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Let us define judging here as the action of belittling another person for his or her beliefs or actions.Brimshack said:Welcome aboard:
I assume you mean that one shouldn't judge others, not that one should not use judgement at all.
Well? What do you think?OK, but are there not contexts in which someone should do that? can you not mke judgements about who you want in your life and who you won't? And will these judgements not entail some ostensibly objective judgements about the natur of the people involved? Is a positive judgement that someone is a good person not also a judgement? And what of actual judges; are they allowed to pass judgements?
We need a precise definition. Judging, as you pointed out, can mean one of many things.Brimshack said:Your new wording is a little more precise (albeit perhaps a completely different rule altogether), though I'm inclined to think belittling can be a rather effective means of social control. In some societies it is a fundamental part of how they keep people in line, and if that seems ugly, it's certainly better than use of physical force. It strikes me as culture-specific after all.
So are there instances where it might be justifiable to judge per the definition in my last post? If so, it would refute the claim that we should not judge regardless of circumstance.What do I think: I think the princples you advance are pretty good, but each of my questions points to a contingency. hence, not a universal and not absolute.
I'm really at a loss to figure out what "objective" means if it has to also qualify for people who are suffering from neurosis or mental illness. There could easily be a clear and obvious moral absolute that some people simply would not percieve, just a blind person doesn't percieve something unless it can be sensed by somethng besides sight.Brimshack said:"others" works fine, though I fail to see why my own efforts to rewrite the matter qualify as "hocus pocus." The objection wa admittedly technical, but just the same.
And the remainder of my objections, I did not myself correct, instinctively or otherwise.
- Lack of love for oneself is hardly evidence of derangement. Many a neurosis could be described in such a manner, and I do not see much hope in an ethics that applies only to those in perfect mental health.
You may choose to say that love is not love if it is harmful, but that doesn't square with my experience. People often lsh out at those they love, some more than others, and some to the point where it is best to avoid their love, but I certainly wouldn't deny that such individuals are experiencing love. In any event, this all begs the question of what is meant by love.
Note: I am not sure what you meant by discussing relativism in the context of mental illness, but my position needn't rest on a relativistic view of what is and is not mental illness. I would however point out that a variety of self-destructive behaviors are evident in a large number of people. One could describe these as illnesses, but if you wish to define morality as pertaining only to those without such tendancies, then the bulk of humanity is removed from the force of your assertions, which would make them rather particular and hence relative.
Your latest rewrite is more promising. It gets us out of trying to gauge the practical implications of an emotion, but it has problems. Does it pertain to every manner in which I would want to be treated? What about identity-specific features of the manner in which I would want to be treated? Can I adjust for maleness versus femaleness, age, height, social status, etc.? If not, then the principle does not really dictate specific courses of action.
I had to go back to this post to figure out about the concept of you instinctively correcting yourself, and what I was referring to is you already narrowed in on the concept of a situation where loveing someone wouldn't work if someone was basically hurting someone under the supposed auspices of 'love'. All I can say is that I have apparently a narrower understanding of what love means than you do. The feeling you seem to be describing is affection and need, but I wouldn't put the stamp of love on it since in my estimation love seeks the welfare of the beloved by definition.Brimshack said:- Just your neighbor? (OK, I assume this is to be more general than that. Other people?)
- What if someone doesn't love himself?
- What does love entail as far as actual behavior? I have known some people who'se love was genuinely harmful. Might it be that an obligation to love is itself simply too fuzzy to count as a moral principle. I'm inclined to think it is.
It looks like we've devolved into a semantics war here.... You do understand the concept that I am getting at, right? Do you have a better definition?Brimshack said:RT: We do need a precise definition> I would add that I see no definite link between judging and belittling. So, I would prefer not to go back and forth between them. I'll be happy to discuss either , or both, provided we are clear on the difference, but judging (right or wrong) need not entail belittling, or I think, visa versa. On your second question, I thought I already indicated some contingencies where such behavior would be justified. I would add that I'm skeptical of the notion that any such particulars could be universal or absolute. One might ask what the real harm is behind the behavior you wish to proscribe, and then try to fashion a more solid answer based on the answer to that question.
See above.RT: Sorry for the delay, but seriously. Taking judging as a candidate, then all the original contingencies I think show that judging is often good. As to belittling, I am inclined to wonder why one should accept this.
In the post where I use the coment about neurotics, I was using the phrase about treating others as one would have them treat you. The love post was just a clarification because I had said something that seemed to have started out to get under your skin some, so I was at pains to try to explain where I was coming from. The sentence that you actually mention the neurotics I have to tell you is, what with a few typos and some questionable grammar coupled with the difficulty of the subject matter, somehow evading my comprehension.Brimshack said:Shane: I'm not sure that "objectivity is really the issue here, but if accounting for the problems of neutotic people, you might find that element of subjectivity is rooted in your own prospective ethic. You are asking people to love others (which is an emotional quality), and to treat them as they would be treated themselves, also a direct reference to personal values. The subjectivity is built into your approach, hence the problems I have pointed out. One could certainly say that the obligation is universal whereas the specific implications might be subjective, but then I am still inclined to think that some people ought not to follow this principle. Thnk you for the clarification. Your definition of love is indeed more narrow than mine, and I am skeptical that you are talking about love at all. Human emotions of any kind just aren't logical functions though; you just can't derive such consistent emotions from them.
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