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Maharg

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I should be grateful if people could pray for me to be less defensive and paranoid.

Lately I keep on getting really offended at things people are saying to me or even if I read someone's journal, and it is someone that I have contact with and they express annoyance in their journal, I think it's at me. I keep interpreting people's behaviour as being because they have a gripe with me, and believeing people are annoyed and angry with me.

The thing is, I know that it's probably in my head but it's scary having these sorts of thoughts and not feeling in control of them. I feel as though I am not judging reality properly and that is quite scary.

Please pray that I will stop thinking like this - that Christ will come right into the centre of my thoughts: that I will not be concerned about myself or what people think of me, but that I would respond to others only with lovingkindness and having the desire to show the Father to them.

Thank you so much for your help,

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Praying for you sister

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of Gods mercy to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God - this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the patterns of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you wil be able to test and approve what Gods will is - His good pleasing and perfect will.

Romans 12:1-2
 
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Dun worry lady, everything will be fine. Trust God.

Father, My Lord,
This lady need your guidance and her mind need to be fill up with Your Holiness. I pray to You to fill her heart up with Your Agape. I pray You will cleanse all the unholy thinking from her mind and heart. She dun mean what she have said or done to others. I pray to You in forgiving her. She need You now more than ever. I trust You will shine Your Holiness to herself, bringing righteous to her mind and heart. Her love to others will reflect Your love to her. Show to her that You love her very much.
In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.
 
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Please pray that I will stop thinking like this - that Christ will come right into the centre of my thoughts: that I will not be concerned about myself or what people think of me, but that I would respond to others only with lovingkindness and having the desire to show the Father to them.
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Praying for you Maharg; May the Lord fill you with His peace and help your thoughts and feelings abate, so that you can feel He is a firm rock for you, a fortress in your difficulties and above all, a source of all that you need to respond to others in the way He would have you do.
Asking this in the name of Jesus the Lord
Amen
 
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Maharg said:
I should be grateful if people could pray for me to be less defensive and paranoid.

Lately I keep on getting really offended at things people are saying to me or even if I read someone's journal, and it is someone that I have contact with and they express annoyance in their journal, I think it's at me. I keep interpreting people's behaviour as being because they have a gripe with me, and believeing people are annoyed and angry with me.

The thing is, I know that it's probably in my head but it's scary having these sorts of thoughts and not feeling in control of them. I feel as though I am not judging reality properly and that is quite scary.

Please pray that I will stop thinking like this - that Christ will come right into the centre of my thoughts: that I will not be concerned about myself or what people think of me, but that I would respond to others only with lovingkindness and having the desire to show the Father to them.

Thank you so much for your help,

Amen.

Lord help this person and all of us when we become or feel like holding a grudge against people who rubbed us the wrong way and that we need to fill our thougts and hearts with only you at the center first and foremost of our lives and help us to know that you show your lovingkindness as well as your forgiveness when we fail you and that we need to lean on you for support and guidance as well as forgiveness and repentance. Amen!!
 
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Hey there I can relate with this problem to some degree. In my highschool years I suffered from this very same problem. I found that I was overly concerned with what people thought about me instead of what God thinks about me. I am praying for you and know that this is a battle the Lord can get you around.



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Heavenly Father, I pray for peace for this sister Father. May you lay your gentle hand on her and calm her soul. Allow her to center her thoughts and her mind completly on you Lord. Keep us oh Lord. ~Amen~ :prayer:



Love brother ~Justin~ :prayer:
 
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:pray:Lord, I pray for Maharg that you reveal to her the reasons for her fears and anger and that no problem is insurmountable; that you will work with her through each problem separately until these burdens are lifted and that along the way, and by your example, she will learn patience, forgiveness and longsuffering for others. In Jesus name, Amen.

You are much loved, Maharg! The Lord is telling me so in my heart. :hug:
 
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Maharg said:
Lately I keep on getting really offended at things people are saying to me or even if I read someone's journal, and it is someone that I have contact with and they express annoyance in their journal, I think it's at me. I keep interpreting people's behaviour as being because they have a gripe with me, and believeing people are annoyed and angry with me.

I just thought that i would say that you shouldn't have read someone's personal journal. I tend to journal too my thoughts, and at times it might be what i'm feeling in the moment towards that person but not how i feel about them all the time. There is plenty of room for misinterpretation but that's why journals should be kept private. I don't know if the person gave you pemission or not but you shouldn't take interest in what was journal because that's an easy way to get angry... just my 2 cents;)


Lord i ask that you help her to deal with her feelings. Let her take You as the center in her thoughts, life, and Spirit. Bless her to be kind and loving, let every word spoken be a blessing that comes out of her mouth. In Jesus name Amen
 
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I just thought that i would say that you shouldn't have read someone's personal journal. I tend to journal too my thoughts, and at times it might be what i'm feeling in the moment towards that person but not how i feel about them all the time. There is plenty of room for misinterpretation but that's why journals should be kept private. I don't know if the person gave you pemission or not but you shouldn't take interest in what was journal because that's an easy way to get angry... just my 2 cents;)





Perhaps I wasn't very clear. I wasn't reading someone's personal journal, but instead I read people's online journals: they know I am reading them and they read mine too. I would never look at someone's personal journal (or at least I hope I wouldn't) and you would be quite right to advise me against doing this if this is what I had been doing.

No one has made any direct comments about me in their journals. It's just that when people in their journals say that they are feeling angry or worried about something, I tend to think I might have done something, or feel angry, as though they are attacking me - even when I know they are not. It is completely irrational anger/fear, not based on reality, and this is why I get frightened and upset about having it. I read journals so that I can share in the journeys of people here on CF anf pray for them. This feeling is getting in the way of me doing this very well.

I do appreciate all the prayers so far and I'm not feeling quite so defensive/paranoid as I have at some points lately. I just want to be like Jesus. I want to be useful to people and be loving and kind and just think about them without worrying about myself and what they might be thinking of me. I want to be a useful person for God.
 
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Lord, be with Your daughther. She needs and desires Your guidance. May she be a light in dark places. May Your light shine inside of her forever and ever. Bless her so very much, Father. May she learn humility, for pride is the way of evil. Lord, humility is what You want from us. Guide Your daughter toward You. IN Jesus' Name, AMen.:prayer:
 
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Lord I don't know why Maharg is reacting this way...but You do...my first thought is a deep fear of people...Lord if this is true I pray for a diect word from You to her heart...and fill het up with Your Love Lord...make her know the Father's Love for her...leet deep peace and security some to her heart and mind.
 
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