Fight w/ spouse again. what else is new. Sometimes this life. Really can be too much. Why can't I just have space when i need it. Why do I over committ. Why does he under commit so often leaving me to carry the bag.
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Hey Berry, I am sorry to hear things are going well with your spouse. I hear ya about the space thing. I wish they could read our minds and understand what it is we need as I know I have a hard time expressing it. And even when I do express it I am still not understood.
You just come here and vent and know we will uplift you in prayer that your marriage will find the peace and healing it needs.
You just come here and vent and know we will uplift you in prayer that your marriage will find the peace and healing it needs.
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Hey, did you just peak into my life? This could be so written about my marriage as well. My DH likes to go to work and do NOTHING ELSE, but crosswords and sudoku and tv. I mean he doesn't even want to talk to me! SIGH! I am such a go getter and get bored so easily and I feel so ignored and uncared for. But I am struggling hard to not complain and wound him and to allow for differences. Well, to basically get out of GOd's way and let God help my hubby to become the man he was created to be. It is hard for me to sit by and watch him ccontinuely choose not to pray with me, not to interact with me or others, etc
I pray that God will move and make changes not only in our DH's but in us and our attitudes towards them.
and yes, the fights have been pretty horrible and I get so very depressed afterwards. . .
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Thanks guys. Yeah just need to vent. Prayers for the marriage are awesome not that we are in danger but it is hard sometimes.
My hubby likes to play video games and watch TV. Constantly. And doesn't like to be distrubed while doing either....which he does for hours. i hear you on the boring. Can also be extremely irritating and frustrating. Why can't they atleast multitask?
My hubby likes to play video games and watch TV. Constantly. And doesn't like to be distrubed while doing either....which he does for hours. i hear you on the boring. Can also be extremely irritating and frustrating. Why can't they atleast multitask?
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Mayhap our men were not created to do that! SIGH!!!!! I do love the guy, but I can so relate to your frustrations. And yep, we are like you, not in danger of a break up, we've been at this 24 years now, but prayers are going up on your behalf!
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I know for me the irritability is a symptoms of mania and those are the worst fights we have. I am slowly learning that I need to stay away from discussions during those times. My DH has his own anger problems, so he can be triggered very easily. SIGH!!!
Know that with mania, this is not anything wrong with you, it is just a part of this illness. Allow yourself grace for this illness.
Prayers!
Know that with mania, this is not anything wrong with you, it is just a part of this illness. Allow yourself grace for this illness.
Prayers!
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Spiraling low with extreme anger. I hate everyone who has a house...my dreams of that are shattering and people who have no credit cards too (no offense). I want to self harm. I wish i could just die.
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Dearest Berry2000, please call your doc or a hotline before letting yourself spiral down to far. I have walked this path and these mixed episodes I am sure you know can be very dangerous times. Please be safe, you are important here and to me! Know I am praying and care and that NOTHING stops the love of God or of Christian brothers and sisters. Please keep in touch, you are precious!!!
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Thank you Alive Again and Alaska Momma. I just can't push the emergency button. It has huge implications to my life, my job, and my family.
Can you believe it another fight. I don't know how much more of this i can take.
I am surviving w/ Xanax and stuffed animals. To keep from self harm.
Anger is a little less. Depression is a little greater.
I promise to stay safe. I just feel so sad and hopeless about everything. i know that's part of bipolar...but it still sucks.
Can you believe it another fight. I don't know how much more of this i can take.
I am surviving w/ Xanax and stuffed animals. To keep from self harm.
Anger is a little less. Depression is a little greater.
I promise to stay safe. I just feel so sad and hopeless about everything. i know that's part of bipolar...but it still sucks.
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Thank you for promising to stay safe. I do understand all the implications that can exist. Just so you know you can vent here or pm me, that your doc is available, that you are Beloved and that we are praying for you!!!!
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Made it thru today. Halloween was a good distraction. Huge amounts of anger surging. Trying not to sin in my anger against myself or my loved ones (lashing in or out). This is so hard.
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Praying for God's grace to cover you and your marriage. Praying for this mania and depression to end. Praying for the wounds to you and your husband's souls to heal supernaturally. Praying for you to be able to rest in God's arms. PRAYING!!!!
I believe this anger and rage is a part of this illness itself. And yet there is that part of me that acknowledges this symptoms wounds others and the depression wounds yourself. Praying for God to grant you all you need to see you through this time safely.
I believe this anger and rage is a part of this illness itself. And yet there is that part of me that acknowledges this symptoms wounds others and the depression wounds yourself. Praying for God to grant you all you need to see you through this time safely.
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Yes thank you so very much. It helps to know that is part of the illness. I was never angry before all my meds i think they bump me more towards the mania than the depression. And it's a whole new skill set to learn to deal with anger than to cope thru depression. I so appreciate you...and all of you for your support during this time for me.
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I so remember that time! And how it felt so weird to actually feel like talking to people in public and how I wanted to decrease my meds or something and my doc just said, you know other people call th9is normal behavior.
With the anger though it did take awhile to have the skill set to get there. Our couples therapy helped as my dh has depression and his own anger issues and boy could we sure wake the neighborhood and truly wound each other and I would end up sobbing and suicidal! Still happens to some degree, but not as severe and not as loud. We both have better coping skills and have come to an agreement about warning signs, so that I can clue my hubby into the fact that I am irritable and so it is a dangerous time for both of us. Now if he could just be self aware enough to do the same. . .
Anyway, I do want to let you know that am leaving for an out of town conference for two days and will not have comp access. I will be back Saturday, but know my prayers are with you! Please take care of yourself!
With the anger though it did take awhile to have the skill set to get there. Our couples therapy helped as my dh has depression and his own anger issues and boy could we sure wake the neighborhood and truly wound each other and I would end up sobbing and suicidal! Still happens to some degree, but not as severe and not as loud. We both have better coping skills and have come to an agreement about warning signs, so that I can clue my hubby into the fact that I am irritable and so it is a dangerous time for both of us. Now if he could just be self aware enough to do the same. . .
Anyway, I do want to let you know that am leaving for an out of town conference for two days and will not have comp access. I will be back Saturday, but know my prayers are with you! Please take care of yourself!
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Yesterday was the day before Thanksgiving. I confessed to nurse practioner that I dread holidays; husband is always irritable on his days off, including weekends, and especially holidays.
She gave me some Xanax to go along with the Lamictal...only one bottle with no refill...to get me through the holidays.
Sometimes I feel sort of angry...why do I have to take all the drugs? Why can't he take some medicine and take some responsibility for his own anger problem?
She gave me some Xanax to go along with the Lamictal...only one bottle with no refill...to get me through the holidays.
Sometimes I feel sort of angry...why do I have to take all the drugs? Why can't he take some medicine and take some responsibility for his own anger problem?
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Seems we are on the same/or very similar path here. Xanax has truly been a life saver for me. AT first i was afraid to use it until "emergency time" then my therapist said i was in no danger of over using it and i should use it as needed. I use it a couple days a month but during those days I use it as directed sometimes the every 4 hours as needed. And well you know how i feel about lamitcal. It's a good one.
Make sure to do things that make you happy/take care of yourself in whatever form that is. That always helps me some. MOstly just forgetting about being careful and not rocking other peoples boats or trying to take care of them when i feel like this.
Sending hugs and prayers.
I am sorry to hear that you relate to my struggle. As you can see in my other post i'm tracking with you. My hubby will never take med's even tylenol when he has a big fever. I think that's stupid. But whatever to each their own.
Seems we are on the same/or very similar path here. Xanax has truly been a life saver for me. AT first i was afraid to use it until "emergency time" then my therapist said i was in no danger of over using it and i should use it as needed. I use it a couple days a month but during those days I use it as directed sometimes the every 4 hours as needed. And well you know how i feel about lamitcal. It's a good one.
Make sure to do things that make you happy/take care of yourself in whatever form that is. That always helps me some. MOstly just forgetting about being careful and not rocking other peoples boats or trying to take care of them when i feel like this.
Sending hugs and prayers.
I am sorry to hear that you relate to my struggle. As you can see in my other post i'm tracking with you. My hubby will never take med's even tylenol when he has a big fever. I think that's stupid. But whatever to each their own.
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Many men do seem to have an issue with need of medication, and many won't go to counseling.
My DH was kind enough to go to counseling when I asked him too, and we had some marriage counseling sessions too. It helped....but what really helps us the most is the Lord.
Every time I surrender to the Lord and my husband doesn't....things just seem to get worse. But If I surrender my day to the Lord and I can see that my husband has done so also...we seem to have a much easier time communicating without hurting each other.
The Lord is really the One who holds things together.
The bad thing, berry, is that you can't make your husband submit to the Lord. (As you well know!)
I am going to be praying for your husband and you. It is very easy to care about you. We do have a lot in common.
My DH was kind enough to go to counseling when I asked him too, and we had some marriage counseling sessions too. It helped....but what really helps us the most is the Lord.
Every time I surrender to the Lord and my husband doesn't....things just seem to get worse. But If I surrender my day to the Lord and I can see that my husband has done so also...we seem to have a much easier time communicating without hurting each other.
The Lord is really the One who holds things together.
The bad thing, berry, is that you can't make your husband submit to the Lord. (As you well know!)
I am going to be praying for your husband and you. It is very easy to care about you. We do have a lot in common.
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