Does anyone else have flashbacks of when you were raped/molested etc? Because I have flashbacks constantly about what happened when this girl molested me.....I want to cry so bad....but I can't because if I do, people will wonder why....
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Flashbacks?
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I have them more then I care to, but its not nearly bad as it once was. Councilling has helped me so much, though its been years since I been, but it helped alot.
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At least I know I'm not alone with the flashbacks thing....thank you Melly.
I'm gonna get counseling....
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Flashbacks are very common and can be very scary. Glad you are seeking some help.
Bless you
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Bless you
John
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Jesusfreak4life8629, I think seeking counseling a wonderful, brave step. I'm actually a Christian counseling grad student, but I'm also a 2x survivor and I still have flashbacks from time to time. I never attended counseling for either experience, which is incredibly ironic since God has called me into the very profession that I avoided during my toughest times.
Counseling should be able to help you deal with the flashbacks, in terms of avoiding triggers and such. Journaling was a huge help for me as well and is something that is often recommend to my clients who are struggling with either sexual assault or child sexual abuse. Unfortunately, a large part of healing is simply time but God refines us by fire and we emerge on the other side stronger and with a powerful testimony.
I'll be praying for you.
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Counseling should be able to help you deal with the flashbacks, in terms of avoiding triggers and such. Journaling was a huge help for me as well and is something that is often recommend to my clients who are struggling with either sexual assault or child sexual abuse. Unfortunately, a large part of healing is simply time but God refines us by fire and we emerge on the other side stronger and with a powerful testimony.
I'll be praying for you.
-Liv
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Flaskbacks-yep. Triggers from PTSD usually start them, but sometimes I just wake up and freak out.
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I wish I knew what triggered it.
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I have a suggestion! Or at least this one really works for me!!!
When it first happened, you can imagine how pretty much every moment was trigger-trigger-trigger! Thankfully they did subside somewhat. Anyway, one that the REALLY helped me get through those first few months and beyond was that when I noticed I was having a trigger (like, let's say I smelled the cologne...) I'd PURPOSELY do something really current that involved the senses NOW.
For example, I'd pass by some other man wearing the same cologne. My mind would instantly SCREAM and come to a complete halt! In an instant I was right back there experiencing it all over again. But this other teeny part of my mind knew that was the past, so I would sit down (so I wouldn't fall over) and find things that I could do that involved my senses right now. Like I would touch something soft--smell something else--taste something by having a stick of gum or buying an ice cream right then and there--LOOK at a particularly beautiful sight (like sunset, the mountains, tree leaves--anything BEAUTIFUL) -- or listen to some amazing, moving, beautiful music that was turned up loud enough to occupy my mind (Evanescence does it for me--I can scream along). Touch, taste, see, smell, hear. ANYTHING that would keep me present and in the present!!!
Now I'm not saying that counseling wouldn't be of tremendous help. I would have never learned this little trick if it weren't for rape crisis counseling! But this little trick helps keep me HERE in the present where I am safe and not back there, where it keeps happening.
KWIM??
~Faithful
When it first happened, you can imagine how pretty much every moment was trigger-trigger-trigger! Thankfully they did subside somewhat. Anyway, one that the REALLY helped me get through those first few months and beyond was that when I noticed I was having a trigger (like, let's say I smelled the cologne...) I'd PURPOSELY do something really current that involved the senses NOW.
For example, I'd pass by some other man wearing the same cologne. My mind would instantly SCREAM and come to a complete halt! In an instant I was right back there experiencing it all over again. But this other teeny part of my mind knew that was the past, so I would sit down (so I wouldn't fall over) and find things that I could do that involved my senses right now. Like I would touch something soft--smell something else--taste something by having a stick of gum or buying an ice cream right then and there--LOOK at a particularly beautiful sight (like sunset, the mountains, tree leaves--anything BEAUTIFUL) -- or listen to some amazing, moving, beautiful music that was turned up loud enough to occupy my mind (Evanescence does it for me--I can scream along). Touch, taste, see, smell, hear. ANYTHING that would keep me present and in the present!!!
Now I'm not saying that counseling wouldn't be of tremendous help. I would have never learned this little trick if it weren't for rape crisis counseling! But this little trick helps keep me HERE in the present where I am safe and not back there, where it keeps happening.
KWIM?? ~Faithful
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yes, i have flashbacks quite often actually. it is normal after this type of situation as well as sad and scary.
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