favorites??? Naw.....

[Child of JC]

Do you feel exacly the same when it comes to all your children? I have the same measure of love for both my kids, but I feel more,, (is protectivness the right word?) for my youngest, I cant quite put it into words. I am the oldest in my family. I never felt any favourtism, but now that I look back, and even now, I recongize that extra something that my mom has for my little sister. I know it's not more love because it's not something that I am coveting or even feel threatened by at all. I also notice "it" in my friends who have more than one child. Can anyone relate to what I'm trying to explain? Can you explain it for me?

 

[Hisrosebud]

My sister point blank, has a favorite child. She says so and does not apologize for it. It was weird the first time that I heard it, haven't heard her say it in front of her children and all her children are spoiled with her love.

My mother does too, and it is not me, and it does not bother me at this point in my life.


As for me, I don't think I have a favorite. I love them all in different ways. My oldest son was raised by me for 12 years until I met my current husband. The poor child grew up as I was growing up. He endured some hardships that my little ones don't and yet him and I are really close because of those hardships. When I graduated from college, he walked down with me in cap and gown(age 5)--after all I could not afford daycare and he had to sit through a lot of boring lectures. We are very close but I am less of a parent to him than I am to the others.

I am probably most protective of my second child who is being tested for mild autism. I wanted another child so very badly but waited 12 years from the first to meet the right husband. He is very cherished. His light blue eyes have caused me to love the color blue.

My daughter was last and after being told that I would not have a daugher. She is a very quick learner, bypassing all of those charts. I often feel like she does not get as much one on one as my second child because his needs disrupt our home. Yet, she does not seem the worse off from it but instead is thriving. When I look at her smile or stomp her feet and demand everything "pur-ple" I know that I have waited for her my whole life. When I was a young girl, all my doll babies were girls of course.

So I honestly at this point do not have a favorite--but at different times I enjoy different things with each one and get irritated by different behaviors.

Jane
wife to Tony
mother to Jason (17 and just made the High Honor roll again!); Caleb (5 on May 17th and loves to play guitar); and Hannah Victoriarose (2 on May 15th and wants everything in the world to be purple!)

 

[lucypevensie]

I don't love either of my children more or less than the other. But I do treat them differently in specific instances.

I am the youngest of 6. The next oldest is 7 years older than me, and from there my older siblings are all approximately one year apart from each other, consecutively. (did that make sense? lol) So, they were all very close growing up. Then came little ol' me. I was treated differently than everyone else. I was a bit spoiled, but not badly, I don't think. I was given a lot more than they were ever given, they had to get jobs in high school, I didn't. Theyhad more chores than I did. But I don't feel like I was loved any more or less than everyone else. I was just a little different.