Feeling Not wanted by family

[kat]

I know my family loves me, but they are indiffrent having me around. I live in another state and I am the youngest of 5 kids. I pray but struggle with the hurt in my heart from family. I want to be close to them socially and emotionally, but that is not coming back to me. What should I do?

 

[Johnnz]

Not easy. You may need to take some initiatives. Or talking through things with a suitable person may help. Sometimes a parent's love is deeper than we perceive.

John
NZ

 

[drich0150]

I'd also look at your expectations from your family, and ask yourself is the family truly capable of giving me what I want, given the current situation.

 

[Anti Existance]

I would try to invest love and care and taking initiative(but not expecting something back) by suggesting to do nice things along with them.

Its wrong to do an investment of love and expecting something back for it, because if they dissapoint you you will refrain from giving and being a lovely individual in the future, you need to be like a star, shining light and love unconditionally regardless of what happens, or wether you are loved or not, because you need to focus on positive results and not letting negative results let you down.

 

[DRL]

When I married and left home, my husband's job took us from CA to NJ and Connecticut. I wrote all kinds of letters home and no one answered me. I was disappointed and hurt. When we returned to CA for a year, I was reassured the family loved me. Then my husband's job took us to Montreal, Quebec. I did not write home because I knew I would not get an answer. I also did not tell them when I was pregnant. After I had my baby, I let them know. Surprised them all, as they all knew I did not want kids.
What I have learned is to have a gratitude list and when I feel lonely, out of sorts for what ever reason, I go through that gratitude list. It keeps me focused on God.
Diana

 

[janny108]

I think sometimes we forget our families are people too and expect too much. Our situation is strange. It's not close, there is a lot of denial, codependency, indirectness in expressing self which you can imagine is problematic.
Focus on what is good and fellowship with God's family.
Jan