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Getting laughed at for being Christian

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Hey everyone!

A few days ago I was chatting to some of my closest friends, who know Im a Christian. They started Mocking God, Jesus and the Bible, and also me for believing in "fairy tales" and it went on and on. I felt really upset, and the worst thing was, I couldnt say anything, I literally froze up, and left.

Do you think I overreacted? I think I should have tried to defend my faith, and I feel really bad that i couldnt speak! I guess I just need a friendly hug :pink:
 

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Hey everyone!

A few days ago I was chatting to some of my closest friends, who know Im a Christian. They started Mocking God, Jesus and the Bible, and also me for believing in "fairy tales" and it went on and on. I felt really upset, and the worst thing was, I couldnt say anything, I literally froze up, and left.

Do you think I overreacted? I think I should have tried to defend my faith, and I feel really bad that i couldnt speak! I guess I just need a friendly hug :pink:


Why do you feel you overreacted?
It was the best thing you could have done.
You should not feel bad, your "closest friends" should be feeling bad though.
Cheer up and praise the Lord for His protection. :)
 
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I think you overreacted a little bit. I mean, if they are your friends you should be able to take what the say as a joke, or reply to them in some way. I'm not judging you though, I just think you shouldn't take it so hard. It isn't a big thing. :)

I also suggest you don't listen to people who say to get new friends. You shouldn't break up over something so small. It is an easy thing to say, but not good advice.
 
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Hey everyone!

A few days ago I was chatting to some of my closest friends, who know Im a Christian. They started Mocking God, Jesus and the Bible, and also me for believing in "fairy tales" and it went on and on. I felt really upset, and the worst thing was, I couldnt say anything, I literally froze up, and left.

Do you think I overreacted? I think I should have tried to defend my faith, and I feel really bad that i couldn't speak! I guess I just need a friendly hug :pink:
You didn't over-react at all!! :hug: :hug:

Given that they are your closest friends I'd address the incident again but make it clear to them that in future your faith is a part of you and means a lot to you and that you were offended by them taking lame potshots at you.

If they care about you then they will take it on board and probably feel bad that they had upset you in the first place.

Big ((:)hug:)))) to you!
 
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I think you overreacted a little bit. I mean, if they are your friends you should be able to take what the say as a joke, or reply to them in some way. I'm not judging you though, I just think you shouldn't take it so hard. It isn't a big thing. :)

I also suggest you don't listen to people who say to get new friends. You shouldn't break up over something so small. It is an easy thing to say, but not good advice.
I'm an anti-theist and I don't think she overreacted. We don't know the content of their jokes but it is important to realise how important Christianity is to devoted Christians. It is the foundation of their life. To have your friends inecessantly mock your beliefs and make you feel stupid for believing in it is not what I would call respectful, at all.*

*Respectful to the person, not the belief.
 
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I think you overreacted a little bit. I mean, if they are your friends you should be able to take what the say as a joke, or reply to them in some way. I'm not judging you though, I just think you shouldn't take it so hard. It isn't a big thing. :)

I also suggest you don't listen to people who say to get new friends. You shouldn't break up over something so small. It is an easy thing to say, but not good advice.

I am surprised at your response. Wouldn't a reasonable person classify the type of behavior displayed by her Friends as bullying? I hardly think that it is empathetic to tell someone that they should respond to bullying by taking it as a joke. Bullies are not confined to adolescents. They come in all ages.
 
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A huge hug miser, its not easy when people make fun of what you believe, i go to college and this girl in class always says jesus c-----, every time she swears, i have been so angry ive wanted to say something but the lord has asked me to leave it in his hands. i dont think you over reacted, i can plainly see you love jesus, he is your friend and saviour and you have a real relationship with him, he loves you and you love him, so it is going to hurt when someone mocks someone you care deeply about, leave it all in his hands, ask him to help you to be able to rise above this. God bless you my sister.
 
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A huge hug miser, its not easy when people make fun of what you believe, i go to college and this girl in class always says jesus c-----, every time she swears, i have been so angry ive wanted to say something but the lord has asked me to leave it in his hands. i dont think you over reacted, i can plainly see you love jesus, he is your friend and saviour and you have a real relationship with him, he loves you and you love him, so it is going to hurt when someone mocks someone you care deeply about, leave it all in his hands, ask him to help you to be able to rise above this. God bless you my sister.

How much more so then, when Miser considered these people as her closest friends, something may have died within her at that moment.
Then silence is a reaction.
What some consider a tragedy may not be for another,
Sometimes silence is powerful.
 
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Hey everyone!

A few days ago I was chatting to some of my closest friends, who know Im a Christian. They started Mocking God, Jesus and the Bible, and also me for believing in "fairy tales" and it went on and on. I felt really upset, and the worst thing was, I couldnt say anything, I literally froze up, and left.

Do you think I overreacted? I think I should have tried to defend my faith, and I feel really bad that i couldnt speak! I guess I just need a friendly hug :pink:

Listen to the words of the Master from Matt 5: 11 - 12;

“Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you."
 
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I'm an anti-theist and I don't think she overreacted. We don't know the content of their jokes but it is important to realise how important Christianity is to devoted Christians. It is the foundation of their life. To have your friends inecessantly mock your beliefs and make you feel stupid for believing in it is not what I would call respectful, at all.*

*Respectful to the person, not the belief.

I know how important it is. I was a strong Christian with non-Christian friends.

I guess I just doubt that it was really mocking, rather than a joke.

I am surprised at your response. Wouldn't a reasonable person classify the type of behavior displayed by her Friends as bullying? I hardly think that it is empathetic to tell someone that they should respond to bullying by taking it as a joke. Bullies are not confined to adolescents. They come in all ages.

I don't know what behaviour was displayed. I'm more inclined to think that because they are her 'close friends' it is more likely to be jokes that she took a little too seriously, rather than bullying. I could be wrong, but I don't think you have any evidence to call it bullying either.

Maybe she should explain what she felt, but leaving her friends because of one incidence seems totally over the top.
 
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I know how important it is. I was a strong Christian with non-Christian friends.

I guess I just doubt that it was really mocking, rather than a joke.



I don't know what behaviour was displayed. I'm more inclined to think that because they are her 'close friends' it is more likely to be jokes that she took a little too seriously, rather than bullying. I could be wrong, but I don't think you have any evidence to call it bullying either.

Maybe she should explain what she felt, but leaving her friends because of one incidence seems totally over the top.

The whole point in Misers post was not about either joking or bullying,
she wrote, "the worst thing is I could not say anything, I froze and left"
not her precise words maybe, check it out in her op.
Also she had a question, Did I over react?
Firstly we should not judge others reactions, but she asked.
It was not her herself they were mocking, but One living inside of her.
Miser being sensitive got a cold feeling come over and left.
When one is on a higher level as she is, is was as if she was looking down on what could be awaiting those who mock the Lord.

All blessings and good to Miser.
 
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Hello Miser, I'm sorry that your friends scoffed at you and I can sympathsize with your situation. I think that the question is, "How is your life going being a follower of our Lord Jesus Christ?" It's my belief that one's life generally goes well with our love and devotion to God and Christ. I wouldn't worry about the scoffers, because they just don't have the spiritual maturity to understand how fulfilling a life of the Spirit actually is. Always maintain your dignity with love and compassion for all. Praying for you!
 
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Been there and know what its like.

I see them for what they are, hypocrites.

They wouldnt dare do it to anyother lifestyle or faith, but feel its okay to do it to Christians.

Just another example of how on the social level its okay to make fun and stereotype Christians, but not anybody else.

You make fun of Atheists, Muslims, hindus, jews, homosexuals, ethnic minorities, etc, you're a "bigot", but to a Christian its "just a laugh"

Man, I've had even neo-pagans laugh at Christians, but then got offended when I responsed against them, even though they do far more "to laugh at", prancing around protest sites, wearing weird clothes, making it up as they go along, pretending to be druids, warlocks, witches etc.
 
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You didn't overreact, you left a situation in which your belief was mocked and attacked. I wouldn't necessarily say you should ditch these people as friends but speak to them, one-on-one if it's easier for you, just explaining how their words and actions made you feel. Everyone is entitled to believe as they wish, theist or non-theist. Here, ***hugs*** I hope that helps. God bless.
 
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Hey everyone!

A few days ago I was chatting to some of my closest friends, who know Im a Christian. They started Mocking God, Jesus and the Bible, and also me for believing in "fairy tales" and it went on and on. I felt really upset, and the worst thing was, I couldnt say anything, I literally froze up, and left.

Do you think I overreacted? I think I should have tried to defend my faith, and I feel really bad that i couldnt speak! I guess I just need a friendly hug :pink:

If your "friends" know you're a Christian and that that's important to you and they mocked your beliefs, anyway, then they're not really your friends. Friends don't do that.
 
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