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Forgiving Severe Alienation And Abuse?

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Forgiveness is like peeling an onion.

You peel and peel and you cry and cry--and then there's another layer.

It's just the way it is.

You should also make an act of the will to forgive the person and wrong. Then pray that your emotions will catch up with what you know should be the truth.
 
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Forgiveness is always conditional on repentance.
Our example is Jesus being crucified. He didn't forgive his murders but commited them to God, asking him to forgive them.

We should do the same where an offender does not, cannot repent. Commit them, our hurt etc to God for him to deal with.
 
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How do I forgive this?


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Forgiveness is the ultimate revenge.

Why?

It frees you from the pain and puts everything on the abuser. Just because you have forgiven them doesn't mean they have forgiven themselves and/or asked you and God for forgiveness. God is easy to get forgiveness from. The wronged party is a lot harder. But, to forgive oneself is the hardest thing a person can do.

What if your abuser(s) are dead? Doesn't matter.

If you truly want to heal, forgive them. Write them a letter telling them what they did to you, how they made you feel, the aftermath...and unconditionally forgive them. Everything is now on them. They have to do all the work themselves.

It is power.

What's the most powerful thing a Governor/President can do? Pardon someone.
 
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