Frustration

[FireHammer480]

I have been a Christian for 9 months and I have a problem with getting frustrated. I hate getting/being frustrated. For example today, I am at work and I got frustrated and then I was pulled aside by my boss. He told me that this isn't the first time he has heard of me getting frustrated at work. Now, I work for the Lord and I want to bring glory to Him through my job. But getting frustrated does not bring glory to God. I am not sure how to overcome frustration but I know that Jesus can help me overcome this sin. I want to declare war on frustration. It is robbing me of the peace and joy promised in the bible. Please help. Thanks.

 

[St_Worm2]

Hi FireHammer480, I see you are still pretty new here, so WELCOME TO CF ..

Oh, and HAPPY NEW YEAR too ..

As to your post, why do you become frustrated .. Is it always for the same reason (IOW, is there a pattern to it), or do you become frustrated for different reasons at different times?

Thanks!

--David

 

[Harry3142]

The opposite of frustration is patience. Learn to be patient with yourself, and then you will find yourself becoming more patient with your surroundings.

 

[Peripatetic]

I've been a Christian about as long as I can remember, but I struggle with frustration at work too. Part of it is personality-based. Some people are more laid back and complacent, and others are more easily frustrated. I used to try to overcome it so it would go away, but I've learned that it should be channeled and directed, not eliminated.

It is partially personality based. Some people are more laid back and complacent, while others are more consistently frustrated by the difference between what should be and what is. These feelings can drive innovation, new ideas, and improved efficiency, or they can be counter-productive. The difference is in how the frustration is used. As a manager, I see two types of frustrated employees:

1. The Complainer: someone who often expresses frustration, but rarely brings solutions to the table. While their grievances have truth to them, they don't see the big picture, which may include factors outside of the team's or manager's control.

2. The Fixer: someone who sees the "flaws in the system", but works hard to break down the issues and systematically address those within his/her control, while recommending solutions that others may use. They empathizing with complainers, but they model a positive, "one step at a time" attitude.

It's still a challenge for me... sometimes I slip into Complainer mode, but I try to play the role of Fixer. My bosses always respond much better when I bring solutions rather than complaints.

 

[FireHammer480]

what does the bible say about overcoming frustration?

 

[turned around]

Hi,
It's no longer I that liveth but Christ lives in me. Stop working for the Lord, let him live through you. It's God who wills to do his good pleasure through. We preach Christ after the revelation that he lives through us. That way God is glorified, and you get blessed. Ask Jesus how much he wants to live through you. I think you will be surprised.

Grace to you.

 

[parsley]

Try to stay aware of the expression that's on your face. If you are so focused that there's a scowl, people might react to it as though you're complaining or resentful.

Try stretching your face muscles a little -- I'm serious-- so you're offering smiles to people more often, and you might find people respond more nicely to you, making you less frustrated.

I don't mean that you need to be fake-perky, but to think about how you are perceived. And try to make thoughtful gestures to others. (Not hand gestures, lol.)

 

[vahavtah157]

Be careful not to slip into the dangerous hole of being frustrated with frustration. If you find yourself getting worked up, literally get up, remove yourself from the situation (as best you can), and gain a fresh perspective. I find myself getting frustrated when things fall outside of my expectations. Try anticipating the outcomes that you would find frustrating. You won't be caught off guard. When going to the store to pick up one or two items, we can rightfully expect to slip in and slip out. But when that simplicity is challenged, we can easily fall prey to impatience, anger, and selfishness. But if we enter with the understanding that the store may be busy, only one checkout lane may be open, or that the store might be understaffed, we are more open to being patient, calm, and gracious.

It's hard to say what the Bible says about frustration. I am not so sure it uses that same language, but I agree with Harry. Frustration is the opposite of patience. Find what the Bible says about patience and go from there.

[2Cr 6:4-6 NASB] 4 but in everything commending ourselves as servants of God, in much endurance, in afflictions, in hardships, in distresses, 5 in beatings, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labors, in sleeplessness, in hunger, 6 in purity, in knowledge, in patience, in kindness, in the Holy Spirit, in genuine love...

[Gal 5:22 NASB] 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness...

[Col 3:12 NASB] 12 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;

 

[insurchoftruth]

We all feel frustrated or angry in our lives at times.

What is important dough, is for us not to let our negative emotions, control our thinking, our words and actions. You see, our anger comes from the sinful nature in us. That is why when we let our anger control our words and actions, that leads to sin. Our human anger is like a fire, which destroys everything which it touches. Anger is destructive for relationships, friendships, and marriages.

Two of the fruit of the Holy Spirit in us, are self control and patience. We can control our frustration and a negative emotion, instead of it controlling us.

When you become frustrated or angry, be aware of your negative emotion and label and accept it to yourself. Say to yourself and admit to yourself that you are becoming angry. That is very important. When you become frustrated, pause for a few seconds if possible, without speaking or acting out of anger or frustration. In that way you buy time, and let your logical part of your brain, to take over and to stop the emotional outburst.

You know the saying; 'Count to ten when angry'.

When you pause and do not talk and act when angry, you give yourself time to consider a more logical and better response, than reacting out of emotion.

We always first respond emotionally to an event in our life, before we respond logically, because our emotional part of the brain processes information from our environment and surrounding much faster than our logical part of the brain.

Once you are aware of your feelings of frustration or anger, hold them and keep them inside yourself for a while, until you become calmer.

Once you become calmer, admit and accept to yourself that you are feeling angry or frustrated. Feelings are there in order to be felt. Feel the anger or the frustration in yourself, in order to reduce its impact on you, but at the same time, do not let your anger be projected towards somebody else, because that is when it becomes a sin, because it burns somebody else.

When you become frustrated, try to breathe deeply from your belly, a few times, because it helps you to become calm.

The Epistle of James says that we should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. I believe that it means for us to stop speaking for a few seconds or minutes, when we become angry or frustrated, until we become calmer. Otherwise, whatever we say, would be backed up by our feelings of anger and frustration, and would be communicated to the people around us.

 

[Steeno7]

I have been a Christian for 9 months and I have a problem with getting frustrated. I hate getting/being frustrated. For example today, I am at work and I got frustrated and then I was pulled aside by my boss. He told me that this isn't the first time he has heard of me getting frustrated at work. Now, I work for the Lord and I want to bring glory to Him through my job. But getting frustrated does not bring glory to God. I am not sure how to overcome frustration but I know that Jesus can help me overcome this sin. I want to declare war on frustration. It is robbing me of the peace and joy promised in the bible. Please help. Thanks.

Frustration is a response to something. Perfectionism is a big cause of frustration, especially for new Christians. Having unrealistic expectations for ourselves will frustrate the best of us.

 

[Samaritan Woman]

what does the bible say about overcoming frustration?

Like any sin we commit, our outward behavior is simply a manifestation of what begins in the heart, i.e. motivations such as pride, jealousy, envy, etc. If you go before the Lord with a seeking heart and some type of willingness to listen to His spirit then He will reveal the sinful intents inside. As revealed in Jesus' parables, God's Spirit acts a cleanser to your heart when sin is confessed.

 

[spr]

How is frustration sin? Being frustrated and being angry are similar, and there is a scripture that says be angry and do not sin. So be as disgusted as you like, just don't let it lead you into actual sin.

 

[tturt]

When it happens again, immediately call on the name of Yeshua and ask Him for peace, wisdom, and guidance.

 

[FireHammer480]

Prayers have been answered! I do not get as frustrated anymore. It happens, not but like it did before. I have learned to not be deceived and not listen to the lie.

 

[boogalaboogala]

I have been a Christian for 9 months and I have a problem with getting frustrated. I hate getting/being frustrated. For example today, I am at work and I got frustrated and then I was pulled aside by my boss. He told me that this isn't the first time he has heard of me getting frustrated at work. Now, I work for the Lord and I want to bring glory to Him through my job. But getting frustrated does not bring glory to God. I am not sure how to overcome frustration but I know that Jesus can help me overcome this sin. I want to declare war on frustration. It is robbing me of the peace and joy promised in the bible. Please help. Thanks.

hey, there has got be a trigger that is causing this frustration.. you can't deal with the problem until you tackle the cause of it..
i would suggest maybe keeping a small notebook. and every time you are feeling anything out of the norm. jot it down.. even if it seem like not to much.. also write in the time of the incident. also the time you ate, and what you ate.. also start the log with the time you woke up, and end each day with the time you went to bed..
also keep a second page on the attitudes of everyone that you come into contact with on any given day..
i mean,the more information that you can jot down. the easier it will be to pinpoint something.
in this case information really is power..
i promise you that you will find the source.. then you can get better..
blessings brother..

 

[FireHammer480]

hey, there has got be a trigger that is causing this frustration.. you can't deal with the problem until you tackle the cause of it..
i would suggest maybe keeping a small notebook. and every time you are feeling anything out of the norm. jot it down.. even if it seem like not to much.. also write in the time of the incident. also the time you ate, and what you ate.. also start the log with the time you woke up, and end each day with the time you went to bed..
also keep a second page on the attitudes of everyone that you come into contact with on any given day..
i mean,the more information that you can jot down. the easier it will be to pinpoint something.
in this case information really is power..
i promise you that you will find the source.. then you can get better..
blessings brother..

thank you.

 

[Emmy]

Dear FireHammer480. Love can overcome anything, even Frustration.
In Matthew 22: 35-40: Jesus tells a Lawyer: " The first and great Commandment is: Love God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. The second is like it: Love thy neighbour as thyself." Then Jesus points out: " On these two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." Very important, God wants our Love, freely given and NO tags attached. Matthew 7: 7-10: tells us: " Ask and ye shall receive." We ask for Love and for Joy. Then we thank God, and share all Love and Joy with our neighbour. ( all we know and all we meet, friends and not friends) We keep asking and receiving, we keep thanking God and sharing all Love and Joy with our neighbour. God will see our sincere love and efforts, and God will
approve and Bless us.
A Christian`s great weapon is Love, with love we will overcome all anger and frustration. The Bible tells us to "Repent," and also to "Be Born Again," to become a new being. No more selfishness and being without love for others.
Gradually we will change into the sons and daughter, which God our Heavenly Father wants us to become. People around us will treat us the same as we treat people, to love and care will be our second nature. We might stumble and forget sometimes, but then we ask God to forgive us, and carry on loving and caring. We will enjoy what we are doing, and life will become
enjoyable. Love is very catching, and will always change all to the better.
It might take a bit longer, but Love will always be the Victor. You will change into a new person, NO MORE frustration.
It is definitely worth a trial, FireHammer. I say this with love. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.