funeral?

[TheBunniesIsComing]

An older relative of mine who I am close to is dying all of a sudden and it's really hitting me hard. I cried so much when I found out that I actually started throwing up. Anyway, I have no idea how I would pull off going to the funeral when this person actually does die - which may be shortly. I can't even handle crying in front of my family members, let alone in public. Especially if I'm going to start getting sick as well. Is it ok not to go to the funeral because I'm not ready to leave the house yet?

 

[tapero]

An older relative of mine who I am close to is dying all of a sudden and it's really hitting me hard. I cried so much when I found out that I actually started throwing up. Anyway, I have no idea how I would pull off going to the funeral when this person actually does die - which may be shortly. I can't even handle crying in front of my family members, let alone in public. Especially if I'm going to start getting sick as well. Is it ok not to go to the funeral because I'm not ready to leave the house yet?

Hi there, I'm so sorry about your loved one being close to dying. There is no musts for going to funerals. If anyone asks tell them you can't handle the emotions right now. It is okay not to go. I go when I can and don't when I can't. It's okay to have healthy boundaries. You can explain what you would like to or keep it private. It's up to you. God bless you hon, Tapero

 

[Amin]

I know sometimes in a crisis that the last thing someone wants to hear are statements about prayer and God helping.
But i have to stop and take the time to tell you that in both my fathers' and mothers' death, Iwas like a scared rabbit.
I didn't think i could go thru with anything.
I prayed about it, and God literally took away my fear.
I pray the same for you.
Chuck.

 

[jsimms615]

An older relative of mine who I am close to is dying all of a sudden and it's really hitting me hard. I cried so much when I found out that I actually started throwing up. Anyway, I have no idea how I would pull off going to the funeral when this person actually does die - which may be shortly. I can't even handle crying in front of my family members, let alone in public. Especially if I'm going to start getting sick as well. Is it ok not to go to the funeral because I'm not ready to leave the house yet?

I don't think that others have the right to tell you that you must or must not go to a funeral. You should do what feels right for you. I would try later to go to the grave if it is possible simply for closure. Maybe that would give you another chance to say good-bye also.

 

[angelkiss]

My daddy has chronic anxiety, and when his momma and daddy died, he couldn't go to either of their funerals. He said it was best for him to remember them with the memories he has. In a situation like this, I think it depends on the individual, and if someone feels they can't go to the funeral, then I don't think they should force themselves.
Many prayers goin up for you!!
Take care and God bless,
s and es!!

 

[coolman01]

it is always best to remember the person as they are. When my dad died, only 54 years old, he had a constant struggle. In his living will, he didnt even ask for a funeral or anything of that nature. He wanted to be remembered as he was when he was well.

Similar to you, if going to that persons funeral will not help remembering them at their finest stages in life, i dont think its neccessary to go. However, the decision is up to you. You have to think if you will have any regrets if you dont go, and have any regrets if you do go. Outweigh each option and then decide.

 

[TexasGirl06]

An older relative of mine who I am close to is dying all of a sudden and it's really hitting me hard. I cried so much when I found out that I actually started throwing up. Anyway, I have no idea how I would pull off going to the funeral when this person actually does die - which may be shortly. I can't even handle crying in front of my family members, let alone in public. Especially if I'm going to start getting sick as well. Is it ok not to go to the funeral because I'm not ready to leave the house yet?

Hey....
It's just hard.
I am sorry for the loss you are facing.

You will find that there will be many tears at the funeral.
Nobody will think anything of you crying.
Crying is actually very healthy.

But, I certainly do understand your nervousness.

Personally, what helps me.... to not completely loose it at a funeral...is that I release the emotion at home.

Still will cry at the funeral, but it's not the type of cry that is the emotional release. You know....the big tears.

I can't tell from your post if you are a Christian.
Do you have a relationship with Jesus?

Let us know how things are going.
Know that this is a place where you can come and people care about you.

Be Blessed.

 

[beth34]

Hi,

I'm sorry about the situation you are in. I know how it feels to lose a loved one. My dad passed away 3 years ago, and before his death, I couldn't imagine going to his funeral one day; I didn't know how I would handle it. But the Lord gave me peace and comfort that day and I made it through alright. Hopefully you will be able to attend the funeral when the time does come. I know it sounds strange, but some funerals can actually be a blessing to you, as was my dad's. I pray God will give you peace and comfort thru the days ahead. Beth

 

[hischildsindik]

I am so sorry to hear about your (pending) loss of this loved one. Loss is hard and grief can be overwhelming as you know. Just remember, no matter what, your feelings are valid and you have the right to choose to go to the funeral or not. Would it be easier to visit now if you're able, before your loved one dies? Maybe just go to the visitation or wake and take a close friend.

Please, just remember it is your right to choose. I pray you will find comfort during this time and peace with your decision.

 

[i1will1obey1god]

my grandmother died to day when i go to her funeral i'm gonna try and smile because she liked my smile said it made a rainy day sunny so i'm going to try

 

[lavenderskies]

I am so sorry for the losses of both of you. I am praying for you both.
You should pray and do what god leads you to do. YOu only answer to God.