Forever Single?

[paul123]

I know that God has great things in store for me. However, I somehow get the feeling that I am going to be single forever. I know what you are thinking. "I just read how old this guy is, he has got some learing to do." More and more, I am starting to believe that I am going to have to wait a long time before I am happy with some one. That I am going to have to go through some sort of life journey again before God will put the right person in my life (and I am waiting on His time). It is just that, I don't want to wait. I am putting my full confidence in the fact that God will keep me and he just is seeing how long I can take it. I just get the feeling that he is going to be keeping me for a long long time.

I am wrong for thinking that He is making me unhappy because I am trying to do His will.

 

[BoarderDave]

Lol... you read my mind. I totally read the first two sentences, glanced at the age and went, "Oh no no.. only 22, man." Then read the rest.

No worries mate. Seriously, focus on your life and living for Him. Focus on family, friends, loved ones, hobbies, everything else. Just enjoy what you have. And He will cross your path with someone special.

Just like those lost items at home, as soon as you aren't looking for it, you'll find it.

 

[Im_A]

I know that God has great things in store for me. However, I somehow get the feeling that I am going to be single forever. I know what you are thinking. "I just read how old this guy is, he has got some learing to do." More and more, I am starting to believe that I am going to have to wait a long time before I am happy with some one. That I am going to have to go through some sort of life journey again before God will put the right person in my life (and I am waiting on His time). It is just that, I don't want to wait. I am putting my full confidence in the fact that God will keep me and he just is seeing how long I can take it. I just get the feeling that he is going to be keeping me for a long long time.

I am wrong for thinking that He is making me unhappy because I am trying to do His will.

i have the same sentiments kind of as BoarderDave. i wouldn't be too worried about it...especially at our young age. just because you don't have something now, that doesn't mean you'll have it in the future, doesn't mean you'll have it in the future either, but there's no sense in making a judgement for the future at this time in your life.

one thing a pastor that has known my family now for several years recently told me when he asked about my ex , when my mom and i went him to with our family problems was, "well, when a chapter ends in your life, a new chapter begins." focus on the new chapter that is beginning in your life now instead of the feelings of the past chapters ending and knowing that those chapters are over.

 

[SonicBOOM]

I know that God has great things in store for me. However, I somehow get the feeling that I am going to be single forever. I know what you are thinking. "I just read how old this guy is, he has got some learing to do." More and more, I am starting to believe that I am going to have to wait a long time before I am happy with some one. That I am going to have to go through some sort of life journey again before God will put the right person in my life (and I am waiting on His time). It is just that, I don't want to wait. I am putting my full confidence in the fact that God will keep me and he just is seeing how long I can take it. I just get the feeling that he is going to be keeping me for a long long time.

I am wrong for thinking that He is making me unhappy because I am trying to do His will.

personally I think if someone's called to be single a sign of it is losing the desire to be with someone. This seems to be the single most trait of people who are called to life-long singlehood. My favorite passage in scripture regarding this is this one.


Matthew 19:11

11[regarding marrege]Jesus replied, "Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. 12For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; others were made that way by men; and others have renounced marriage[c]because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it."


so we see here that those who are called to be single are those who lose the desire for marrege. The ones who have the desire can and should marry someone, for this is God's will that the 2 become 1.

 

[joanna1]

I know that God has great things in store for me. However, I somehow get the feeling that I am going to be single forever. I know what you are thinking. "I just read how old this guy is, he has got some learing to do." More and more, I am starting to believe that I am going to have to wait a long time before I am happy with some one. That I am going to have to go through some sort of life journey again before God will put the right person in my life (and I am waiting on His time). It is just that, I don't want to wait. I am putting my full confidence in the fact that God will keep me and he just is seeing how long I can take it. I just get the feeling that he is going to be keeping me for a long long time.

I am wrong for thinking that He is making me unhappy because I am trying to do His will.

Well, sorry to offer no encouragement... but I think I've had those thoughts since the age of 12 and unfortunately life has proved them to be all too true...

I've worked on myself so hard to hope, change my attitude, pray for someone to come into my life, go out of my way to be in the right places at the right time without looking desperate... but reality keeps catching up.
Sorry to be so negative, but the way you formulated it totally struck a chord with my unfortunate perception of life.

 

[Luther073082]

You people are depressing me with your negative energy.

I don't need to start thinking like you do.

 

[Trashionista]

What's so bad about being single though?

There are lots of great things & lifestyles that don't include marriage.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

What's so bad about being single though?

There are lots of great things & lifestyles that don't include marriage.

yes I agree, but then it being single isn't for everyone.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

You people are depressing me with your negative energy.

I don't need to start thinking like you do.

Well maybe you should spread your positivity around and post a "feel good" thread.

 

[joanna1]

That is entirely subjective.
I'm glad you enjoy singleness.... great for you!
I don't I don't enjoy not having a home - as in I have no reason to live any specific place in the world. I have never had any dream of a career - I've tried that route and find it thouroughly empty and unsatisfactory. I' ve done the "single" things - extensive travel, study ect... I'm only 26 and I feel like the novelty has long warn off. I always kind of did them out of moral obligation anyway, because that's what people appear to expect out of singles.
I have interests, try to invest my time usefully - but I feel sad, and unable to pursue my dreams - because they all involve a family.

 

[Trashionista]

yes I agree, but then it being single isn't for everyone.

Well, if there aren't any suitors or potential wives on the horizon, why focus on that? Why not focus on what one can do while single?

And the majority of women will outlive men. So, when were 80, singleness will come back around. Might as well learn to enjoy it now.

 

[joanna1]

Well, if there aren't any suitors or potential wives on the horizon, why focus on that? Why not focus on what one can do while single?

And the majority of women will outlive men. So, when were 80, singleness will come back around. Might as well learn to enjoy it now.

If things were that simple!
I've devoted so much life energy into trying to feel good about my singleness that the prospect of having to pursue this draining activity for the rest of my existence is completely depressing.

 

[Trashionista]

If things were that simple!
I've devoted so much life energy into trying to feel good about my singleness that the prospect of having to pursue this draining activity for the rest of my existence is completely depressing.

I'd much rather be single for the rest of my life than stay in a bad marriage because I felt pressured into getting married.

The grass isn't greener everywhere. The grass is the same shade of green everywhere. You can have fun in marriage or singlehood.

 

[joanna1]

sorry double post

 

[joanna1]

I'd much rather be single for the rest of my life than stay in a bad marriage because I felt pressured into getting married.

The grass isn't greener everywhere. The grass is the same shade of green everywhere. You can have fun in marriage or singlehood.

I know all to well marriage is often difficult - but at least I'd be fighting a battle I believed in. Single life sucks, it just does. So if it's going to suck anyway, might as well suck with a few cool bits thrown in.
As for having fun in singlehood - that's great for you. I do my best - but honestly the supposedly fun stuff singles get to do has never really been appealing to me.

 

[gottabemore2life]

I know that God has great things in store for me. However, I somehow get the feeling that I am going to be single forever. I know what you are thinking. "I just read how old this guy is, he has got some learing to do." More and more, I am starting to believe that I am going to have to wait a long time before I am happy with some one. That I am going to have to go through some sort of life journey again before God will put the right person in my life (and I am waiting on His time). It is just that, I don't want to wait. I am putting my full confidence in the fact that God will keep me and he just is seeing how long I can take it. I just get the feeling that he is going to be keeping me for a long long time.

I am wrong for thinking that He is making me unhappy because I am trying to do His will.

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NIV)

Have faith, brother. If you really trusted in God's plan for you, I don't think you would have any doubt that He knows what's best. You may question it still, but sometimes we just have to say: "Alright God, I don't know why, but alright."

 

[2scoops]

Jesus said that it is God's will that what is done in heaven, should be done here on earth. God wants obedience, love, fogiveness, belief and trust in Him, you to seek Him with all your HEART. Pray without ceasing, and seek truth. Forgive others as God has forgiven you. If you are truly doing this, than I believe God will and wants to grant you the desires of your heart.

Satan is the one who is throwing the darts at you, the you'll never get married, your not God enough, etc. God is the creator of marriage, and it is good, and a wife, is a good thing, because God has created them. Satan wants us to feel the oppossite, and his will is the oppossite of God's. When we learn to recognize where the thoughts come from, we can learn to discern truth.

God, Jesus = love, peace, joy, comfort, truth

Satan, = anger, hate, unhappiness, no peace, lies and evil

 

[SonicBOOM]

Jesus said that it is God's will that what is done in heaven, should be done here on earth. God wants obedience, love, fogiveness, belief and trust in Him, you to seek Him with all your HEART. Pray without ceasing, and seek truth. Forgive others as God has forgiven you. If you are truly doing this, than I believe God will and wants to grant you the desires of your heart.

your confusing God with the ideas of the household gods of ancient pagens. there's nothing we can do to obligate God to bless us. He blesses us by grace and he always does what is best for us. Not by anything we do.... but by what he himself chooses to do within his timing.

I'm sorry.... but ideas like this are just a pet peave of mine. don't forget Job. He followed God with all his heart and as a result he had all that stuff stripped from him.

 

[Annova]

You people are depressing me with your negative energy.

I don't need to start thinking like you do.

I agree.

 

[JPPT1974]

I look at it if God wants me to stay single
Or not as being single I love being
Independent and lucky!