Friends to dating?

[unjustwar]

hey i have been friends with this girl i have come to like very much for about 3 months... i would like to tell her how much i like her, but i have no idea how to even say it. how would you go about doing this? stupid question but im struggling with it

 

[GallowSong]

This is sort of a cheap way out but if you talk to enough of her friends about it one of them will take the hint and tell her you like her. If you can get the courage though, just go for it. "I really like you" is a fine way of saying it. (I've been there alot and botched as many times as made it so I have some perspective)
~Gallows

 

[horuhe00]

From experience... girls work with saying things indirectly and rearing things from other friends. ("Ive been talking to him and I think he likes you! Eeep!") Guys are straight forward. Ive learned from bad experience that girls are not guys... even if most of our bodies look the same.

I haven't found the right answer yet, but GallowSong's idea isn't too bad. Then if all else fails, tell her.

 

[GallowSong]

Lol, Sometimes you run into a girl who just can't take a hint and you finally have to whip out the metaphorical mallet of "I like you"
~Gallows

 

[JoshGS55]

It has been my experience you should never wait too long when telling a girl that you like her. I waited for 7 months before telling this girl that i liked her but not before she had already gone out with some other guy for two months and it was a nightmare. However eventually I did ask her out and we have been going out for about five months and our relationship is really great. Anyway you definitely need to tell her soon and try to make the moment when you tell her special not like just one of those after-thought kind of spur-of-the-moment things.

 

[kermit the toad]

You just have to be straight with her. However, you must be aware that the friendship could end if she says no and then feels awkward being around you.

 

[GallowSong]

Amen to that Kermit, I've definitely had some friendships get a lil wierd after a declaration of affection happened. On the bright side nothing negative has lasted more than a few weeks, most people have shorter memories than they think.
~Gallows

 

[DevoutHeiress]

Well,from a girl's point of view,tell her. Because at this point,this guy likes me but he hasn't told me,just by his actions,and well a girl(like myself) would want that guy to tell her straight forward,because then that girl is just wondering. But don't embarrass her in front of ppl,pull her aside and tell her!

 

[Pope Gonzo]

Here's my take: if she likes you, then the longer you wait the longer it is before you can enjoy the relationship. If she doesn't like you, then the longer you wait the more energy you put into your feelings for her that ends up all for naught.

 

[unjustwar]

thats a good point... just let it play out God is in control

 

[desi]

If you think she likes you go for it. If you don't know tell her you feel devastated from a recent breakup but have been asked out by another, cute, girl. Then say, 'I don't know if I should go out with her, cute girl, or you. Wanna go out and x, y, z?' Its a way to play with her emotions a bit, in a cute constructive way which should break some tension.

 

[unjustwar]

im gonna talk to her but .... how... i guess ill just try to pull her aside and tell her how i feel. or is that too random? just randomly say i need to talk to you, then say blah blah ?

 

[Pope Gonzo]

Sometimes, using a really, really, really cheesy pick-up line is a good way of breaking the tension. As weird as it sounds, it (usually) can get her to laugh and start a real conversation.

 

[GallowSong]

If you lean towards melodramatics be cheesy instead, being over dramatic will prolly just freak her out...I dont know that from personal experience...not at all...no really...

 

[DevoutHeiress]

im gonna talk to her but .... how... i guess ill just try to pull her aside and tell her how i feel. or is that too random? just randomly say i need to talk to you, then say blah blah ?

Yeah,that sounds good. I'd appreciate that!

 

[MagicalMerriment]

Best line of all time, I swear, even though it's REALLY hard to come up with; you best write it down so you can remember it:






Hey, <name>, I kinda like you.






Works every time if there's something there to work.

 

[DevoutHeiress]

lol,true

 

[seangoh]

ok i would assume that the both of you have communicated quite regularly all this while over the 3 months. Another aspect about dating is whether you're really committed. Dating is a means to marriage. Are you ready for marriage such that you want to consider her and ask her out? Or do you just like her and so want to ask her out so that she could reciprocate your love? It would be selfish if it's the latter and it would be wise if it's the former. But i know where you're coming from. You like someone, and you want that person to like you back and hopefully both of you will date until you get married. But the thing is, you're still young and there prolly are much better girls out there. I've been in your shoes a couple of times and each time i think "She MUST be THE ONE". And it gets funny coz it means throughout my life there is more than 1 girl that is THE ONE. Yeah, so lesson that i learnt is, until i'm truly ready for marriage, i'll start dating. I hate to be pressured to ask a girl out because of the thought that if i don't ask her out, then other guys would. I believe there are many girls out there. And while i'm single, i'll pick up some skills that would be useful to my partner.

JMHO

 

[unjustwar]

that helped alot thanks...