Feeling so blue

[amber4099]

I don't know what to do.... When I married my husband he was going to church with me. He was never into church before but seemed to be willing to go for me. All seemed well and I thought that he would be saved before long. Well after we got married he started getting really fowl when we would leave services, cussing and just being generally angry (once leaving me pregnant on the side of the road, though he did come back after a couple minutes) then he just stopped going. Now he makes my life miserable saying that I am filling our kids heads with lies and myths. Saying that christianity has as much truth as greek mythology and he once even through out all of the kids christian books and dvds. The other day I went out to the library and came home with some stuff. He held out his hands and asked what I had. I told him nothing he'd be interested in. He grabbed it and started yelling at me because I had gotten the dvd Creatures that defy evolution. I don't know what to do, he treats me like I am so stupid....

 

[pete56]

Oh Sister, this is really awful!

And now you have come to UY seeking advice from folk in the same predicament. That is a wise move, but we have moved our fellowship to here:

http://www.christcenteredforums.com/forum/forumdisplay.php/unequally-yoked-105.html

We decided we could not share properly in a place where non Christians were acting as Mods, so we relocated.

You are welcome to join us all over there.

In the mean time my main thought is - are you praying for him?

Pete

 

[Johnnz]

That is an unhappy situation. He is not all interested in God. You must not let him restrict your input into your children, or confine your faith. That will cause some conflict though.

I too would have some difficulty with that dvd I must confess. That line of thinking will turn off many thinking people.

John
NZ

 

[FundiMentalist]

I don't know what to do.... When I married my husband he was going to church with me. He was never into church before but seemed to be willing to go for me. All seemed well and I thought that he would be saved before long. Well after we got married he started getting really fowl when we would leave services, cussing and just being generally angry (once leaving me pregnant on the side of the road, though he did come back after a couple minutes) then he just stopped going. Now he makes my life miserable saying that I am filling our kids heads with lies and myths. Saying that christianity has as much truth as greek mythology and he once even through out all of the kids christian books and dvds. The other day I went out to the library and came home with some stuff. He held out his hands and asked what I had. I told him nothing he'd be interested in. He grabbed it and started yelling at me because I had gotten the dvd Creatures that defy evolution. I don't know what to do, he treats me like I am so stupid....

I would suggest you demonstrate the power of the Holy Spirit in your life. Miracles, transformed life, stuff like that.

Additionally I would suggest you ask Jesus to show up with evidence in hand.

That would show him.

 

[cory533]

Amber, it's a long walk but Jesus will be with you. Don't let nonbeleivers or even those who profess belief get you down or make you think you are the problem. Sin is the problem as you become light darkness will curse the light it has always been so.

 

[Tayorich]

Hi Amber,

Don't feel blue, you already have the victory!! I'm in the same boat as you and I always declare that my man doesn't have a choice in the matter. I walk in the fullness of my authority over my entire household, what I say goes, end of story!!

See your man saved and worshipping beside you in spirit and truth, never confess otherwise and more importantly always ask God for something or someone that is going change your man forever. Also win souls for the lord, and the souls you care about will be won as well.

This is one of those trying challenges that I believe every true Christian must face in order that you know that truly Jesus intercesses on our behalf, our angels are on standby and the Holy Spirit is truly our comforter and our guide. I'll leave you with these pointers:

(a) Do not get into strife; it takes two to have an arguement. Once your husband is in a 'mood' do as much as possible not to escalate the situation
(b) Let your behaviour demonstrate Christ. Do not fall into the same cycle that a lot of other women fall into ie making the man feel that he has fallen short as a result of his current thinking. Remember Jesus loves him just as much as he loves you, and even moreso now that there is a chance that he is losing your husband. You may be that only lifeline to him right now.

Continuing my point about behaviour, demonstrate love actively towards your husband. It will bring out the best in him - trust me!!! I know. I treat my baby like a king eventhough he hasn't got the message about Christ. He loves a spick and span house, I've always got his back, I make his business my business, I ensure he never has to ask twice for you know what....... and I never keep anything from him. When he decides to come to church with us, I don't make a fuss and likewise when he decides not to.

My role in all of this is to be 'Christlike'. Only the Holy Spirit can change the heart of any man.

 

[pete56]

Tayorich

As a fellow UY'd Christian here, I am interested in what exactly you see as 'the fullness of your authority ' in your household, particularly in the light of the scripture that tells wives to 'submit to their husbands'?

This really is not a trick question I am just intrigued to hear how you get past this obvious scripture to allow the UY'd man be the head of the household.

P

 

[Niffer]

I would suggest you demonstrate the power of the Holy Spirit in your life. Miracles, transformed life, stuff like that.

Additionally I would suggest you ask Jesus to show up with evidence in hand.

That would show him.

I don't know whether that was supposed to be sarcastic. rude or just a bad attempt at humour.
But I think you're opinion here offered nothing other than rudeness and lack of compassion.
This woman is asking for help and the best you can come up with is a sarcastic response?
If you can't say anything constructive or helpful - keep it to yourself please. You don't like Christians or Christianity? Don't hang around them.
Thanks.


Amber - I'm sorry he's been treating you that way, the yelling over the dvd's really seems quite extreme.
Have you asked him why he never wants to go to church or learn any more about Christianity, when he was so keen on it in the beginning?
If nothing else, sit down and try to have a good talk with him.
Point out that he knew your beliefs and had no issue with them when you were dating, and that you will teach your children what you believe.
Admit that you cannot change his mind or heart and accept that you cannot "make" him Christian.
Ask him to come to church with you, but don't force him. Pray for him, but don't badger him about "conversion" . . the more you push, the more he'll push back.
Read Proverbs 31 - and live your life according to our faith, be a witness to him through your life and don't push him towards it.

The only thing I would insist on, is allowing yourself and your children the ability to go to church and to have Christian material in your household.
If he doesn't like the dvd's - he doesn't need to watch them. Or same with read the books or listen to the music.
It's hard and tough being split like that - but pray hard and long and ask for wisdom and the best way to be a witness to him.

Good luck Hun,
~ Niff