Is there anybody here, who doesn't want to get married? Well,maybe not stay single forever, but for the near future? Do you think that's possible? To stay single forever or are we all destined to be married?
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Forever Single
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PennylessZ28
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I need someone, I can feel it. I dont' like being single.
Would be nice to find someone I could fall deeply in love with, who want be a nut job, but thats for another thread
Would be nice to find someone I could fall deeply in love with, who want be a nut job, but thats for another thread
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Katty
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We as humans have been created for relationships. Adam was first created to have a relationship with God and when Eve came along, she was to be with Adam and thats just how it is. *grins* no complaints here about needing someone. I don't believe that all people will get married, but there will be those who become called to serve 100% and will stay single. For me personally, I want to get married and settle down, but I'm also realizing that faith is not the belief that God will do what I want, but faith is the belief that God will do what is right. There's a difference. For the time being, I'm single for a reason. *shrugs* Sure you get lonely, but God's using this time for me to actually seek Him out to be my prince or "stable boy" (hehehe WP). In time, whether my other half is here already or is still out there, I'll pray for him. *sigh*
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~Katty~
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Risen Tree
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Every time I sit down and ponder my life, I really don't see how else it could turn out other than being bonded for life to a significant other.
And I would have it no other way.
And I would have it no other way.
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I am grateful for my single life and deathly afraid of making a decision to commit to someone who might turn out to be one of those husbands that kills their wife and children. The prospect of marriage is the scariest thing I can think of. If the Lord were to choose for me then I could have confidence that I am were I am suppose to be and would never give up trying to make my marriage to, my, God chosen husband, work. I have been alone all of my life. (47years) There have been few friends and fewer that kept in touch. I have grown content to dwell just as I am. Still, If God does the choosing, I would eagerly accept his blessing.
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I think I will eventually have a man to love for all my life but for now God hasn't shown me who. I used to think I was happy being single but not anymore. I see everyone around me getting married and yet here I am, still living at home and not even dating. How boring is that? However I know that right now the man has designed for me is not near me. At some point in time GOd will find a way to bring us together the way he wants. Is it wrong to hope it is soon though?
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nope I need a boy friend lol ok i dont NEED one but... i cant seem to concentrate with out having a boyfriend to keep me company or to keep me safe hleheh
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sunshine
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I used to think that I'd get married, but now I'm not so sure. I find myself growing more and more independent, and I honestly can't imagine being with someone 24/7 and sharing everything. I hope this doesn't come across as selfish, because that is not my intention. It's just that the more I think about it, I don't believe I'm meant to be married.
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I will never be married. After all my research on the end times and other topics that relate to our times I can never be married. Marriage brings forth children which would be a cruel thing to do knowing we are nearing huge global cataclysms.
make a family just to die in a few years? might as well stay alone.
make a family just to die in a few years? might as well stay alone.
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Hmmmmm. Marriage...My thoughts...As a christian you only have one chance to get it right. Sure you can date or court many different girls, but you won't truly know them untill your married to them. And what about your reputation if you "play the field"? So you realy gotta seek God about who you should marry. Because its basicly a **** shoot if you don't. Don't belive me? Look at the divorse statistics.
Another thing, many people don't understand love. Its not an emotion, its dedication and careing, the emotion is just a byproduct.
People change throughout their lives, and it takes 2+1 for a marrige to survive. Two individules who come together to seek the lord together through out their lives, this takes EFFORT.
Men seem to take all the blame in marriage and failed marriage. But I belive for every dead beat Dad there is also a horrible wife. I know so many husbands who let their wifes walk all over them. One man I will not name has a wife who won't let him go anywhere by himself or have any friends, male or female.
So what happens when you marry miss sweetheart, and then she turns on you? All of a sudden nothing you do is good enough for her and she constetly call you names and demeans you. Proverbs says..."it is better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrlesome wife" so you move into the basement, and then she takes the kids and divorses you. O.K. now what? You cannot remarry untill she kicks the bucket so to speak or else its adultery.
So you really only get one chance to get it right.
No I'm not bitter, just worried I'll screw up my life by marrying the wrong woman.
Another thing, many people don't understand love. Its not an emotion, its dedication and careing, the emotion is just a byproduct.
People change throughout their lives, and it takes 2+1 for a marrige to survive. Two individules who come together to seek the lord together through out their lives, this takes EFFORT.
Men seem to take all the blame in marriage and failed marriage. But I belive for every dead beat Dad there is also a horrible wife. I know so many husbands who let their wifes walk all over them. One man I will not name has a wife who won't let him go anywhere by himself or have any friends, male or female.
So what happens when you marry miss sweetheart, and then she turns on you? All of a sudden nothing you do is good enough for her and she constetly call you names and demeans you. Proverbs says..."it is better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrlesome wife" so you move into the basement, and then she takes the kids and divorses you. O.K. now what? You cannot remarry untill she kicks the bucket so to speak or else its adultery.
So you really only get one chance to get it right.
No I'm not bitter, just worried I'll screw up my life by marrying the wrong woman.
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Pope Gonzo
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Actually, this week at Intervarsity, the speakers talked about relationships. One point really stuck out in my head:
It's more important to be God's best for her(or him), than to find God's best for you. Concentrate on being the man or woman of God that he wants you to be, and leave the rest up to God
It's more important to be God's best for her(or him), than to find God's best for you. Concentrate on being the man or woman of God that he wants you to be, and leave the rest up to God
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catch22
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I definatley want to get married, although whether that will actually happen or not seems to be up in the air somewhat...It's strange, because I've basically been single my whole life, and I look at those around me, and they're either married already or getting married soon. Hmmm...maybe it's just me.
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Thanks for all the replies, guys!
I was just wondering about it because everyone I know seems to think that I'm "destined" to be married, young. When I first turned 18, they were all like, "oh I know who'll be next." They even have me paired up to someone in church which is let me tell ya, very uncomfortable. I don't hate the guy, but we are not meant to be. Anyways, I'm totally content about being single right now. I'm not saying I'll never get married, but one thing is for sure marriage is not in my near future. I kind of have the same fears as some of you all do. I mean you do only get that one chance, so I really don't want to go by my emotions, and have that "One" be not the "One". At my church, we don't date or court, unless you're seeking marriage, so for now I'm content to have only one man in my life.....Jesus. I don't think we're destined to be single forever, but I know sometimes it can sure feel like that, especially when that one you were having feelings for goes and does something so hurtful, it leaves you devestated, but that's a whole different thread entirely.
Thanx for reading
I was just wondering about it because everyone I know seems to think that I'm "destined" to be married, young. When I first turned 18, they were all like, "oh I know who'll be next." They even have me paired up to someone in church which is let me tell ya, very uncomfortable. I don't hate the guy, but we are not meant to be. Anyways, I'm totally content about being single right now. I'm not saying I'll never get married, but one thing is for sure marriage is not in my near future. I kind of have the same fears as some of you all do. I mean you do only get that one chance, so I really don't want to go by my emotions, and have that "One" be not the "One". At my church, we don't date or court, unless you're seeking marriage, so for now I'm content to have only one man in my life.....Jesus. I don't think we're destined to be single forever, but I know sometimes it can sure feel like that, especially when that one you were having feelings for goes and does something so hurtful, it leaves you devestated, but that's a whole different thread entirely.
Thanx for reading
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RED that's ME
*~*God *IS* Love*~*
Next time other people ask you when are you getting married...tell them to ask God!!
You are right people mean well but it still hurts.
You are right people mean well but it still hurts.
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Forever single has been my experience on a permanent basis. Without the blessing of marriage or any long term relationship, life is difficult. I have lived alone since college, and that has been over 20 years. It is a test of patience to never find a mate. While I once had standards and criteria to measure against a prospective future wife, now any woman would merit consideration. But my prayers have not been answered, and there is no woman who has been sent into my life. I failed to make marriage a priority in my youth, and have reaped the consequences for decades since.
There is a lesson here about taking initiative in using the gifts of Providence to realize the opportunity for family life. Youth is appropriatiately the time to exercise this option. Wise and careful mate selection, guided by prayer, should absolutely be a high priority. Failure to act is an act in itself, one that may not be subject to later mitigation.
Blessings to all.
There is a lesson here about taking initiative in using the gifts of Providence to realize the opportunity for family life. Youth is appropriatiately the time to exercise this option. Wise and careful mate selection, guided by prayer, should absolutely be a high priority. Failure to act is an act in itself, one that may not be subject to later mitigation.
Blessings to all.
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Lyrics by Jake, perhaps for a country-western song
SAW YOU ON THE RADIO
Saw you on the radio,
You still looked so fine,
Heard that you were coming home,
Finally that you'd be mine.
Oh the years that passed us by,
Timeless is the old refrain,
You left on the greyhound bus,
Comin' back on diesel train.
I always thought about you,
All the time you were away,
Now why won't you believe me,
If I want you back to stay.
A score of years without you,
Seems like time has passed me by,
Can't remember to forget,
That I know the reason why.
Yes I still have your picture,
Talk to it most every night,
But you won't ever answer,
And we both know that ain't right.
A man can sure get lonely,
As a man can ever be,
And yes I really want you,
Baby please come home to me.
SAW YOU ON THE RADIO
Saw you on the radio,
You still looked so fine,
Heard that you were coming home,
Finally that you'd be mine.
Oh the years that passed us by,
Timeless is the old refrain,
You left on the greyhound bus,
Comin' back on diesel train.
I always thought about you,
All the time you were away,
Now why won't you believe me,
If I want you back to stay.
A score of years without you,
Seems like time has passed me by,
Can't remember to forget,
That I know the reason why.
Yes I still have your picture,
Talk to it most every night,
But you won't ever answer,
And we both know that ain't right.
A man can sure get lonely,
As a man can ever be,
And yes I really want you,
Baby please come home to me.
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Eh, I'm ambivalent about it. I don't have a burning desire to be married, but if the right guy came along and we fit well together, I'd certainly give it strong consideration.
I'm 26 and am starting to get the comments from family members. My cousin (younger by about 9 months) just got married, and there were a few "hehe - you're next!" comments, and I just brushed them off. It can be tough, though -- in my family's culture (and some of yours, too, I'm sure) it's assumed that if you're not married or in a capital R relationship it's because you can't get a man, not because you might not want to be married or in a relationship.
I'm 26 and am starting to get the comments from family members. My cousin (younger by about 9 months) just got married, and there were a few "hehe - you're next!" comments, and I just brushed them off. It can be tough, though -- in my family's culture (and some of yours, too, I'm sure) it's assumed that if you're not married or in a capital R relationship it's because you can't get a man, not because you might not want to be married or in a relationship.
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Echoes Peak
Willing Servant
Regarding marriage..I think most of us are meant to married for the reasons already mentioned in this read. However, I think a select few of us, are not. And the only reason I gather that is from looking at writings of Paul in Romans 7. There are some people who are called to particular mission in life because of that mission God requires they not be married. Either way, that passage reminds us that we're all blessed regardless of circumstance.
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