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There seems to be a fundamental quality to things, that no matter where you are in life, God sends challenges to stretch you, to challenge your commitment to your principles, and to challenge you to stand on God's principles rather than your own.

And there always seems to be a cost to standing and a significant cost. If there weren't, then I suppose it wouldn't be a challenge. The real challenge goes down to the core of what you are and what you're about. Either you stand and watch what you thought were your dreams or comforts be destroyed, in favor of principle and relying on God's providence, or you go after your own feelings. If you don't put yourself on the line before God, then you fail the test.

It is the determining step when you step out in what you hope or in self voiding obedience, without promise, counting the cost and accepting it even when others are almost guaranteed stand against you and count you less based on their previous expressions. The cost is sometimes friends, hopes, dreams, self esteem, pride ... in the end you walk with God alone, counting it a blessing beyond reliance when He sends others to walk with you.

In the end facing obedience is a fundamental in character. How important really is obeying God to each of us? And if God's word or God's world is against what you are willing to do? How many people who call themselves Christians will deny themselves? What about you?

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KeilCoppes said:
In the end facing obedience is a fundamental in character. How important really is obeying God to each of us? And if God's word or God's world is against what you are willing to do? How many people who call themselves Christians will deny themselves? What about you?
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Obedience to God is paramount.
Sometime it is hard but hopefully in the end we all do what we know to be correct.

I was engaged to a guy who use to go to church, who use to read the Bible and who use to do Bible studies...at some point it stopped. I knew he had stopped doing those things but it was easier to stay with someone I knew.

In the end I did break it off because I knew in his current state this was not the guy for me.
Not the easiest thing for a never married to do at my age. So I have denied myself a marriage.

I have no idea what the Lord has for me but willing to find out. :clap:
I had to be true to God's principle of not being unequally yoked.
 
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I have denied myself girlfriends before because of difference of religion. This very attractive girl in my 10th, 11th, and 12th grade classes seemed to be interested in me, but I never let it go anywhere because she was catholic. I pointed out certian things to her, but it was her belief, not mine. So I put God before myself there, but man that was hard because becides religion she was everything I was looking for in a girlfriend.
 
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caitlincares said:
Not the easiest thing for a never married to do at my age. So I have denied myself a marriage.

I have no idea what the Lord has for me but willing to find out.
I had to be true to God's principle.....
And that is standing at rock bottom true. Amen.

I made a choice once. It meant that I might never be married because of my serving in the church because women might not want to be involved with someone who was in service for life. And I chose to buy a home locally and commit to serve in the small church I was in, where there are no eligible singles.

And so I may well have denied myself the opportunity for marriage. In the end it is day by day walking one step at a time. What God will have, He will have to His glory and it will be blessed.

In the meantime, I walk. Happiness is a choice. And it is a choice God blesses me to remember. May my simple walk bring glory to Him.

2 Tim 2:11 This is a faithful saying:

For if we died with Him, We shall also live with Him.
12 If we endure, We shall also reign with Him.
If we deny Him, He also will deny us.
13 If we are faithless, He remains faithful;
He cannot deny Himself.​
 
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I've been reading The Problem of Pain by C. S. Lewis, and he cites the main factor of our fall in the fact that we are able to identify ourselves as individual beings; as "I." That makes us choose between ourselves and our creator; our needs over God's plan, even if it seems natural. I guess that's just what we need to try to keep in mind.
 
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caitlincares

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KeilCoppes said:
In the meantime, I walk. Happiness is a choice. And it is a choice God blesses me to remember. May my simple walk bring glory to Him.
It is very important to be content (HAPPY:clap: ) in whatever circumstances we are in.
The Bible also says to praise the Lord with gladness - it does not say unless you are single. :D

[bible]Philippians 4:11[/bible]

[bible]Psalms 100[/bible]
 
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You are right Caitlin,,,,

But might I add that Paul also stated that to some God gives the gift of singleness. Have you ever gave that a thought??? (just asking) I belive that it was in 1 Corinthians 7 somewhere.

Peace
 
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Tenorvoice said:
But might I add that Paul also stated that to some God gives the gift of singleness. Have you ever gave that a thought??? (just asking) I belive that it was in 1 Corinthians 7 somewhere. Peace
Yes, I have thought about that a lot lately. And still am content. :clap:
Here are portions of 1 Corinthians 7 that discuss singleness ...

[bible]1 Corinthians 7:8-11[/bible]
[bible]1 Corinthians 7:25-28[/bible]
[bible]1 Corinthians 7:32-35[/bible]
 
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