five months the 27th

[sadheart]

It has been almost five months now. I feel very empty inside. It is an awful feeling. I believe the shock has finally wore off and reality set in.
I sometimes wish the lord would take me home. But he has other plans for me. I just have to stay close to him and remember I will see my husband again.

 

[HayleyAnn]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, sweetie May the Lord bless you always and hold you in His arms until the day you are reunited with your dear husband. God bless.

I have started a thread in the prayer requests forum for those who have lost loved ones in the past year. If you (or anyone else here who has lost someone) would like to drop by and post...share a few words about your husband or just ask for prayer, I'd love to see you post. http://christianforums.com/showthread.php?t=7325360

 

[pammie54]

You are so right. It does take 3-4 months before the shock begins to lift and then you are hit with exactly what you described/ it's like wanting to be there more than here and not feeling like anything here matters. But this too passes and there will be other mountains to climb over. You just have to do this minute, this day. Put one foot in front of the other and bring glory to Our Lord and honor your beloved.

 

[sadheart]

Thank you so much. It helps so much to hear from other widows who believe in our savior. I was saved at age 18. My husband was saved at 14 and a wonderful Christian man. He sang gospel songs and taught the mentaly disabled in our church. They loved him and he loved them. My husband would want me to put all of my being in serving God. That is what I will do, not just for him but for our Savior. We have four children and all are Christians. We also have 12 grandchildren, the Lord has truly blessed us. Keep me in your prayers and I will do the same. Waiting for the return of Jesus(which I think will be sooner than we expect).

Christine

 

[singingwife]

My pastor said this Sunday, "wouldn't it be wonderful if 2009 was the year of the Lord's return?" Right now I think that would be most wonderful! Then we could all go together; the family members that I would not want to put through another death would come too!

 

[sadheart]

you are so right!!!!!!

 

[CajunQueen]

I have to agree. Oh what I wouldn't give to be with my beloved husband right now. Just a few days and it will already be a year since he passed.

Sadheart, I am praying for you hon.

 

[JeanR]

the first half of the second year was horrible. It was worst than the first. I was still trying to get his estate settled and my in-laws were still fighting it.

Around the 1 1/2 year mark, I began to feel like my old self. At 2 years, I fell apart. I am still on the roller coaster.

It's now been 2 years, 3 months, and 5 days. Thoughts of my grandson are what makes me what to survive.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I am so sorry for your loss. Since we are here in this forum, obviously we have all experienced loss of someone we love deeply. It's especially hard when you have spent many years with that person. More than half of my life had been spent with my husband.
Your husband seems like he was a wonderful human being! I'm sure you think so too.
Everyone grieves differently so it's hard to say when you will feel better or different. And sometimes it hits you when you least expect it. This past Christmas I was watching all the Christmas movies they played and found myself crying watching the movies at stupid sad parts or even if they weren't sad. It's been 4 years for me, so I certainly didn't expect that, but you know what? What I have done is just to go with whatever happens worked best for me. Now if I thought I was starting to think about it too much and felt I was sad for too long I would willingly make myself change by reading my bible or forcing myself to involve myself in something fruitful. BUT I also found that the first couple of years for me, (and it's still a challenge) I could not COMMIT to anything. I'm talking about Bible study, ministry, even getting in shape. I went to church every Sunday but that's it! I just had a big committment problem, and I knew it, and I couldn't change that for the first couple of years.
You need to give yourself alot of grace. If you want to help in ministry, great! And I think keeping busy definitely helps. But if you don't feel like it, go with that, and don't punish yourself for not feeling like it. Circumstances are always subject to change, so as the word says, "This too shall pass"

This Too Shall Pass
If I can endure for this minute
Whatever is happening to me,
No matter how heavy my heart is
Or how dark the moment may be-
If I can remain calm and quiet
With all the world crashing about me,
Secure in the knowledge God loves me
When everyone else seems to doubt me-
If I can but keep on believing
What I know in my heart to be true,
That darkness will fade with the morning
And that this will pass away, too-
Then nothing in life can defeat me
For as long as this knowledge remains
I can suffer whatever is happening
For I know God will break all of the chains
That are binding me tight in the darkness
And trying to fill me with fear-
For there is no night without dawning
And I know that my morning is near.
Helen Steiner Rice​

May God comfort you when you need it, and give you strength when you need it, and mercy and grace to get through the days ahead until He comes

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