For the Guys

[catofhope]

I have a college buddy I am close too.
BTW he is a virgin in his 40s and is waiting for marriage.

He tells me sometimes he's been with a girlfriend making out ...
and has had to pull away and tell her NO because he was aroused.

I am wondering how many other men would do that?

I'm not asking for the details of your personal life.

 

[Gimpy]

Absolutely truthfully, I like to believe I would but cannot say I would withdraw.

 

[catofhope]

Thanks for you honesty, Gimpy.

 

[Gimpy]

you are welcome you know what? I used to answer so many questions with the perfect answer. And in the eyes of others, I thought it made me more righteous than I really am. But then, I realized, to say anything other than who I really am, regardless of what I think or know is the right thing to do, knowing my weaknesses, is really just lying.

 

[PassionateOne]

Obviously, I'm not a man.

But, I'm pretty sure that happens to most men and if it didn't they, probably, wouldn't be interested in making out with her, in the first place.

 

[catofhope]

Obviously, I'm not a man.

But, I'm pretty sure that happens to most men and if it didn't they, probably, wouldn't be interested in making out with her, in the first place.

Nope you are not a guy.
And I think Shawn probably likes it that way.

My actual question is whether they would pull away.

 

[PassionateOne]

My actual question is whether they would pull away.

Ohhhhhhh! Well, then I CAN'T answer that!

 

[Gimpy]

Ohhhhhhh! Well, then I CAN'T answer that!

You can answer as a woman though. What would you do? I seems that everyone thinks that because you are a woman, you will do the right thing. But I have known women who would just dive right in. i am sorry, I didnt mean to hijack your thread. If you want me to, I will delete this post.

 

[covenantwmn]

You can answer as a woman though. What would you do? I seems that everyone thinks that because you are a woman, you will do the right thing. But I have known women who would just dive right in.

Good point, if circumstances were right, I know what i'd do, God is merciful to save me from myself.

 

[SingleDadWV]

I have a college buddy I am close too.
BTW he is a virgin in his 40s and is waiting for marriage.

He tells me sometimes he's been with a girlfriend making out ...
and has had to pull away and tell her NO because he was aroused.

I am wondering how many other men would do that?

I'm not asking for the details of your personal life.

I 'have' done that in the past. But, there are many times I haven't. I think it would be a good indicator of how serious the guy is about a long-term relationship if he isn't in a hurry.

 

[bvwsmaker]

Nope you are not a guy.
And I think Shawn probably likes it that way.

My actual question is whether they would pull away.

Ohhhhhhh! Well, then I CAN'T answer that!

But you can answer if you'd let him pull away.

 

[bvwsmaker]

I can't say I would (so let's not get that far )! I wish I could but I know I can't.

It would be good to have a plan beforehand if you find yourself heading down that slippery slope. Because it is tough to backtrack once you've crossed a threshhold.

 

[PassionateOne]

I meant I can't answer that because I'm, NOT a guy.

 

[bvwsmaker]

I meant I can't answer that because I'm, NOT a guy.

You're right, my tangent was not the OP's question. I apologize for baiting you with my question.

 

[bvwsmaker]

I 'have' done that in the past. But, there are many times I haven't. I think it would be a good indicator of how serious the guy is about a long-term relationship if he isn't in a hurry.

Well said!

 

[catofhope]

I appreciate all the honest responses.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Well, I can answer that my last bf would not pull away. He instead tried to talk me into it even in a cool moment. But, this was only one of a few things that concerned me about his walk.

 

[hope4today]

I have only dated one man since my divorce and he was incredibly respectful. We discussed our sexual boundaries very early and he never went past them, not even a millimetre, even though I could sense the strength of his desire
I know that if I had pushed the envelope at any stage he would have pulled away and put a stop to it. It was a wonderful experience for me to be desired and enjoyed and still feel incredibly safe.

I am also grateful to him because we have since stopped dating and we have nothing to be sorry for.

If there is a next time, this man has set high standards in regards to godliness, caring, respect, love, treasuring me, honouring me and the list goes on..... why did I break up with him ....... Oh yeah, God told me he wasn't finished healing me yet and he wanted me to spend more time with him.....My Father has the right one at the right time if it is in his will for me.

 

[catofhope]

I have only dated one man since my divorce and he was incredibly respectful. We discussed our sexual boundaries very early and he never went past them, not even a millimetre, even though I could sense the strength of his desire
I know that if I had pushed the envelope at any stage he would have pulled away and put a stop to it. It was a wonderful experience for me to be desired and enjoyed and still feel incredibly safe.

I am also grateful to him because we have since stopped dating and we have nothing to be sorry for.

If there is a next time, this man has set high standards in regards to godliness, caring, respect, love, treasuring me, honouring me and the list goes on..... why did I break up with him ....... Oh yeah, God told me he wasn't finished healing me yet and he wanted me to spend more time with him.....My Father has the right one at the right time if it is in his will for me.

Sounds like a lovely gentleman.

 

[CoolMom6]

Sounds like a lovely gentleman.

Yeah, I finally met me one of them...lol~~
Tell you the truth, I have known more "good" Christian men who would push me into it if they thought they could.

One of my close platonic friends is on his way over this morning and he was attracted to me when we met so we have talked about this...and you know what? He is a street preacher, and has encountered women taking their clothes off in his view and handled it in a very Godly way.But he says it is not in his strength but the Father's!!!!