I already posted this is in the advice column, but not many people answered and I was wanted to hear some other people's thoughts on this:
Second year at college (Last year) I met a girl in my suite and we were best friends. I was so happy because I had been praying for God to give me new friends because of what had happened with my old friends. She had been praying for new friends too because she had just come out of a bad relationship. We talked about everything and she told me everything that had happened with her relationship and how she had gone against her parents and had no friends etc. She also told me that she used to be on fire for God, but this whole thing with her boyfriend had really gotter her away from God and she wasn't sure if she wanted to give up everythin and turn back to God yet. I prayed so hard for her everynight because I cared and I knew God had a special plan for her. Over Christmas break my prayers were answered and she got her life back on track with God. Well later on the second semester of that year she met a guy. She didn't want to date him,but she would stay up late at night talking to him and hang out with him all the time etc. I didn't mind that she found a guy, but it hurt that she pushed me aside for him. I have a boyfriend and we would always include her with us because she didn't have many friends and usually ahd no one to eat meals with etc. So we always invited her to come with us and tried not to make her feel like a third wheel. Well at the same time she met this guy she started getting this independent attitude, like she could do whatever she wanted and that she didn't need anyone's help. She started pushing all her friends away including me and was very rude. She would be upset about her grades, but I couldn't feel sorry for her because evry spare second was spent talking to him not studying and I tried to lovingly point that out to her. Everyone else around her noticed the difference and I don't know if it was the guy that was making her change or not. I do know that everything she did, sounded like what she had described to me when she was telling about her ex boyfriend. She treated people the same way etc. but she just didn't see it. Well I would get mad and she didnt understand and I would apologize over and over wanting to make it right thinking it had to be my fault somehow. The last week before school was out I decided that no matter what I was not going to get upset that I was just going to be nice because it was the ed of the semester and I wanted to end on a good note. Well the last night she called me up and wanted to go to dinner with me and my boyfriend she said that since she hadn't really spent that much time with me she wanted to make it up etc. So we went to dinner and the guy she had been talking to was working there that night. She picked at her food then got up brought all her food over and went to talk to him for the whole meal. I was upset, but i figured she would come back in a few minuted but she didnt so when me and my boyfriend were finished eating i walked over and told her we were leaving. She asked why we couldn't wait or her and I was just so mad I walked away. She refused to talk to me and that night I was discussing everything with my roommate just frustrated and crying fed uo with everything and trying to fix our friendship. Well I guess I was too loud because the next day her roommate said that she heard everything i said and was crying. But that day everyone left and she never even said goodbye or anything she just left. I just feel so bad for everything, but at the same time I don't want to be the one apolpgizing for everything again. I really don't think I did anything to apologize for and I don't want to just to have her do the same thing again. She doesn't even think she did anything. A mutual friend of ours thinks we should try talking again, but my boyfriend thinks its a bad idea because he doesn't want to see me hurt again and i talked to my mom about it and she thinks I should leave it alone too. I have lost my only best friend and I want to make it right but at the same time I am stubborn and think that she needs to call and make it right with me. I don't know what to do I put so much into our friendship only to have it thrown in my face. If someone could please give me advice I could really use it. thanks and sorry if this seems to be all about the drama i didn't mean it to come across that way and jsut need direciton on what to do. It has been all summer now and we haven't talked at all.
Second year at college (Last year) I met a girl in my suite and we were best friends. I was so happy because I had been praying for God to give me new friends because of what had happened with my old friends. She had been praying for new friends too because she had just come out of a bad relationship. We talked about everything and she told me everything that had happened with her relationship and how she had gone against her parents and had no friends etc. She also told me that she used to be on fire for God, but this whole thing with her boyfriend had really gotter her away from God and she wasn't sure if she wanted to give up everythin and turn back to God yet. I prayed so hard for her everynight because I cared and I knew God had a special plan for her. Over Christmas break my prayers were answered and she got her life back on track with God. Well later on the second semester of that year she met a guy. She didn't want to date him,but she would stay up late at night talking to him and hang out with him all the time etc. I didn't mind that she found a guy, but it hurt that she pushed me aside for him. I have a boyfriend and we would always include her with us because she didn't have many friends and usually ahd no one to eat meals with etc. So we always invited her to come with us and tried not to make her feel like a third wheel. Well at the same time she met this guy she started getting this independent attitude, like she could do whatever she wanted and that she didn't need anyone's help. She started pushing all her friends away including me and was very rude. She would be upset about her grades, but I couldn't feel sorry for her because evry spare second was spent talking to him not studying and I tried to lovingly point that out to her. Everyone else around her noticed the difference and I don't know if it was the guy that was making her change or not. I do know that everything she did, sounded like what she had described to me when she was telling about her ex boyfriend. She treated people the same way etc. but she just didn't see it. Well I would get mad and she didnt understand and I would apologize over and over wanting to make it right thinking it had to be my fault somehow. The last week before school was out I decided that no matter what I was not going to get upset that I was just going to be nice because it was the ed of the semester and I wanted to end on a good note. Well the last night she called me up and wanted to go to dinner with me and my boyfriend she said that since she hadn't really spent that much time with me she wanted to make it up etc. So we went to dinner and the guy she had been talking to was working there that night. She picked at her food then got up brought all her food over and went to talk to him for the whole meal. I was upset, but i figured she would come back in a few minuted but she didnt so when me and my boyfriend were finished eating i walked over and told her we were leaving. She asked why we couldn't wait or her and I was just so mad I walked away. She refused to talk to me and that night I was discussing everything with my roommate just frustrated and crying fed uo with everything and trying to fix our friendship. Well I guess I was too loud because the next day her roommate said that she heard everything i said and was crying. But that day everyone left and she never even said goodbye or anything she just left. I just feel so bad for everything, but at the same time I don't want to be the one apolpgizing for everything again. I really don't think I did anything to apologize for and I don't want to just to have her do the same thing again. She doesn't even think she did anything. A mutual friend of ours thinks we should try talking again, but my boyfriend thinks its a bad idea because he doesn't want to see me hurt again and i talked to my mom about it and she thinks I should leave it alone too. I have lost my only best friend and I want to make it right but at the same time I am stubborn and think that she needs to call and make it right with me. I don't know what to do I put so much into our friendship only to have it thrown in my face. If someone could please give me advice I could really use it. thanks and sorry if this seems to be all about the drama i didn't mean it to come across that way and jsut need direciton on what to do. It has been all summer now and we haven't talked at all.
