let you know, it took King David a year to deal with his sin over Bathsheba and Uriah. I know we read it as one Psalm but some of those issues in David's life took him a long time to deal with just like you and me.
On the disappointment side, I have had my own set of fights with God over life not turning out as planned. They are never fun. I haven't dated in so long now that my disappointments aren't in the same category as you, however, just the other day I told my friends that I wanted to be a puddle so I could become a cloud and rain down on those people I didn't like. My week was rather disappointing stemming from a rather disappointing year after a very poor decision on my behalf to move to where I currently am (disappointment is a recurring theme in my life). I didn't tell her that I had crawled on to the carpet in a ball whilst telling God that I was going to be a puddle. I had planned to stay there as a puddle for a lot longer as I actually did but I had to get up to go to the toilet and after that the moment my plan did seem rather ridiculous.
Anyway, we all have disappointments and we don't always deal with them in the best way. But God's love surrounds us. He can handle us being honest with Him. It is part of a healthy relationship. David was honest with God. That was why he had such a a good relationship with Him. I have never won the fight against God - he usually reveals what the problem is and helps me to address it (just like He did with David).
Blessings
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pray. there's probably a blessing behind it. maybe he isn't worth it at all and God may still be in the works for someone who won't do that to you and treat you better.
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Yes, I'm thinking it's a good thing it happened before things got more serious like engagement or marriage. That's when you realize that the next time you'll take time to get to know the other person. There's no hurry. If he is serious about his relationship with you, he'll stay.
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