So, just recently, i moved to a new town, so you could say that its a sort of new start. I met these two girls at this place i worked. They were really nice and friendly, which was new to me cuz people only seemed rude to me from the town i graduated from high school. After getting to know them just a little, i guess i started having feelings for one of them. What made it even more obvious is when the other girl texted me and said that i should ask her out. I thought that it would be cool to date her since we seemed to have a lot in common. i haven't really asked her out yet, because im really just wanting to get to know her better first, which im sure she wants as well. She is a Christian, because she just converted Catholicism. Of course, she says she comes from a family that isn't really that great, which i think its cool that she wants to make a change in her life and follow Jesus. I do think that since she is a new believer, that it would be healthy for her to be dating a Christian who comes from a strong Christian family. My parents are good strong Christians, and come from great Christian families which i am lucky have.
Few difficulties: im 20 and this is my first girlfriend. im sure for some people, it might be uncommon to not have a girlfriend before that age, yet it was probably a good thing for me to not have a girlfriend in high school. However, ever since we stated actually getting together (which was yesterday), it seems that I keep getting a boner, which I don't want to be there. It's not like I'm trying to think of anything sick or perverted, it just seems that it likes to happen when I'm around her or when I think about her. Of course I will mention that I have been struggling with masturbation for some time now, which I really want to stop. When I do it, some of the thoughts that run through my head really are not that clean. The good news is that I haven't been looking at porn, which I kind of tried to, but I don't ever want to do. The very fact that I'm having these temptations and struggles do concern me, especially that I do have a gf.
Now as I said, I don't really think anything perverted about her, which is good and I would like to keep it that way. because of what I have been struggling through, I really feel a sense of urgency to be spending more time with God, as making that a habit has been a struggle for me. Also, I know this is something I should probably mention to my parents, but I feel like it wouldn't be appropriate for anyone to know quite yet, as this is a very early point in the relationship, and I'm wanting to feel more confident about it before I say anything. At the same time, I know I shouldn't just keep them in the dark about it for too long. Since this is kind of a small town, I'm sure that word might get out quickly, so I figure there is no point in trying to keep a secret for too long. I'm staying with my aunt, so if she find's out, then she probably will tell my parents.
Do any of you think this relationship is a bad idea? I mean, since we are just getting started, I would hate to just dump her right off the bat, but it would be a good idea to get some Godly wisdom on this. Also, maybe some prayer would be a good idea. I guess my thoughts are that it is too early in the relationship to pass judgments on whether it's right or not. I feel that the only way I'm going to find out is continuing on with it (excluding getting word directly from God about it).
Thoughts?
p.s. sorry if this is a lot of information. I find forums like this to be an easy place to share my little dirty secrets lol. :/
Few difficulties: im 20 and this is my first girlfriend. im sure for some people, it might be uncommon to not have a girlfriend before that age, yet it was probably a good thing for me to not have a girlfriend in high school. However, ever since we stated actually getting together (which was yesterday), it seems that I keep getting a boner, which I don't want to be there. It's not like I'm trying to think of anything sick or perverted, it just seems that it likes to happen when I'm around her or when I think about her. Of course I will mention that I have been struggling with masturbation for some time now, which I really want to stop. When I do it, some of the thoughts that run through my head really are not that clean. The good news is that I haven't been looking at porn, which I kind of tried to, but I don't ever want to do. The very fact that I'm having these temptations and struggles do concern me, especially that I do have a gf.
Now as I said, I don't really think anything perverted about her, which is good and I would like to keep it that way. because of what I have been struggling through, I really feel a sense of urgency to be spending more time with God, as making that a habit has been a struggle for me. Also, I know this is something I should probably mention to my parents, but I feel like it wouldn't be appropriate for anyone to know quite yet, as this is a very early point in the relationship, and I'm wanting to feel more confident about it before I say anything. At the same time, I know I shouldn't just keep them in the dark about it for too long. Since this is kind of a small town, I'm sure that word might get out quickly, so I figure there is no point in trying to keep a secret for too long. I'm staying with my aunt, so if she find's out, then she probably will tell my parents.
Do any of you think this relationship is a bad idea? I mean, since we are just getting started, I would hate to just dump her right off the bat, but it would be a good idea to get some Godly wisdom on this. Also, maybe some prayer would be a good idea. I guess my thoughts are that it is too early in the relationship to pass judgments on whether it's right or not. I feel that the only way I'm going to find out is continuing on with it (excluding getting word directly from God about it).
Thoughts?
p.s. sorry if this is a lot of information. I find forums like this to be an easy place to share my little dirty secrets lol. :/
