Okay, well if you have kept up with my roommate story, here's a new one. Last night I confronted her about the way she has been acting (she gets upset at me and does not like rooming with me, so she acts out by throwing things around, slamming doors, etc.). I asked her if she is okay and what is going because it seems like she is upset with me again. She said that she is fine and nothing was wrong and she didn't understand why she seemed upset. I had a hunch she was lying as a way to mock me, because earlier in the semester she confronted me about doing all these things to bug her and blamed me for causing stress in her life and I did not agree that I was doing things that are so bad that it is causing her all this stress. So, I waited to see how she acted today.
She continued to act angry with me today, so a few mintues ago I talked to her again and asked if she was okay and she said "I'm okay but I think there's something wrong with you" and I told her that she has been acting upset by slamming doors and stuff and that she did not do that earlier in the semester. She then admitted that she was lying last night when she did not say anything about being mad at me. She said she is just doing what she needs to do and feels like I am still causing her all the stress in her life.
So, I finally was honest with her. I told her that I think she is trying to blame other stresses that are going on in her life on me. I also told her that I know I am not a bad enough roommate to deserve for her to treat me the way that she has been and that I won't put up with being treated like that. I told her that it seems like she does not realize that she does things that bug me and that in trying to get back at me she is only upsetting me, not making me become a perfect roommate. I told her I think the way she has been handling things is not a very mature way to go about things and that I am really shocked that someone I don't think of as a mean person could act the way she has been acting.
Anyway, I asked her to agree that for the next two weeks ( I move out May 1) we will try to get along and make this room a peaceful place to be and will respect each other. I really need your prayers because living in this room with her has been crazy. I get accused of all the stress in her life and of causing her to get headaches and I know that I am not causing that, but it's still difficult to live with someone who wishes you would leave (she actually said why don't you just move out now??). I informed her that I have paid rent as well and will stay here until I need to leave and that if she really does not like me she should have switched roommates a long time ago. Sorry this is so long! Just needed to vent about this. I am so glad I confronted her, I almost did not get the courage to do it!
She continued to act angry with me today, so a few mintues ago I talked to her again and asked if she was okay and she said "I'm okay but I think there's something wrong with you" and I told her that she has been acting upset by slamming doors and stuff and that she did not do that earlier in the semester. She then admitted that she was lying last night when she did not say anything about being mad at me. She said she is just doing what she needs to do and feels like I am still causing her all the stress in her life.
So, I finally was honest with her. I told her that I think she is trying to blame other stresses that are going on in her life on me. I also told her that I know I am not a bad enough roommate to deserve for her to treat me the way that she has been and that I won't put up with being treated like that. I told her that it seems like she does not realize that she does things that bug me and that in trying to get back at me she is only upsetting me, not making me become a perfect roommate. I told her I think the way she has been handling things is not a very mature way to go about things and that I am really shocked that someone I don't think of as a mean person could act the way she has been acting.
Anyway, I asked her to agree that for the next two weeks ( I move out May 1) we will try to get along and make this room a peaceful place to be and will respect each other. I really need your prayers because living in this room with her has been crazy. I get accused of all the stress in her life and of causing her to get headaches and I know that I am not causing that, but it's still difficult to live with someone who wishes you would leave (she actually said why don't you just move out now??). I informed her that I have paid rent as well and will stay here until I need to leave and that if she really does not like me she should have switched roommates a long time ago. Sorry this is so long! Just needed to vent about this. I am so glad I confronted her, I almost did not get the courage to do it!
