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[Jesusluver07]

Heyy everyone!
Im fairly new to this site... (fairly well I guess if you'd count ten minutes ago as fairly then Im all set lol).. Well I saw this link and decided to post... See my best friend in the whole world has been struggling with her weight alot latly... After reading some of these posts Im unsure whether to confront her and talk to her or not... I know that she isnt eating brekfast or lunch.. but she says that shes eating supper or at least a lil of it and keeping it.. but anyone with eyes can tell that shes lost alot of weight... If she is eating sum supper is it still an ed... and should i tlak to her...

 

[BrokenForHim]

hmm its a hard one...it sounds like she def. has food issues...maybe try talking to her just letting her know that your worried about her..don't be to hard about it though because she will most likely take it very badly...wish I was more help..praying for the both of you

 

[Soulwings]

I'm glad that you've taken advantage of this board to ask for help. And for asking for help at all; it shows that you care for your friend a great deal.

Yes, even if she still is eating some supper, it could be an ED. Even for it to be anorexia nervosa, the medical diagnosis, meeting all the criteria, it doesn't mean that the person stops eating entirely. An ED with anorexic tendencies just tends toward massive cutting back on the caloric intake, and it sounds like that's what she's doing.

I'm not a professional, though, nor do I know your friend or her habits, so that's just my opinion. However, I would confront her about it, as tough as that may be, because her health is extremely important. Does anyone else in her life know about this? (i.e., parents, pastor/mentor, teachers, etc.)

Best of luck. And know that I'm here if you've got any questions about EDs or anything like that.

 

[bumblebee62331]

You shouldn't have to deal with this on your own. This means you should try to find someone else you TRUST to tell - like your parents, or your priest, or a counsellor, or a school teacher. Your friend might be angry at first - but as it's been said before - she needs the help if she does have an eating disorder and eventually she will see that you only care about her and want her to be healthy and happy.

You could try to talk to her about it but don't pretend that you understand (she will get defensive) and don't attack her. Just bring it up, maybe talking about someone else you think might have a problem (famous or at your school) and see her reaction. She's lucky to have a friend like you who cares about her enough to start this thread.

 

[Jesusluver07]

Heyy guys,
Thanks for all of your advice.. Im going to try to take sum of it today... But I do have one more question that I didnt post the first time because I wasnt sure quite how far in detail I should go... Last year I know for a fact that she was cutting herself on her arms and stuff and I did eventually talk to a guidance counselor at our school about it... She called her mother who freaked out on her... Is there a way that these could be linked...like maybe she just went from one to the other like to cope with stuff or something? Does that happen? She a cool person when all this stuff isnt going on but right now im pretty worried...

 

[bumblebee62331]

Cutting herself isn't good but sometimes it goes hand-in-hand with an eating disorder. Is she still cutting herself? It's important that you tell someone about that because she could cut herself badly and get into a bit of trouble with her safety. Also, she needs therapy to figure out why she is cutting herself and what she can do to stop. It is normal for her mum to freak out, but she does need support and encouragement, not blame and anger, so please talk to someone about it only if you trust them to help her get help, and not get angry because they don't understand.

As I said earlier it's a lot of responsibility on your shoulders, so you need to share what you know with people who can take that responsibility from you.

 

[blankgirl]

pray! pray for wisdom on how to handle this issue.