Former courter is back....HELP!!!

[Equineartchick]

I have a...dilemma? I met a guy online a few months back and we got along great. I never met him in person, and we ended up breaking off the courtship, and just being friends. Not long afterwards, he just stopped talking to me. I had gotten over him, not even sure if he is the right guy for me...and now suddenly he has started talking again. I was mad at first and asked him why he didn't talk to me, and he says he was too busy with school. I don't believe that though, he could have texted me or emailed me anytime! Now he is being really nice again and calling me pet names and stuff...I just don't know what to do! I don't know how I feel about him at all, it's very confusing- especially since we've never met in person. What do you guys suggest? We really had hit it off before, although I don't really find his pictures attractive, hate to say it...I don't know....is it worth another shot? Or should I just not talk to him...? arg....

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

First off, pray about it. Secondly, tell him to back off, at least until you get your feelings sorted out. If he stopped talking to you, and then all of a sudden is,and started using pet names I'd think something was up. School isn't a legitimate excuse really to have no contact. If he really wanted to continue in a friendship he would have text or email you in his free time. I find it hard to believe that he was constantly "hitting the books." I highly doubt that. I totally see why you are upset. Tell him you want him to keep it purely as a friendship and nothing more, at least at this point. You need to tell him though. He won't just get it more than likely. Tell him exactly what you want. If he wants to continue the relationship he will wait, and be patient. I am always hesitant to say that someone doesn't care if they do or don't do something, but it can certainly come across that way. Now that I've said way more than I meant to. I hope this helps some. Feel free to PM or IM me!

 

[Equineartchick]

Well I only just sent him the email....I asked him what was going on and I made it clear I wasn't comfortable with the change in him. Now I guess I have to wait for his response, and the waiting is the worst I think....

 

[SimplyUnique]

First off, pray about it. Secondly, tell him to back off, at least until you get your feelings sorted out. If he stopped talking to you, and then all of a sudden is,and started using pet names I'd think something was up. School isn't a legitimate excuse really to have no contact. If he really wanted to continue in a friendship he would have text or email you in his free time. I find it hard to believe that he was constantly "hitting the books." I highly doubt that. I totally see why you are upset. Tell him you want him to keep it purely as a friendship and nothing more, at least at this point. You need to tell him though. He won't just get it more than likely. Tell him exactly what you want. If he wants to continue the relationship he will wait, and be patient. I am always hesitant to say that someone doesn't care if they do or don't do something, but it can certainly come across that way. Now that I've said way more than I meant to. I hope this helps some. Feel free to PM or IM me!

I agree! just take it slow till you sort out your feelings

 

[ChildOfGod20]

is he someone that you REALLY want to "hit it off" with? i mean, he just stopped talking to you, you said u aren't even sure if he's the right guy for u, and you said u don't find his pics attractive.....do u really feel drawn to him? maybe u should just keep talking to him but casually. and tell him to back off if u feel he's coming on too strong now.

 

[pegatha]

is he someone that you REALLY want to "hit it off" with? i mean, he just stopped talking to you, you said u aren't even sure if he's the right guy for u, and you said u don't find his pics attractive.....do u really feel drawn to him?

Good points. You don't care for his looks, and you don't care for the way he treats you, so what is the attraction? I think you could do better than an online relationship with a stranger you don't really even seem to like that much.