For those who struggle with same sex attractions

[allofgrace]

I want you to know you are not alone! I have struggled with this sin for several years now, and I'm only now beginning to understand God's love that He has for me.

I bought in to satan's lie. How could anyone, most of all God, love someone who struggles with that sin? Why would He use me to be a blessing to others? Haven't I disqualified myself from service?

Lies, all lies! I have isolated myself from God and the Body of Christ for fear of my sin being found out. I was worried about my reputation and kept myself from the love of God shown through His Church.

The Body of Christ has so far been ill equipped to help those who struggle with these feelings. It is not the easiest sin in the world to confess! But it is only by talking about it that the true healing will come. We must shine the light of God's truths in to the darkness if we ever hope to win victory in this area!

I do still struggle with same sex attractions, as well as pornography and masturbation. I am almost now three weeks clean, praise Him for that!

Please know that you are not alone. There are many here on these forums with whom you can talk and not fear reproach. I have been lonely for many years, but have now found God's love and freedom.

Please feel free to respond here, or drop me a PM. It will be kept confidential. I hope you too can experience God's love and mercy and forgiveness.

You are loved and not alone!

Blessings to you! You all will be in my prayers!

shawn

 

[artjack]

good for you, there are good days & bad, cant wait till jesus returns

 

[luckyjam72]

I want you to know you are not alone! I have struggled with this sin for several years now, and I'm only now beginning to understand God's love that He has for me.

I bought in to satan's lie. How could anyone, most of all God, love someone who struggles with that sin? Why would He use me to be a blessing to others? Haven't I disqualified myself from service?

Lies, all lies! I have isolated myself from God and the Body of Christ for fear of my sin being found out. I was worried about my reputation and kept myself from the love of God shown through His Church.

The Body of Christ has so far been ill equipped to help those who struggle with these feelings. It is not the easiest sin in the world to confess! But it is only by talking about it that the true healing will come. We must shine the light of God's truths in to the darkness if we ever hope to win victory in this area!

I do still struggle with same sex attractions, as well as pornography and masturbation. I am almost now three weeks clean, praise Him for that!

Please know that you are not alone. There are many here on these forums with whom you can talk and not fear reproach. I have been lonely for many years, but have now found God's love and freedom.

Please feel free to respond here, or drop me a PM. It will be kept confidential. I hope you too can experience God's love and mercy and forgiveness.

You are loved and not alone!

Blessings to you! You all will be in my prayers!

shawn

Shawn, you're awesome!

Thanks for sharing your story. Also, thanks for the support on another thread. Your story really touched me because I have felt the same way about going to church... that I shouldn't go to service. As you know, I also struggle with homosexuality, pornography, and masturbation. I have completed 5 days on my road to purity. I will be praying for you!

 

[allofgrace]

Thanks, luckyjam72, for your prayers and your desire to change. God will honor that! Because we struggle with these issues doesn't mean that God can't use us to bless the lives of others. We can be a blessing to those often forgotten by the church for whatever reason. We can be a better encouragement, because we know what they suffer with on a daily basis, and can show them the love that God wants them to experience. He is faithful, and longs to be closer to them!

Thank you my friend! Blessings to you on your quest for purity! I'm here if you ever need me, 24-7-365! I am praying!

shawn

 

[SmackYouTwice]

WOO! Way to go, bro!

I went to a retreat on the weekend... we concluded that same sex ATTRACTION is not a sin. When one ACTS upon that... it is. We all struggle with sexual issues... no matter how big or small, and JUST because it's a struggle, doesn't mean it's a sin. I've heard this be debated with something about "the thought is as bad as the act"... is it really?! Is this in The Word? If anyone knows, please post! I'd like to know. Thanks!

 

[Godslilflutterby]

Wow, awsome story! Thank you for reaching out and telling it so that others will be helped. You're awsome and God is using you in an awsome way, and your reward will be great! Keep it up and I'll be praying for you and thanx for your encouragement, it's just what I needed to hear!

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[allofgrace]

Thanks Ashley!

 

[pek1]

WOO! Way to go, bro!

I went to a retreat on the weekend... we concluded that same sex ATTRACTION is not a sin. When one ACTS upon that... it is. We all struggle with sexual issues... no matter how big or small, and JUST because it's a struggle, doesn't mean it's a sin. I've heard this be debated with something about "the thought is as bad as the act"... is it really?! Is this in The Word? If anyone knows, please post! I'd like to know. Thanks!

I concur.


Pete

 

[swimmer45]

hello brothers,
this is an area not much talked openly in church, but it sure is in small groups, that is where i have found much freedom. i still struggle so much in this area, pray for me, i am married for several years, and have even acted out, but coming out to my brothers and finding their love and acceptance has begun the healing...stay in the light with someone...

 

[thenewageriseth]

Does is count if one is kinda attracted to a cousin of the same sex? Right?

 

[allofgrace]

Thank you all for posting! This is the Body of Christ at its best. Struggling with homosexual thoughts is not a sin. Only if we dwell on these thoughts, or act upon them....The temptation, itself, is not. Christ was tempted as we are...but yet was without sin.

 

[Godslilflutterby]

Does is count if one is kinda attracted to a cousin of the same sex? Right?

Hmmm,...I think so. Because your cousin is the same sex. BUT you can be attracted to someone bacause of so many reasons,....hmmm,..I'm not sure what exactly I'mtrying to say, so let me get my thoughts together and i'll get back to you on that!
*ash*

 

[Annoula]

Does is count if one is kinda attracted to a cousin of the same sex? Right?

i don't know about that....but from my childhood i felt like i was in love with a boy-cousin of mine. maybe cause he was giving me attention and he played with me a lot. i had a really bad time with it when he grew up and didn't pay that much attention to me anymore. i had to come over 18 to settle this thing.

now we are only cousins.

 

[Lee Fey]

I'm not sure where this is, so I hope it helps, but understand if it doesn't. Jesus spoke of how lusting after one's neighbor's wife is the same as adultery. And hating one's brother is the same as murder. So, I would think a cursory thought is not sin, as long as you know you must run away from such thoughts as quickly as you can. Dwelling on such thoughts is sinful, entertaining them, even if only in imagination, is sinful. And, don't get me wrong, I've had problems in this area myself at times in the past. I know of some things that have left their prints on me, and have left me with this struggle. But just because the sources are recognized doesn't mean I'm any closer to rooting these temptations from my head.

 

[minisam]

Awesome! This thread has helped me a lot. I've been through some recent struggles with my sexuality and I'm realizing that if I'm not comfortable with my relationship with God, then I'm not doing His will. I've been attracted to both men and women, but I acted on Lust and that's when I started drifting away from God. Once I got into the routine of acting on the lust, I started to realize that I wasn't comfortable and that if I was OK with what I was doing then God would be OK too. He wasn't. My happiness should not be based on lust but rather what God wants in my life. That should be sufficient enough.

 

[Lee Fey]

Absolutely. As a woman, and I understand just how much heat I can get from some feminists out there, but as a woman, you should be keeping your eyes open for a man who you can consider to be your head. You get to choose your head! Is that crazy or what??

Anyway, I never found my girlfriend when I was looking for her. It was when I stopped, and gave it all up to Him, that He thought I was ready for a girl. So, I'm not saying go looking for a man, because that very well could become an idol, as it did for me. But I am saying that when you are right with God, He could very well give you one. Though, He might not, because He might actually plan on using you before you get married, if you do.

But the point here, is when you are right with God, whatever He sends in your path, probably is a good thing, even if it doesn't look like it right away. I don't know. I just felt like saying all this. Take it for what it's worth.

 

[allofgrace]

Thank you all for sharing your heart! It isn't easy to do, but so very important! Keeping these things inside only eats away at your faith. If we ever hope to grow we must confront them! God will give you the strength to do it. It's amazing no longer having this burden weighing me down! I pray for you all! May God draw us all closer to Himself.

I'm here if you ever need me!

shawn

 

[allofgrace]

Hey all! It's been a while since I posted here. Tomorrow marks eight weeks of purity for me. Thank you for all of your support! The Glory is all His!

I'm here if you ever need me. I'm praying for you all!

shawn

 

[hithere]

hi i justr emailed u allofgrace hope u get it

 

[allofgrace]

Hithere, I did, and will be praying for you!