Feeling like a failure

[~ Gig ~]

I have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group. I've been serving the Lord for a long time and have struggled with with this forever, but a couple months ago I was asked to say a blessing at a lunch with unsaved coworkers and couldn't. I've been beating myself up ever since why am I like this. I love the Lord and wants to get over this fear. But I just keep failing.

 

[sandman]

I remember running my first home fellowship years ago...I didn't do well, I had a tape as back up and played that.
I am not sure what will work for you, but we both have/had the desire to bless Gods people.

I would set up my little brothers toys and some stuffed animals (when nobody was around) and teach to them...and I think I converted some of them too. It took several times of practice to feel comfortable but I finally started teaching the fellowships ...Now I find myself teaching to groups of hundreds.
You can practice like I did ...Until your comfortable....Once you get comfortable ...then conquer the fear by volunteering to pray. Just pray from your heart ...you can never go wrong when you do that.

 

[public hermit]

I have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group. I've been serving the Lord for a long time and have struggled with with this forever, but a couple months ago I was asked to say a blessing at a lunch with unsaved coworkers and couldn't. I've been beating myself up ever since why am I like this. I love the Lord and wants to get over this fear. But I just keep failing.

Praying out loud in front of others is hard. I don't think you should beat yourself up at all. We are often taught that we should always be very up front and vocal about our faith. But there is a time for everything, and sometimes it's good not to caste those pearls into just any old situation. You were asked to pray among those who might not share your faith. That's significant and an added pressure beyond praying out loud in front of like-minded folks. Let it go, perhaps the Spirit was moving and kept you from praying. Either way, it doesn't matter. Be kind to yourself and allow God to do what God does best, turn situations that seem like failures into God's will.

 

[iLearn]

God gives you a focus to work on. I also dream of not being afraid anymore and want to shout in front of everyone that Jesus is my Lord! Let them mock me.

 

[Aussie Pete]

I have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group. I've been serving the Lord for a long time and have struggled with with this forever, but a couple months ago I was asked to say a blessing at a lunch with unsaved coworkers and couldn't. I've been beating myself up ever since why am I like this. I love the Lord and wants to get over this fear. But I just keep failing.

It's called being self conscious. Ask Lord Jesus to be your boldness.

I went from someone who could barely speak at the best of times to public speaking in front of 300 strangers, many of them engineers smarter than I am. I spent a good deal of time talking to the mirror so I had the presentation down pat. It worked. I prayed before I started, of course. It is God who set me free from the fear of man.

This may sound foolish, but I suggest that you find somewhere really quiet, away from anyone, and pray out loud. Write something out if you have to. Get used to the sound of you own voice. And when you pray in a group, remind yourself that you are speaking to God, not to the group.

Start studying who God has made you to be in Christ. When that sinks in, you will have no problem, because you will see yourself as God sees you. Lord Jesus had no problem praying publicly, Since He is your life now, why should you have a problem? Remember that God has not given us a spirit of fear. Resist the devil and he will flee. Command fear to leave you in Jesus name.

 

[aiki]

I have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group. I've been serving the Lord for a long time and have struggled with with this forever, but a couple months ago I was asked to say a blessing at a lunch with unsaved coworkers and couldn't. I've been beating myself up ever since why am I like this. I love the Lord and wants to get over this fear. But I just keep failing.

Fear always originates with Self, the "old man" of Romans 6:6, the person you are apart from God's control, who is concerned with being protected from embarrassment, or hurt, wanting to serve itself above all else. When Self is in control, things of God grow difficult, exhausting, even impossible. This is a serious problem because no one can be a disciple of Christ without dying to Self. (Matthew 16:24-25; John 12:24-25; Galatians 2:20) As Christ's ambassador, you may be called upon to lead others spiritually, to pray aloud in public, to share the Gospel, to reject and challenge sin in others, to teach God's truth. How will you do these things when you are so concerned about yourself that they become impossible? Only one can rule on the throne of your heart. Will it be God seated there? Or you? When He is enthroned in your heart, ruling over you, the natural result is the death of Self - and the ability to pray publicly (among other things).

 

[iLearn]

But shyness itself is a sin. Look at Adam and Eve the first thing they notice was their nakedness and they were ashamed of themselves. Children have no shame and they are perfect in God's sight.

I hate my shyness because shyness is just another face of my pride.

 

[Tolworth John]

have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group

There are three things you need to do.
Confess your failure and accept God's forgiveness. Stop beating yourself up.

Next write out a couple of basic prayers, prayer for healing, for blessing, of praise and thanks.
Have space for people.es names and different situations havetheseoncarcs you canpul. Out and read inaprayer meeting g.

Last just do it.God does't care about polished words orstuttering words, it is the intent of our heart as translated by the spirit living gin us that matters

 

[aiki]

But shyness itself is a sin. Look at Adam and Eve the first thing they notice was their nakedness and they were ashamed of themselves. Children have no shame and they are perfect in God's sight.

Perfect in God's sight? No. Only innocent. When they are old enough to understand that they are imperfect, sinners, God demands of them repentance, confession of sin, and faith in Christ, too.

Shyness is a sin only when it prompts you to act contrary to God's will. Being shy about giving a speech in public is different than being shy about speaking with God on behalf of others.

 

[Lost4words]

I have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group. I've been serving the Lord for a long time and have struggled with with this forever, but a couple months ago I was asked to say a blessing at a lunch with unsaved coworkers and couldn't. I've been beating myself up ever since why am I like this. I love the Lord and wants to get over this fear. But I just keep failing.

You are NOT a failure!

Not everyone can stand up in front of a crowd and speak etc.

Be yourself. If that means quietly praying then that is fine.

God can see your heart. He knows your love for Him is forever strong.

Ask God for guidance my friend.

Pray, dont worry.

God bless you

 

[Lost4words]

There are three things you need to do.
Confess your failure and accept God's forgiveness. Stop beating yourself up.

Next write out a couple of basic prayers, prayer for healing, for blessing, of praise and thanks.
Have space for people.es names and different situations havetheseoncarcs you canpul. Out and read inaprayer meeting g.

Last just do it.God does't care about polished words orstuttering words, it is the intent of our heart as translated by the spirit living gin us that matters

He is NOT a failure!

 

[Dave G.]

Performance anxiety, you need to just let it come from your heart. Keep it short at first. Effective prayers don't have to be long sermons but should come off naturally. Heck some of my most effective prayers in private with the Lord are short, He wants our heart not a lecture, He already knows our needs. So too much gets to be lip service anyway.

Remember it's not about us but God's glory, let the Spirit guide your words and do the blessing in the name of Jesus. Simple " Father we come before you recognizing your power and giving you the glory, we ask this blessing over ( whatever things or persons you are blessing), we give you all honor and praise you and thank you, in the name of Jesus, amen".

 

[SANTOSO]

I have a terrible fear of praying out loud in a group. I've been serving the Lord for a long time and have struggled with with this forever, but a couple months ago I was asked to say a blessing at a lunch with unsaved coworkers and couldn't. I've been beating myself up ever since why am I like this. I love the Lord and wants to get over this fear. But I just keep failing.

Beloved one, don’t focus on what you can’t do. Don’t say what you can’t do. But pray, believe that you receive them. And it will be yours. Beloved one, ask the Lord for His strength that you may pray rightly before others.! Nothing is impossible when you are with God. So be with God, believe that He leads you aright.

 

[Tolworth John]

He is NOT a failure!

His words not mine.

If one honestly wants to help then one has to start where a person is.

 

[Aaron112]

spirit of fear/ being timid. Not from God.
spirit of power, love and sound mind. From God.
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A Spirit of Power, Love and Sound Mind​

The phrase "spirit of power, love, and a sound mind" is derived from 2 Timothy 1:7, where Paul encourages Timothy, stating,

"For God hath not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." 123+2 This verse emphasizes that God provides believers with power, love, and a sound mind to guide them in their faith and daily lives."

His words not mine.

If one honestly wants to help then one has to start where a person is.

 

[Angelina G]

I had the same problem when I first joined a home group, and I found myself feeling out of my depth, praying within a group, but practice seems to make things easier. You have to try and get your focus off yourself and onto the task itself. You have to have the mindset of how your words are going to impact others around you as you diligently seek God for the right words to bless others. It really becomes easier as you continue to lean on the Lord for inspiration. Sometimes memorizing a scripture and bouncing off that really helps, and it doesn't have to be long and drawn out. Just simple and to the point until you get more confident, and the Holy Spirit will guide you as you go along. Blessings.

 

[JacquelineDeane55]

Do you mean you are afraid of witnessing to people? Talking to unbelievers about your faith? I think we have all gone through that. Christians are persecuted in other countries outside the USA after all. So its natural to think that something here might happen as well, even though that is against the law. Remember the Columbine High School Shootings of 1999? There was a young female student there who was shot and killed for her faith! We might think that's unthinkable, but there are evil people out there that will try to kill you over something as silly as religion. That girl is definitely a martyr in my eyes. She died for what she believed in.

I guess what I just said doesn't make you any braver to share your faith, does it? Sorry. I went through a time as well when at one of my past churches I used to attend we would go out and knock on people's doors and tell them about Christ. We went in large groups though to prevent things like being shot from happening, as dramatic as that sounds. Worked nicely. It's like a security protocol.