feeling down

[Jo1]

Hi all
just been to a christmas social at a friends house. well i struggled. generally feeling down, not sure if i really fit in at all. i went in a room at the end with a friends kids watching a film, i know its a bit of a cop out. i felt more comfortable there.Just feel depressed really, people were laughing and so forth. oh well least i didnt walk out done that in the past.told someone im suffering from depression on sunday and they said i should go doctors and get some anti-depressents. ive been on them before the first time was ok. the second time i went on them it was mainly due to people saying i should go on them, i didnt feel at peace about it. for some reason, i think the doctor give me too high dose of them i had a really bad reaction to the pills and i dont want to go through all that again. it took me ages to recover from that. love you all lots xx

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Are you depressed because of the holidays or just depressed in general ?
Is there something going on in your life that might be making your feelings of depression worse?
I agree that sometimes you can separate yourself slightly from something (the party for you) and still get an inkling of being there.
I've done that myself or rather, tend to.
What if you started on anti-depressants with a lower dosage and work up if you feel you need to. I know that I was absolutely against them till my feelings became overwhelming. I sought help and have seen some difference with the drugs. Life is still hard... sometimes seemingly too hard. Something to consider....?

 

[LoG]

I just ran across a site that has lots of good info on what causes depression and how to overcome it without the use of meds.
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk

 

[Gentle]

I have the same question, is it the holidays only or all the time. If it's just the holidays I wouldn't use mind altering drugs for something so trasitional unless your pain is too much of course.
If it is the holidays, you defintely are not alone, just take a look at the posts of Xmas misery left and right all over the board. You know it's all too unnatural b/c we are supposed to force or will ourselves to be happy and as soon as a person does that you get the opposite effect. We expect of ourselves or think others want us to be like some Jimmy Stewart, Bing Crosby White Christmas kinda deal that's a fiction. And we simply cannot force happiness although we can be happy by not grasping at it.
I'd try focusing on Jesus, that it's the celebration of His birth and try to take the focus more of yourself.
It's a trap of being self consious about or own being and feelings and this idea we have a seperate "I" who can and should be able to control these things, as if outside ourselves; this in itself is much of the problem of depression...this attempt to control the mind when t's not really possible as there isn't that seperate "I" who controls things. I'm not saying we can't discipline the mind but not by this other "I" , this knowing that I know...this self consiouness. We need to just flow more, not put so much thought into our thoughts but simply observe them as passively as we can without judging them or trying to figure out what they mean. Much of it is just passive acceptance of self.
And again who is depressed? You. But who are 'you' You aren't your emotions any more than you are your nose
after all cut out all pain and you start to cut out parts of yourself and pain isn't a negative thing, but just is really and I've had so much of it in the past in so many ways. Health, then mind
God bless you and smile!
they rest are prob just better fakes than you anyways lol

Gentle

 

[Jeshu]

A pain being so depressed just before Christmas, I hope and pray that you will be feeling beter soon.

Praying you will have a happy Christmas and a blessed New Year.


Gerry

 

[Amin]

Hi all
just been to a christmas social at a friends house. well i struggled. generally feeling down, not sure if i really fit in at all. i went in a room at the end with a friends kids watching a film, i know its a bit of a cop out. i felt more comfortable there.Just feel depressed really, people were laughing and so forth. oh well least i didnt walk out done that in the past.told someone im suffering from depression on sunday and they said i should go doctors and get some anti-depressents. ive been on them before the first time was ok. the second time i went on them it was mainly due to people saying i should go on them, i didnt feel at peace about it. for some reason, i think the doctor give me too high dose of them i had a really bad reaction to the pills and i dont want to go through all that again. it took me ages to recover from that. love you all lots xx

Ya know, I'd probably do the same thing.
Everytime i get invited somewhere i
automatically think of what it will be like.
What a Bummer. I sit there and think; look at all these people having fun and
i have to feel like this.
Ya know, I'm starting to think, why shouldn't people like you and me enjoy ourselves? Just because we're feeling down doesn't mean for a couple of hours we can't enjoy the time. But i know that it is hard to do. I'm going to be praying that God give you a feeling of unity when you go somewhere the next time. Hey, fun is fun. you should have some as much as the next person.
Here's to fun and you being on the same page.:thumbs-up:
Bless You Jo1
Chuck.

 

[Jo1]

Ya know, I'd probably do the same thing.
Everytime i get invited somewhere i
automatically think of what it will be like.
What a Bummer. I sit there and think; look at all these people having fun and
i have to feel like this.
Ya know, I'm starting to think, why shouldn't people like you and me enjoy ourselves? Just because we're feeling down doesn't mean for a couple of hours we can't enjoy the time. But i know that it is hard to do. I'm going to be praying that God give you a feeling of unity when you go somewhere the next time. Hey, fun is fun. you should have some as much as the next person.
Here's to fun and you being on the same page.:thumbs-up:
Bless You Jo1
Chuck.

yes amen chuck completly agree with you. Why cant we enjoy ourselves we've got just as much right as everyone else. Will pray for you too. yes here's to FUNNNNNNNNNN.......thumbs up to you too mate
Youre just GREATTTTTTTTT
Bless you Chuck

 

[Jo1]

Thanks everyone for all your replies. To answer your question its not just cos its Christmas but in general been feeling depressed.thanks also for that link about depression too. God bless you all Jo

 

[ArmouredSaint]

agree with you guys- a helpful thread