A few months ago i feel go put me into the life of a girl struggling with drugs among other thing,to be a christian influence.IT was really amazing she made a complete turn around with gods help.but then her boyfriend went and got her right back on drugs.And now things are worse then they ever were before,it feels like god just stopped helping,i dont understand why he would let some one come so far for nothing like that.I fell totally powerless in the situation and almost wish i had never even talked to her. any advice or prayers would be very apreciated.
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Keep praying for her. God has not given up on her. It was your friends choice to go back to drugs.
I will pray for her and I will pray for you.
God bless you
Roberta
I will pray for her and I will pray for you.
God bless you
Roberta
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All in all, each one of us makes our own decisions. God never gave up on her, instead, she put things in front of Him as far as priorities go. I, too, say that the best thing that you can do for her is to pray, and pray hard. Aside from that, be a good friend and try to remind her that she had the God-given strength to win a battle against drugs the first time, if she would like to win the war now. I know that it can't be easy to watch, especially not with her having a boyfriend who doesn't love her enough to want her to be healthy. You know, not only will I pray for her, but I think that he really needs our prayers too. Maybe if God works him over and changes his view on life, he will no longer be the negative influence on your friend that he is, making it easier for her to better herself. 
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yeah it is really hard to watch,i hardly ever talk to her anymore and when i do she does'nt rember it the next day.her guyfreind does'nt let her talk to me,im not a sexist christian,i have tried talking to him several time he usually gets mad.IM really trying to avoid getting into a fight with the guy,he hates me even though i have never given him any reason to,i guess that means im doing the right thing 
i dont know how i get myself into these situations......
i dont know how i get myself into these situations......
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Josh,
Something to remember is that God is in complete control here. Even though it's hard to see now, God has a reason for everything. He must still have plans for her, she may need to hit rock bottom before she cries out to him now, that's something we just don't know. But the important thing is she knows the way! There may be other people she'll meet through what she's doing now, who's lives might be touched by what she's going through right now, at a later time. If she does decide to turn her life around.
Sometimes we just have to deliver a message, then step back and let God take care of the rest, and trust in him to do it. Keep her in your prayers and ask God for his guidance in this situation, don't try to handle it on your own because it's just too big, and only God knows how to handle it.
Something to remember is that God is in complete control here. Even though it's hard to see now, God has a reason for everything. He must still have plans for her, she may need to hit rock bottom before she cries out to him now, that's something we just don't know. But the important thing is she knows the way! There may be other people she'll meet through what she's doing now, who's lives might be touched by what she's going through right now, at a later time. If she does decide to turn her life around.
Sometimes we just have to deliver a message, then step back and let God take care of the rest, and trust in him to do it. Keep her in your prayers and ask God for his guidance in this situation, don't try to handle it on your own because it's just too big, and only God knows how to handle it.
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tanks for the advice but its really hard to just step back and let god handle everything especially when things just keep getting worse. 
I guess i should be more patient and trusting and stop worrying.
I guess i should be more patient and trusting and stop worrying.
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I know how hard it is to step back, I have had to do just that. With my own brother. Not so much having anything to do with drugs, but many other things. I would love to see him start living his life for the Lord, but whatever happens now is in the Lords hands. I spoke the words I needed to, to him, and that's all I can do, and I could only do what the Lord wanted me to do. The rest is up to God now. I do however take comfort in the fact that no matter what happens to him now, I did what I was led to do.
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I definatley did what i was led to do,i tend to try to blame myself and think i did'nt do enough but if that were true i supose god would have never sent me to begin with. And i suppose i can see how god is using this to show her how much she needs him,i just hope she does'nt have to get hurt for that to happen.
thanks for talking to me,it sucks not having anyone to talk to!
thanks for talking to me,it sucks not having anyone to talk to!
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I know what you mean, remember we always have God to talk to. I'll say a prayer for you all 
and pray that the Lord will keep her from being harmed.
and pray that the Lord will keep her from being harmed.
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wow.. I know a bit what you feel like...
I know it's hard to always trust in God having a perfect plan and give your worries to him, but try, he's there and will comfort you no way of God letting you down !! prayed for ya, God Bless you
I know it's hard to always trust in God having a perfect plan and give your worries to him, but try, he's there and will comfort you
no way of God letting you down !! prayed for ya, God Bless you
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Blessed-one
a long journey ahead
it's good that you're not giving up on her. There must be a purpose with your being there at this time of hour.
i agree with GraftMeIn, when you've done all you could, remember that God is faithful.
Praying for her.
i agree with GraftMeIn, when you've done all you could, remember that God is faithful.
Praying for her.
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Jesus answered them, "When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, 'I will return to my house from which I came.' And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first. "
A person who puts some addiction out their life through willpower cannot overcome it forever. No person can clean up their own life for very long. Those same desires and temptations will come back, worse than before, because the addiction was filling up an empty place in their heart. Jesus spoke about this in the above passage.
Unless that empty space gets filled up by a relationship with God, the addictions will just keep coming back.
The thing to do for her is to set her out on a journey toward God and let Him fill her heart with His love. Then there won't be any room for the addiction anymore!
A person who puts some addiction out their life through willpower cannot overcome it forever. No person can clean up their own life for very long. Those same desires and temptations will come back, worse than before, because the addiction was filling up an empty place in their heart. Jesus spoke about this in the above passage.
Unless that empty space gets filled up by a relationship with God, the addictions will just keep coming back.
The thing to do for her is to set her out on a journey toward God and let Him fill her heart with His love. Then there won't be any room for the addiction anymore!
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"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." -Proverbs 3:5-6
I'm glad you've realized that you don't have any power over the situation. That's a good thing, despite your feeling helpless about it. Only God can fix it, so just give it all to Him and you will be amazed at what He can do if you only let Him.
I'm glad you've realized that you don't have any power over the situation. That's a good thing, despite your feeling helpless about it. Only God can fix it, so just give it all to Him and you will be amazed at what He can do if you only let Him.
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