Finally Trying!

[Nikoel]

My husband and I have always known we wanted a baby. We knew we wanted one soon, and we started trying on our honeymoon. We got pregnant right away But at 11 weeks I miscarried, and was devistated.

We decided last night that we are ready to start trying again, a little scared...and rather cautious... but trying again!

 

[jazzbird]

Congratulations Nikoel. That's exciting. I know it can be scary after suffering the loss of a child. I pray that God will give you joy during this time, and take away any doubts or worries you may have.

I think we too are ready to start trying again. I miscarried last summer, my baby should have been due a week from now. It is a very melancholy feeling to realize that. We should be holding our child this month. I am completely at peace about the loss, but it still hurts sometimes.

We have been waiting because we are trying to get our financial life in order, and I just finished school last month. I have been trying not to pressure DH because I know that he is more concerned about our financial security, and I can understand his desire to provide a stable home. I've been trying to be patient and not listen too much to that biological clock of mine. Last night we had a big discussion about our finances because we are trying to determine how much money to pledge to our church building fund. After looking at where we are at, and where we will be three years from now, I felt pretty good about things. I don't want to push Ben into fatherhood at all. He doesn't really have any experience with kids and though he wants kids, I think he's a bit scared of being a parent and of the changes that will take place in our lives. But, I did ask him what he feels our financial situation means with regard to having kids, and he said that he doesn't want to promise me that we can start on a specific month, but that he thinks that within the next few months he'd be ready, which is what I already new. Anyway, to try to make a long story short....I know, I know.....too late.....I asked him some more things - stressing that I don't want to pressure him, but am just giving him things to mull over - and I told him that I feel that we are putting our financial situation in God's hands by trusting him and pledging a lot to our church, and I feel that maybe it is time to start trusting Him with our family as well and just let Him take over and stop worrying about birth control. To my surprise, after considering everything, he agreed completely of his own will! I never expected him to be ready this month and I stressed that I want this to be his decision because I don't want there to be any resentment or anything later, if he was only doing it for me. I think we are TTC, unless he has given it more thought today and changed his mind. I can't even believe it.

I don't know how my posts always get so long, but thanks to anyone who has taken the time to read my story! I am so excited!

Nikoel, maybe you and I will be pregnancy buddies!

 

[CarrieAg93]

Good luck to both of you. I miscarried my first pregnancy, but have had 2 uncomplicated pregnancies since. I now have 2 boys, but still think of the one I lost. My best advice is to try not to let getting pregnant consume your life. Easier said than done I know.

Jazzbird - I was 29 when my first child was born and 31 with #2. I'm now 33 and are TTC #3. Don't worry - you have time.

You are both in my prayers.

 

[JessNafe]

Hi I'm new around these boards but wanted to wish you well. i will for you and I hope that you get yout baby soon