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Ever since I was 9 and my mother walked out on us kids and left us with our father I have had bad feelings towards her. When I was 11 we pressed charges against him and my mother got custody of me and my older sis and bro. Well, over the years my mother really wasn't a mother. She was emotionally abusive and wouldn't take me to the doctor (I almost died from a blood disorder), I had to get on her case to put me in school, etc.
Well, last year my mother and I got into a car wreck and she was out of work for about a week. After that she decided she hated her job and just quit. She pretended to have a broken foot as her excuse for leaving work, even though she didn't, and told me she lied to her boss about it. She would not go get another job and we lost our house. We had to put our stuff in storage and move in with my older sister and her husband. The deal was that my mother would get a job and get back on her feet. It's been a year now. And we're still living with my sister.
Now my mother has had this boyfriend for four years now, and he drinks badly, and wears tshirts that say things like "God hates us all", and I was horribly offended. He was causing fights between my mother and I, and was tearing her away from God. I could no longer play my Christian music loud, but he could play his "death metal" music as loud as he wanted.
Things got really bad between my mother and I because of him, and about a month or two ago I told her that my concern was my own well-being, and that she needed to choose either me or him. She chose him. So I decided that I would live with my sister as soon as she moved out. We've still been living with my sister, but my mother did some bad things again.
She had promised me a couple of hundred dollars a few months ago to put towards a car so I can get to school. She gambled that money, then said I was a [expletive deleted] and that I don't need a car. And I could find my own way to school (no buses run from my sister's house to town). Then, she was supposed to give my sister a couple hundred here and there to help pay the bills since she wouldn't move out. In the past two weeks my mother has gambled both her paychecks. She took my brother to the casino, and they lost it all. My mother got "depressed" and started driving wildly on the road when my brother said if she was going to try and kill herself then to let him out first. She took him home then checked herself into the mental hospital.
Here's the catch: my mother does stuff like this all the time, then when my sister tells her that she needs to give her money to help pay for things, and that she needs to start taking responsibility for her children, my mother starts blaming things on her mental disorder (she claims to have one although there is no proof), then threatens to commit suicide (which my oldest brother did in Nov. 2002, so it's a sensitive issue in my family). Then when she does stupid stuff like gamble all her money she runs to the mental hospital so we don't get mad at her.
She has already told me that I am not her daughter, that I'm fat, that I'm sleeping with my teacher's, etc, and so I basically got into it with her and told her not to come crying back to me when her BF beats her up (like my father used to do), and that the minute she walks out that door and leaves she better never come back and try to see me because I want nothing to do with her (my oldest brother did this too).
The thing is, she and my sister were on good terms until this whole issue where she started gambling all her money away. Then my sister's car broke down in another town while she was visiting my uncle, and she called my mom to go pick my brother up from work. My mother screamed and yelled at her on the phone over this, and they got into it pretty bad.
So my sister decided that my mother needed to move out. Now. But she feels bad leaving her without a place to live (even though the mental hospital won't let her live on the streets. The gov't will help or something).
What are we supposed to do? I know God said turn the other cheeck but my mother is taking advantage of my sister and really hurting us kids. She's wasting her money and I'm pretty sure she's doing drugs (I smelled pot on her one day, and she had bloodshot eyes and slurred speech). She's tearing me down mentally--and tearing me away from God. My sister feels bad about making her leave, because Jesus wouldn't put someone out. But what is there to do?
Well, last year my mother and I got into a car wreck and she was out of work for about a week. After that she decided she hated her job and just quit. She pretended to have a broken foot as her excuse for leaving work, even though she didn't, and told me she lied to her boss about it. She would not go get another job and we lost our house. We had to put our stuff in storage and move in with my older sister and her husband. The deal was that my mother would get a job and get back on her feet. It's been a year now. And we're still living with my sister.
Now my mother has had this boyfriend for four years now, and he drinks badly, and wears tshirts that say things like "God hates us all", and I was horribly offended. He was causing fights between my mother and I, and was tearing her away from God. I could no longer play my Christian music loud, but he could play his "death metal" music as loud as he wanted.
Things got really bad between my mother and I because of him, and about a month or two ago I told her that my concern was my own well-being, and that she needed to choose either me or him. She chose him. So I decided that I would live with my sister as soon as she moved out. We've still been living with my sister, but my mother did some bad things again.
She had promised me a couple of hundred dollars a few months ago to put towards a car so I can get to school. She gambled that money, then said I was a [expletive deleted] and that I don't need a car. And I could find my own way to school (no buses run from my sister's house to town). Then, she was supposed to give my sister a couple hundred here and there to help pay the bills since she wouldn't move out. In the past two weeks my mother has gambled both her paychecks. She took my brother to the casino, and they lost it all. My mother got "depressed" and started driving wildly on the road when my brother said if she was going to try and kill herself then to let him out first. She took him home then checked herself into the mental hospital.
Here's the catch: my mother does stuff like this all the time, then when my sister tells her that she needs to give her money to help pay for things, and that she needs to start taking responsibility for her children, my mother starts blaming things on her mental disorder (she claims to have one although there is no proof), then threatens to commit suicide (which my oldest brother did in Nov. 2002, so it's a sensitive issue in my family). Then when she does stupid stuff like gamble all her money she runs to the mental hospital so we don't get mad at her.
She has already told me that I am not her daughter, that I'm fat, that I'm sleeping with my teacher's, etc, and so I basically got into it with her and told her not to come crying back to me when her BF beats her up (like my father used to do), and that the minute she walks out that door and leaves she better never come back and try to see me because I want nothing to do with her (my oldest brother did this too).
The thing is, she and my sister were on good terms until this whole issue where she started gambling all her money away. Then my sister's car broke down in another town while she was visiting my uncle, and she called my mom to go pick my brother up from work. My mother screamed and yelled at her on the phone over this, and they got into it pretty bad.
So my sister decided that my mother needed to move out. Now. But she feels bad leaving her without a place to live (even though the mental hospital won't let her live on the streets. The gov't will help or something).
What are we supposed to do? I know God said turn the other cheeck but my mother is taking advantage of my sister and really hurting us kids. She's wasting her money and I'm pretty sure she's doing drugs (I smelled pot on her one day, and she had bloodshot eyes and slurred speech). She's tearing me down mentally--and tearing me away from God. My sister feels bad about making her leave, because Jesus wouldn't put someone out. But what is there to do?
