Finally ready to tell my story.

[Fatally.Yours]

But not to anyone I know yet, which is why I signed up to this forum.
A couple of years ago, when I was 16, I started dating a guy who was 19. The first couple of weeks of the relationship were great. After that he became really jealous and possessive. He wouldn't let me go out with him wearing make up or short skirts and if I did he'd get really angry. He'd also get annoyed if other guys talked to me, he didn't like me seeing my friends and he said when I turned 18 there'd be certain bars I wouldn't be allowed into in case people hit on me. A few times when we had sex it would hurt but I'd have to be crying before I could get him to stop, sometimes I pretended to cry because I knew it was the only way he'd stop. He also used to bite me and playfight me but he took it too far, I got a fair few bruises from him doing it. I know people have gone through worse but I can't help but feel like this affected my ability to function normally in relationships.

 

[Johnnz]

Those were not good experiences. the guy has some real issues and you didn't need someone like him in your life. You will be reticent with other guys now - understandably. But not all guys are like that. Getting your head around some healthy concepts of relationships and sex may help you see things differently and with greater confidence.

John
NZ

 

[RuthD]

Run, run, run..away from him.

 

[GenericTaoMaster]

But not to anyone I know yet, which is why I signed up to this forum.
A couple of years ago, when I was 16, I started dating a guy who was 19. The first couple of weeks of the relationship were great. After that he became really jealous and possessive. He wouldn't let me go out with him wearing make up or short skirts and if I did he'd get really angry. He'd also get annoyed if other guys talked to me, he didn't like me seeing my friends and he said when I turned 18 there'd be certain bars I wouldn't be allowed into in case people hit on me. A few times when we had sex it would hurt but I'd have to be crying before I could get him to stop, sometimes I pretended to cry because I knew it was the only way he'd stop. He also used to bite me and playfight me but he took it too far, I got a fair few bruises from him doing it. I know people have gone through worse but I can't help but feel like this affected my ability to function normally in relationships.

everything about that relationship is wrong:

1)big insecurity in that guy and it shows in his controlling nature.

don't let anyone control you like this ever again

2)not letting guys talk to you-- insecurity about you leaving him for one of those guys. if the bond of love is strong, and trust is reciprocal, feelings of jealousy will dissipate. he does not trust you because he doesn't trust himself.

3)you should feel bad about letting him know how you feel

I'm thinking that he made you feel guilty about things so that you'll stay dependent on him.

He probably thrived off your insecurity.

just remember, anyone in your life should not make you feel insecure. try to block those people out of your life.

 

[Philippians4:13]

I'd like to add something really quick also-please don't think for a second that what happened to you wasn't 'as worse' or 'bad enough' compared to others' situations. Fact is, it DID happen to you, and it wasn't healthy at all. The best thing to do is accept the whole relationship was unhealthy and be on the lookout for those out there who are selfish and not worth your time! I pray that God will heal you and show you how to let go from the pain this caused you...

 

[Fire Angel]

Fatally Yours, This guy has major issues, you need to loss him. As the other person said Run, run, run away. Get out, and away from him. He has major control issues, if you continue to see him, he could end up hurting you worst down the road. Some of these people even have a problem if there girl ends up pregnant. I would be wise, and get enough courage, and leave him. You need to be safe. And as what you have shared he is not safe, for anyone.