So check this out. I have been going to church for roughly two and a half years. Prior to this it has been 21 yrs of no church and no moral boundaries. I have done it all I am not a virgin I have done drugs drinking you name it I probably have done it. My dilemma, I want to ask out a girl at church but I feel like I am not good enough. I am normally self confident and have no problem asking girls out. But I feel if I get close and they find out what I have done it will turn them away. I am successful and active and most important I love Jesus. So I feel I am a good "catch". Also when I am at church and everyone is talking I feel like I don't have very much in common with most people. There like "I am going to Hume lake this summer" And I am like "What is Hume lake" lol Well I had to get this off my chest so thanks and God bless.
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Feeling unworthy
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I believe the Church should be about acceptance. That said, your past... I see it more as how God has worked in your life and brought you to now. I think it's awesome.
Are you ashamed of your past, or do you think others will be ashamed? Or both?
I think when it comes to yourself (which is important as well), you should also realize the kind of testimony you have. We all make mistakes. Some have grown up in situations that are difficult and therefore have gone down different paths (I don't make excuses, but am merely thinking realistically). I know some people who seem to have pristine lives, but they've also come from pretty simple lives (comparatively speaking). I don't know...Those people have rarely been much influence to me. Then I see other people who have struggled, gone through their own battle, but in the end, I can really see God's grace working in them. That I find amazing. So about being good enough...What are you now? Go off that. Hopefully, the church you are at won't judge you wrongly, nor will this girl.
haha I've never felt I had much in common with those around me...even at church. But...I am who I am. I know what God has done. I have experienced in the past where I felt I wasn't as good as the others, but that kind of belief nearly destroyed me.
Are you ashamed of your past, or do you think others will be ashamed? Or both?
I think when it comes to yourself (which is important as well), you should also realize the kind of testimony you have. We all make mistakes. Some have grown up in situations that are difficult and therefore have gone down different paths (I don't make excuses, but am merely thinking realistically). I know some people who seem to have pristine lives, but they've also come from pretty simple lives (comparatively speaking). I don't know...Those people have rarely been much influence to me. Then I see other people who have struggled, gone through their own battle, but in the end, I can really see God's grace working in them. That I find amazing. So about being good enough...What are you now? Go off that. Hopefully, the church you are at won't judge you wrongly, nor will this girl.
haha I've never felt I had much in common with those around me...even at church. But...I am who I am. I know what God has done. I have experienced in the past where I felt I wasn't as good as the others, but that kind of belief nearly destroyed me.
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I'd suggest you pray about it, and receive affirmation that this girl is right for you. If God says yes, you better go for it!
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You should ask her out, if it doesnt work out then you know for sure it wont work. Otherwise you be left to wonder what things would of been like if you had talk to her.
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First off thank you for your words of encouragement. I just got baptized today=) You guys have to understand all of this is new to me. I am just getting comfortable and having fun. This girl we will call her V is cool I talk to her at church often. I am going to pray and be thankful that I made it this far. Again thanks and god bless and ALOHA!!!
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the most important thing in all of that post was when you said "I love jesus"
With that in mind, the girl should respect your past and like you for who you are today.
My opinion would be to pray about it, then go ahead and talk to her!
With that in mind, the girl should respect your past and like you for who you are today.
My opinion would be to pray about it, then go ahead and talk to her!
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