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Hi everyone.
Why is it that you get a phone call sometimes, which is nice from people and then you find out that part of the reason they are ringing is they want you go to a church meeting. Im fed up of making the effort all the time and ringing people when they dont even bother about me. Or they just want something thats the reason for the call. Im feeling down today. :cry: Please help me. :help:
 

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I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so down.
Why did they want you to go to the meeting? Maybe they wanted to see you or thought it would be good for you to go.
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Thanks for your reply.Because she is my cell leader and wants me to turn up thats the only reason she rang. She might be losing a few people off her group aswell. So its even more important to her I turn up.Im sorry but I just dont care today. Its all too much. I really dont care. :cry: :cry: :help:
 
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Thanks for your reply.Because she is my cell leader and wants me to turn up thats the only reason she rang. She might be losing a few people off her group aswell. So its even more important to her I turn up.Im sorry but I just dont care today. Its all too much. I really dont care. :cry: :cry: :help:
I'm so sorry, just hang in there. People really do care about you, I hope you feel better soon.
 
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I'm so sorry, just hang in there. People really do care about you, I hope you feel better soon.
Thanks TLB I really dont feel like people care :( Just very much alone. Think you'll all get fed up with me. Cant talk to anyone apart from here. Im very withdrawn. Feeling distressed. :cry: :cry: :help:
 
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What will happen if you just accept the state?
You know people care by remembering when you felt better and didn't think that way. It seems like the wrong thought, the delsuion now but it's reality. Can you ride it out or will your harm yourself?
Part of the trap is that you don't want to be where you are now which makes sense emotionally but not psychologically. Fighting it makes it stronger, make a big deal of it and it will of you, it's mutual
I don't mean there is nothing to do about it but release control and the idea there is a second person aside from yourself who can fix this give up in the right way if that makes sense
of course God loves you, if someone as selfish and flawed as I do than obviously God does
you are seeing through a Glass Darkly, yea it sux
just hold to logic and accept, there is nothing wrong with you
I know I sound cold but all my attempts are for any word to help, anything ya know?
bless you always
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Hi everyone.
Why is it that you get a phone call sometimes, which is nice from people and then you find out that part of the reason they are ringing is they want you go to a church meeting. Im fed up of making the effort all the time and ringing people when they dont even bother about me. Or they just want something thats the reason for the call. Im feeling down today. :cry: Please help me. :help:
maybe they want you to go to a church meeting, so you will be spiritual fed and grow as a believer?
 
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Hi everyone.
Why is it that you get a phone call sometimes, which is nice from people and then you find out that part of the reason they are ringing is they want you go to a church meeting. Im fed up of making the effort all the time and ringing people when they dont even bother about me. Or they just want something thats the reason for the call. Im feeling down today. :cry: Please help me. :help:
Hi, I can really understand how you feel. However, I think it's right that God may have really impressed on your cell group leader for you to be there.

It does sound like at the moment you're missing some more nurturing friendships. I think Unity's post about praying to God for some friends would really help. Hang on in there, i was in a position where I didn't feel I could really connect to people and wasn't getting my needs met - but now I have a few closer friends and, after all, I think only God can meet those really deep needs
 
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hi Jo i understand how you feel. i know it can really be upsetting particularly when yu want people to see the way you feel as against spiritualising it. It happened to mary when she wept and kissed the feet of Jesus and wiped his feet. Remember every1 tried to run spirituality on it but Jesus cut them short. There is a time to act spiritual and do spiritual things but wht yu reaklly need first of all is someone to listen to yu.I must warn that yu shouldnt be isolated from the church as its meant to help yu and yu should be around believers. but dealing with issue first of all, whats the problem, why do yu feel down, do want to share it, if yu do i am sure yu will feel better. when was the last time yu made yurself happy because the truth is yu need to be happy. Yur curent actions and posts are based on how yu feel. From the sounds of it yu have given a lot of love and care out but obviously not received much in return. Welcome to the real world. but do yu know God has a way of showing us so much love that takes a way a lot of hurt. we expect people to appreciate us but we are not appreciated, we expect ppl to understand us but they dont, they seem to demand much more from us and sometimes when we cant give we are castigated. Is that how yu feel? God has a way of healing such wounds and yu have got to take a step to your happiness, which is the most important thing.

If yu r upset everything around yu wont work right, yu will have little or no sleep, yu will be easily agitated and snappy. are yu feeling that way now? if yes whats the problem. From the way yu sound yu are hardworking and yu go the extra mile to do a lot of things for people, CAN I TELL YU A SECRET GOD WILL NEVER FORGET YUR LABOR OF LOVE.at the right time he rewards yu. i have experienced that many times.He shows up when yu least expect and that comforts yu all the way. Try as much as possible to ;ove without expecting anything in return. It is more blessed to give than receive. i jsut came home now and my wife gave me a testimony. my son who is 3 and half mths started the nursery last week and he is meant to pay £750 each month. that obviously is an addition to my budget and it means i have got to do more over time. My wife is schooling doing child psychology as a second degree to fulfil Gods call on her life and she is marvellous with children. She has to do a placement in a nursery so for the past 10mths i have been feeding 3 people myself inclusive that excludes my sowing charity work etc. i try as much as posible to put a smile on ppls face. i deal with vulnerable ppl also and counsel drug addicts etcits sometimes tiring when yu have got to give and give and give, i just started a website for people to share whats on their mind andi could help them. www.whatsonyourmind.org.uk i gave yu a background history so yu know how occupied i am and i still have church and fellowship to attend and obviously i work as an IT advisor in a telecoms comp.

people demand so much from me and sometimes i feel tired and ask dont ppl understand all but God is faithful.To drive the testimony home i just came in and my wife stated my sons nursery has waived 2mths payment for the nursery because she is doing her placements there. I feel so joyous and so elated. It makes me forget who wronged me how upset i was with anyone etc because God has a way of taking my mind off the pressures.

TRUST ME HE SHOWS UP AT THE RIGHT TIME. Please feel to pm or visit www.whatsonyourmind.org.uk to talk if yu want to. I hope this has helped so far.

God Bless
 
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