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Forgiveness
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gottabemore2life
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From being on both sides of the situation, I would say it really just depends. I am eternally greatful that my boyfriend forgave me! And I have forgiven past bf's as well. I think people do make mistakes and it shouldn't be a "3 strikes and you're out!" thing. If they are truly sorry, I believe it won't take but once. But I could be wrong.
Speaking literally though, you should ALWAYS forgive... just maybe not forget for the sake of protecting your heart.
Speaking literally though, you should ALWAYS forgive... just maybe not forget for the sake of protecting your heart.
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well we're commanded as christians to always forgive but there's nothing saying you have to stay with that person if they cheat on you even once. It depends entirely on whether or not you think you can trust them to stay faithful after cheating on you.
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HopeFaithLove4u
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Just once....if they can't learn from their 'first' mistake, they will make the same mistake over and over.
Agreed, for the sake of forgivness.....forgive them, so YOU can move on and it's the 'Christian thing' to do.
But move on with your life or if it's not you, tell the person to move on with their life.
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Perfectly said! Exactly what I was going to stay.
I can forgive somneone, and also choose not to be hurt by them again.
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xXxKristaxXx
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I was cheated on before many many times but I didnt know about it until it was too late. At least you know, if you are positive the person will never cheat again (which usually isnt likely) but most of the time if they have done it once, they will do it again because they think "she'll forgive me" or "I dont have to tell her" and later on you find out and it's too late also.
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it depends on the person. when someone cheats even once they don't automatically deserve a second chance it just depends if, after they've betrayed your trust like that, you can trust them never to do it again.
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I just don't believe the cliche "once a cheater, always a cheater" is very fair at all. I am living proof it's not true. It's just like any other stereotype.
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Cheating, like any sin issue, is a matter of the heart. Real change comes from an honest recognition of how wrong something is and a concerted effort to change. It's fine to forgive, but sometimes that only feeds bad behaviour by lessing the immediate consequences. It's an individual choice depending on your assessment of where he is at.
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
If someone cheats on me that's the end of it. That doesn't mean I can't forgive them in my heart, but I am absolutely not sticking around for it to happen again. I feel the same way about abuse. You hit me once, and I am gone.
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What JohnNZ said.
If someone asks for forgiveness you, as one who is forgiven by God would be completely ungrateful if you did not forgive. However this doesn't mean the relationship HAS to continue. I am still always convinced that any situation can be worked out and healed by God if both people are willing to give everything they have.
But on a side note, I think that its interesting that God forgives us when we cheat on him. Check out the book of Hosea on this topic.
If someone asks for forgiveness you, as one who is forgiven by God would be completely ungrateful if you did not forgive. However this doesn't mean the relationship HAS to continue. I am still always convinced that any situation can be worked out and healed by God if both people are willing to give everything they have.
But on a side note, I think that its interesting that God forgives us when we cheat on him. Check out the book of Hosea on this topic.
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
See if it was in a marriage I might be more willing to try to work things out but not if it was just a boyfriend girlfriend thing. I don't believe in premarital sex so at least in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship I wouldn't be exposed to potentially getting STD's. However, I wouldn't want to marry somebody that cheated on me because if I married them and they cheated on me that could endanger my health and even potentially my children's health if I had any.
In a marriage my reaction would depend on a lot of things, like how long he took to tell me and whether or not he had unprotected sex with me BEFORE telling me he had sex with some other woman. If he endangered my health by not telling me he cheated I would frankly be psycho-mad at him and that would be the end of us. I would forgive him, eventually, but I would not endanger my own health by continuing to have a sex life with somebody I couldn't trust to consider my health.
In a marriage my reaction would depend on a lot of things, like how long he took to tell me and whether or not he had unprotected sex with me BEFORE telling me he had sex with some other woman. If he endangered my health by not telling me he cheated I would frankly be psycho-mad at him and that would be the end of us. I would forgive him, eventually, but I would not endanger my own health by continuing to have a sex life with somebody I couldn't trust to consider my health.
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2LivIsChrist
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agreed. You should always forgive someone. Forgiving is forgetting what they done and letting go. By not forgetting it will only effect you and not that other person. Yet, that doesn't mean you have to trust them and stay with them. Trust builds over a period of time.
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Beautiful Fireball
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A cheat should be forgiven everytime, but that doesn't mean that they should be allowed back.
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