I wouldn't be worried about scaring off women. Even if you only like women that have a big toe longer than their second toe <waits for everyone to look at their feet>, then a woman that met that criteria who was scared off by something you said with good intentions would not make a good match long term anyway. Better to get that out of the way quickly.
Aye, good point.
Think about the circles you move in and the things you like doing. Do they match? If not then you might need to start talking to other people where it is easier to be yourself.
Don't really get much of a choice in college....I mean there's definitely groups that respect me more than others, but my roommates don't hang out with them, and I'm generally with my roommates because they're my roommate, so yeah....it's a lot harder than just "go hang out with friends who aren't bad people".
I'm going to have to call you out on this mate. scraps and leftovers might have a particular definition for you, but if we haven't come across it elsewhere we'll probably jump to the most likely definitions, and then colour what you are trying to say within that definition.
Seeing as how I gave that original definition in the original post/thread, again people just want to assume the worst about me because I don't think or frame problems the same way as they do.
People still use wings? Isn't that so 1980's frat boy?
I've done it for people....it still works.
You aren't actually a car being sold. There is no need to inform of every fault you have up front. That is what I think the dating process is for. To get to know a person more fully, faults and all, and to determine the future direction of the relationship. Eventually you will have to tell them more, assuming the relationship progresses far enough but by informing a chick you barely know that you have aspergers (for example) at the same time you ask for a date then she hasn't yet seen any of your 'pluses'. Note: I was having lunch today with a mate who is recently married, like 4 months ago. He has aspergers and she of course knows.
It's kinda hard to hide aspergers, mate.
I'm nowhere like that. Just some things that affect me that may soon go away anyway if given some time and stuff. Like a long-term illness that is leaving the body soon.
Dude! Don't ask a chick if she finds you attractive. Firstly because I believe you are meaning only physical attractiveness, which means you are putting too much value, and perhaps in your head trying to conciliate what you think of her appearance, and the belief that she should match that opinion with one of you. And secondly you are telling her that physical attractiveness is held highly by you and she may feel that she cannot be pretty enough (yes lots of pretty girls think they aren't) to meet your priority on attractiveness.
Well, I would be only talking about physical attractiveness. I'm fully confident in my personality, but the ship "body" has to cross the sea and make it there before the army of Spanish conquistadors can run train on people. Btw, that has got to be my best metaphor in awhile.
Insecurity, you're right, is something I shouldn't cultivate though. I just have that fear that I'm often the "right now" because she's gonna find and upgraded version of me and I'm donezo. It's very crippling on the approach to know that there are better people out there and they might snap up your date like a vulture before you can really have any chance of getting those conquistadors out there.
as for the car thing, I am an original Ford Model T straight off the assembly line, original parts and paint.
Get about 40 years older, then we'll talk about getting you an old car like that.
I reckon I probably flirt without mening to sometimes, but hey mate - if you're flirting with girls you reckon are gonna go sleep with other guys then honestly, who are you looking at?! If you truly want a relationship - because that's what it'll be - then you need to seriously consider who the other half should be. Think about who you are right now. Is Christ important to you? If yes, then He should be important to your potential spouse as well. You're worth someone who places value on the same things as you. Don't settle for less. You are a prince of the King - and as such will need a Princess (when the time comes). For the moment, enjoy your singleness - learn from God about the man He wants you to be, and flirt if you must, but ask yourself - 'is this gonna go somewhere that God would be happy about?'
Love in Christ.
I'm looking at regular girls, like the ones at school or the ones at the post office or whatever! Christian girls who I'm attracted to do not want me. This I've realized long ago, and I have come to peace with. Since I'm not willing to "play ball" and do all that christianese and whatever to puff myself up, I'm not on their radar. The ironic thing is even when I became an assistant pastor for awhile, I was still
persona non grata. I'm just used to that now, and I have come to peace that I may never have everything that I'm looking for in a person.
Singleness, for those who are not meant to be single, is a curse. Don't ever forget that, lest you be deluded like the Christians Paul writes about in his First Letter to the Corinthians.
This thread is being invaded by onionheads!!
As for what folks think of me, I really couldn't care! I try to let folks feel the weight of me .............. and let them deal with it! Mweeheeheehee!!! 
