Flirting

[xtxArchxAngelxtx]

Auh, the ever elusive topic of flirting. I am one often times accused of being a flirt. I think its all about perception though. or, [i admit] perhaps i have issues and my subconcious is trying to deal with them, hahahhahaha. but i tend to be friendly (after my shyness is broken), and people accuse me of the flirting. its something i should work on, i would rather not be known as a flirt .
God bless!!!!

**Throws ananar a rose and gives an innocent wink n walks off**

This is a tough subject...

I guess it just depends on your pure intentions. Flirting is fun and God wants us to enjoy life. Just don't let it get out of hand and remember who is always watching, and it's not Santa.

 

[Donny_B]

As I get older, I consider a female flirting with me quite encouraging...hey I must still have it! But, then again you wonder...are they being flirtatious to every male in sight, or to just you?

 

[canehdianhotstuff]

just think its u then u have nothing to worry about.

 

[Sunbeam]

I think it answer your question. I am not to big of a fan flirting. I think it you are intrerested in someone and care about them, then show them. Open doors, ask them how there day was, and just try to be there for them, you know be a friend. That's what I think..

I agree

Enslow,

I don't think opening doors is flirting. I just think that is show genuine concern and intrest in someone. It's showing them that you care, that's it! What I call flirting is just useless idle chatter. Saying things just to "woo" someone. Personally I think that it's kind of pathetic, and is just seems so fake to me.

I agree

but you know, it just occured to me. I may be wrong. Afterall it IS Saturday night, I am single. I don't have a date, haven't had one in over a year. hmmm..

*mrstace rethinks this whole flirting bit*

That's funny, and tasteful. I suppose I should have called this the nonflirting thread however, so no one would think of flirting with me.
I'm not looking for anyone at the moment, and I only consider getting to know better noncalvinst christian men, or very conservative/low-key pentocostals that are not apostolic or oneness debaters

 

[Stanfi]

That's funny, and tasteful. I suppose I should have called this the nonflirting thread however, so no one would think of flirting with me.
I'm not looking for anyone at the moment, and I only consider getting to know better noncalvinst christian men, or very conservative/low-key pentocostals that are not apostolic or oneness debaters

Oh no, Sunbeam must be one of those gals, who in order to get to know, you gotta take a test, but you don't know your taking a test. Then when you fail, you don't know you fail.. just suddenly your emails and phone calls don't get returned, then we you run into her in public she says "Do I know you, have we met?" ... or maybe one just needs a spiritual resume'..

 

[Sunbeam]

Oh no, Sunbeam must be one of those gals, who in order to get to know, you gotta take a test, but you don't know your taking a test. Then when you fail, you don't know you fail.. just suddenly your emails and phone calls don't get returned, then we you run into her in public she says "Do I know you, have we met?" ... or maybe one just needs a spiritual resume'..

I've never done that to anyone.

I have no problem with telling anyone upfront what I am looking for and telling them also when I am only interested in being friends early on in the relationship or interested in getting to know them moreso.

How is telling you I only date noncalvinist men "where I'm making you are taking a test and not know about it". What I said was being VERY CLEAR and VERY UPFRONT.

I wasn't rude to you at all. I complimented your interest with saying it was funny and tasteful and told you UPFRONT where I stood in a few things with dating.

 

[ananar23]

Wheres the love you two? bring back the flirting !
That was a much happier conversation
God bless!

 

[Sunbeam]

Wheres the love you two? bring back the flirting !
That was a much happier conversation
God bless!

huh? flirting isn't love.

 

[ananar23]

i know silly...
i meant that the conversation seemed to be taking on an unhappy tone. when everyone was discussing flirting it was much happier. now that it was getting a little heavier i was trying to lighten it up so that we wouldnt need our gloves on .
Take care and God bless...

 

[Stanfi]

I've never done that to anyone.

I have no problem with telling anyone upfront what I am looking for and telling them also when I am only interested in being friends early on in the relationship or interested in getting to know them moreso.

How is telling you I only date noncalvinist men "where I'm making you are taking a test and not know about it". What I said was being VERY CLEAR and VERY UPFRONT.

I wasn't rude to you at all. I complimented your interest with saying it was funny and tasteful and told you UPFRONT where I stood in a few things with dating.

Calm down girl, I was just messing with you. Actually I am glad to hear that you are very upfront. I knew a girl that wasn't. Make a long story short, that was not fun. If I've said it once on here, I've said it a 1000 times, be upfront and honest with people, it will save a lot of heartbreak!!

Ok, I am finished with my rant.

 

[desi]

Flirting is like small talk, its not necessary but using it will get you everywhere. Flirting is interesting to people because it is flattering for someone to take notice of us, assuming the flirter is remotely attractive and (or) whitty. We all want others to find us unique, beautiful, and desirable, flirting is a way to convey this to others and if you do it well they will greatly appreciate you for it.

 

[Donny_B]

There is a fine line between flirting and outgoing and friendly on the one hand and reserved and conceited and "stuck-up" on the other hand. You have to find the happy medium. If you are flirting with someone and they are not interested, then that's when the flirter should stop. But if the flirteee rejects everybody that tries to speak to him/her, then he/she might come off as elusive and stuck-up.

 

[canehdianhotstuff]

whos' flirting with who now?

 

[ananar23]

i want to know what is so wrong with it anyway. most people think i am flirting when i am joking around or just being nice. so i guess by other peoples opinion (but not my own) i am flirting, and i do it when i am being nice to someone that i get along with well. im not touchy about it, or sleezy- im just being friendly and joking a lot. so is this by the majority's opinion flirting? i had to ask my friend, and he said that i was a flirt because not only what i say but what i dont say. now what in the world does this mean? i am starting to feel ashamed by my whole attitude now as if im sleezy. insert sad face here. i dont like the flirting topic any longer. insert sad face again.

 

[prince didymus]

i want to know what is so wrong with it anyway.

There is nothing wrong with flirting at all. Don't let what others say cause you to think any different.

 

[Sunbeam]

i want to know what is so wrong with it anyway. most people think i am flirting when i am joking around or just being nice. so i guess by other peoples opinion (but not my own) i am flirting, and i do it when i am being nice to someone that i get along with well. im not touchy about it, or sleezy- im just being friendly and joking a lot. so is this by the majority's opinion flirting? i had to ask my friend, and he said that i was a flirt because not only what i say but what i dont say. now what in the world does this mean? i am starting to feel ashamed by my whole attitude now as if im sleezy. insert sad face here. i dont like the flirting topic any longer. insert sad face again.

People shouldn't say you are flirting when you said that you aren't. If you are being friendly that's different.

 

[bèlla]

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