It seems to me that you people are limiting God's abilities and God's grace.
Let's reduce my main problem - and we all agree it's a problem - to more simple terms:
I have a problem. I am afraid to put myself into situations with people I don't know, such as a new job or new church.
No problem is too big for God. He's made lame beggars walk and blind men see.
I've taken my problem to God and put in his hands.
I have faith that he'll respond in his perfect timing.
Now, you people come along (not all of you, but several) and tell me that he's not going to reply until I take the first step. As I've said, TAKING THE FIRST STEP IS MY PROBLEM.
So basically, you're saying God can't help me.
Geez, whatever happened to being able to "move a mountain" with faith, huh? I have faith that God will take care of me, and you're telling me he won't! Why are you people trying to kill my faith?
Eagle_Wings said it best:
And now, I'm going to be blunt. THIS is what's wrong with Christian society today. THIS is why so many people hate Christians. THIS is why so many have biased views toward God. Because the majority (not all) of Christians are overly judgemental and harsh to those who are seeking help. There are better ways to show the love of Christ than telling someone that they're relying on a crutch or that their problems don't exist. There are better ways to be a witness for God than to KILL a person's hope!!
Remember that friend I mentioned earlier? The one I met here and has stopped coming here because of the way she was treated? Well guess what! I've been helping her through her rough times, and thanks to the grace of God, she's been off of drugs and stopped cutting herself for almost two months now. And it was because God allowed me to reach out to her with an understanding heart rather than a judgemental "it's all your fault" attitude that so many of you people have.
Let's turn it around for a second. Suppose one of YOU had a paralyzing fear of something. And suppose you came here and asked for advice, and the majority of what you got in response was "Well God's not going to help you, you have to do it yourself." How would YOU feel?
Guess what - if it was that easy, I'd have done it a LONG TIME AGO! What many of you are telling me to do is the equivalent of looking at an alcoholic and saying, "So just stop drinking."
To those of you who offered encouraging advice and hope for the future, I thank you. Unfortunately, we don't have a family doctor, and my family shares the views of many on this board. If I were to go, I'd get endless verbal abuse and alienation from my own family because they don't believe that depression and anxiety disorders exist and that problems like that are all in our head. Since I still live with my parents (blah) I won't be able to check out doctors without them knowing until I finally move out... which doesn't look like it's gonna be anytime soon.
One day, perhaps...
Let's reduce my main problem - and we all agree it's a problem - to more simple terms:
I have a problem. I am afraid to put myself into situations with people I don't know, such as a new job or new church.
No problem is too big for God. He's made lame beggars walk and blind men see.
I've taken my problem to God and put in his hands.
I have faith that he'll respond in his perfect timing.
Now, you people come along (not all of you, but several) and tell me that he's not going to reply until I take the first step. As I've said, TAKING THE FIRST STEP IS MY PROBLEM.
So basically, you're saying God can't help me.
Geez, whatever happened to being able to "move a mountain" with faith, huh? I have faith that God will take care of me, and you're telling me he won't! Why are you people trying to kill my faith?
Eagle_Wings said it best:
I think it is really awful when Christians will make a fellow brother or sister feel spiritually weak for dealing with situations differently then they think it should be handled. We are called to strengthen and encourage one another, not to beat them down and make them feel worthless and helpless. The only time we are told to admonish one another is when we see a brother blatantly sinning, and guys, I can't say I see that here!
And now, I'm going to be blunt. THIS is what's wrong with Christian society today. THIS is why so many people hate Christians. THIS is why so many have biased views toward God. Because the majority (not all) of Christians are overly judgemental and harsh to those who are seeking help. There are better ways to show the love of Christ than telling someone that they're relying on a crutch or that their problems don't exist. There are better ways to be a witness for God than to KILL a person's hope!!
Remember that friend I mentioned earlier? The one I met here and has stopped coming here because of the way she was treated? Well guess what! I've been helping her through her rough times, and thanks to the grace of God, she's been off of drugs and stopped cutting herself for almost two months now. And it was because God allowed me to reach out to her with an understanding heart rather than a judgemental "it's all your fault" attitude that so many of you people have.
Let's turn it around for a second. Suppose one of YOU had a paralyzing fear of something. And suppose you came here and asked for advice, and the majority of what you got in response was "Well God's not going to help you, you have to do it yourself." How would YOU feel?
Guess what - if it was that easy, I'd have done it a LONG TIME AGO! What many of you are telling me to do is the equivalent of looking at an alcoholic and saying, "So just stop drinking."
To those of you who offered encouraging advice and hope for the future, I thank you. Unfortunately, we don't have a family doctor, and my family shares the views of many on this board. If I were to go, I'd get endless verbal abuse and alienation from my own family because they don't believe that depression and anxiety disorders exist and that problems like that are all in our head. Since I still live with my parents (blah) I won't be able to check out doctors without them knowing until I finally move out... which doesn't look like it's gonna be anytime soon.
One day, perhaps...
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