Favorite things about being single

[wayfaring man]

Favorite things about being single

Have any ?

Care to share ?

I especially like the enhanced sense of freedom.

Also have a saying that fits -

Of all the things one may possess their liberty suits them best !

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. <-----> 2nd Corinthians 3:17

But we do need to take care in how we use our liberty...

As free, and not using your liberty for a cloak of maliciousness, but as the servants of God. <-----> 1st Peter 2:16

wm

 

[SplendidTree]

Being able to put more time and focus on my relationship with the Lord and serving Him.

I honestly feel like I want to be single forever. That could change in time I suppose.

 

[wayfaring man]

Being able to put more time and focus on my relationship with the Lord and serving Him.

Sounds like the #1 way to utilize one's liberty !

I honestly feel like I want to be single forever. That could change in time I suppose.

Yea, when it comes to asserting absolutes it's usually best to be meek and unpresumptuous.

...Sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: <-----> 1st Peter 3:15

 

[Marycita]

Spoiler: tangent thoughts

May I be honest? I never quite understand that whole being single lets me focus on God more thing...(I don't say that with the intention of downing what you said, Cally. Your saying it just got me thinking ) I mean, I get it in the sense of time I suppose. But, I can't quite stand when people say that. Maybe it's because I've seen people who are married use the excuse of being married to write off why they are not walking as closely with God as they could. Sure, you're busier practically when you are not single, but if that takes away from your growing with the Lord and doing His work, then I would venture to say that relationship isn't truly from Him. A relationship He brings together will bring both of you closer to Him. So...yeah...

I think the thing I like most about being single is that He uses it to prepare me for when I won't be.

 

[Amber.ly]

Having more resources (time, money, emotional peace )

Not having to coordinate your schedule with someone elses

The possibilities are still out there. You could have a love story with a guy/girl you've never met and a future you've never dreamed of. That is kind of exciting.

Having your own space, not needing to share everything in your life with another person.

 

[lindseyk3]

I have enjoyed meeting new people, hanging out with friends, going out on a whim and not feeling like I have to check in with anyone in particular. Living on my own has been life-changing in and of itself- I think everyone should do it at least once in their lives. Spontaneity comes more naturally for me when I'm not worried about someone else and what they want to do. A lower phone bill is always nice, too. In all seriousness though, my favorite thing about being single is the glory of knowing that I am fully reliant on God. It's been neat to see how He works in my life when no one is around and I don't have a mate to lean on.

 

[Saucy]

I have my phases where I really long to find someone and then there are times I really, really enjoy being single. Right now I'm moving away from a time of being lonely (maybe the holidays have something to do with it?) and I'm giving everything to the Lord and am just happy with the way my life is and excited for what the future will hold.

I've gotten a phone call over the weekend from one of my best friends who says his marriage is probably coming to an end. I have a few accountability partners through my church and we talk back and forth about things and out of all my friends who have gotten married, I don't know a single one who is happily married. Of course, all marriages have their issues and I don't even know the half of it, but each one of their marriages has been on the edge of divorce multiple times. The ONLY positive marriage I see...the one I want to have when it's my turn, is that of my pastor and his wife. They are so incredibly sweet together.

So I have learned that jumping into anything just because your lonely or having a passing feeling of wanting to be with someone and settling for them can and will have disastrous consequences for your future.

 

[lindseyk3]

saucy-agreed. It's always hard to see those marriages begin to deteriorate for whatever reasons. I have friends that have already divorced and remarried.

 

[SplendidTree]

Spoiler: tangent thoughts

May I be honest? I never quite understand that whole being single lets me focus on God more thing...(I don't say that with the intention of downing what you said, Cally. Your saying it just got me thinking ) I mean, I get it in the sense of time I suppose. But, I can't quite stand when people say that. Maybe it's because I've seen people who are married use the excuse of being married to write off why they are not walking as closely with God as they could. Sure, you're busier practically when you are not single, but if that takes away from your growing with the Lord and doing His work, then I would venture to say that relationship isn't truly from Him. A relationship He brings together will bring both of you closer to Him. So...yeah...

I think the thing I like most about being single is that He uses it to prepare me for when I won't be.

You're talking to a woman who made dating mistakes and whose relationships didn't exactly glorify the Lord. That is why I put the answer I did.

 

[Hadassah_]

This has always been a hard question for me to answer. There's really nothing "good" about being a single parent. I've been a parent since my senior year of high school so I've never really experienced adulthood like most people did.

And now that I have one teenage boy and one almost, I feel like I live with a man sometimes. The toliet seat gets left up, I never get to hold the remote, I don't get to pick which movies I want to see (and quite frankly, seeing the Tinkerbell movie once just isn't enough IMO), I don't get to just go out and hang with my friends unless I make sure that there's an adult in the near vacinity that can peek in on them occasionally.

So...I guess if I had to pick a "favourite" thing about being single, it would be the anticipation of meeting someone who will accept me and the boys, warts and all.

 

[anewday]

I get to do what I want, when I want, no questions asked . But it is nice to share activities with someone of the opposite sex...

 

[Sieben]

Honestly being single is good, but being with someone is better.
Just it can be difficult to try to engage in a relationship if circumstances aren't ideal.
If that is the case I can't handle it.

 

[BRISH]

Freedom of schedule
Freedom of thought
Freedom of having space


I can't go on because it would all be based on one past relationship; therefore, jaded.

It's less stress physically, emotionally, spiritually.


Now, do I think one can be a couple and still have all these and more?
Absolutely. It just takes some strong people.

 

[SnowyMacie]

My favorite thing about being single: not having to worry about Valentine's Day. I'm sorry, but I hate Valentine's Day. I've never understood the point to it and think it is just simply stupid. It's not because "oh, I'm single and it reminds me of my singleness" but why should there just be one night off of anniversary or birthdays to do something special with your significant other. In my opinion, that's lazy. Romance should happen spontaneously and proportionally ALL YEAR long, not just in large portions on THREE NIGHTS PER YEAR.
I guess not having to pay extra for a girlfriend. Not that there's anything wrong with it, I'll gladly spend money on her (probably too much knowing my spending habits on myself). It's nice to have the extra money.

 

[wayfaring man]

Thank The Lord for you all !

Appreciate the replies.

It's intellectually and spiritually stimulating to catch a few glimpses into the single lives of others from afar off.

There appears to be kind of an irony, where one who finds the grace to be content in their singleness does then become rather distinctly more attractive and desirable than when they were discontentedly seeking a companion.

Which reflects the beauty of the wisdom of learning to be content in whatever state we're presently in...

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. <-----> Philippians 4:11

Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he has said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. <-----> Hebrews 13:5

Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. <-----> 1st Corinthians 7:27

Peace, Love, & Joy In Jesus !

wm

 

[barefeetonholyground]

So I have learned that jumping into anything just because your lonely or having a passing feeling of wanting to be with someone and settling for them can and will have disastrous consequences for your future.

Agreed.


Although right now I'm in the longest phase of singlehood in ten years and to be honest I can't stand it.
I know I wasn't designed for singlehood and that God made me to be a helper and a prudent wife to a man who graciously, humbly, and sacrificially leads myself and our children.
It's hard to feel satisfied and patient in this circumstance when you know that God designed you for a different one.

 

[Saucy]

I think there are very, very few people designed for singlehood. God said that it is not good for man to be alone. No one actually likes being alone unless it's a brief reprieve from chaos. I can't wait until I'm married, but I know that God has me single right now for a reason. I may or may not have met the one I'm meant to marry yet. So I'm learning more and more to give it to God and let Him work out the details for me, as hard as that is sometimes.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

Matt Chandler Teaching Song of Solomon - YouTube

Thanks Matt!

 

[Blank123]

Spoiler: tangent thoughts

May I be honest? I never quite understand that whole being single lets me focus on God more thing...(I don't say that with the intention of downing what you said, Cally. Your saying it just got me thinking ) I mean, I get it in the sense of time I suppose. But, I can't quite stand when people say that. Maybe it's because I've seen people who are married use the excuse of being married to write off why they are not walking as closely with God as they could. Sure, you're busier practically when you are not single, but if that takes away from your growing with the Lord and doing His work, then I would venture to say that relationship isn't truly from Him. A relationship He brings together will bring both of you closer to Him. So...yeah...

I think the thing I like most about being single is that He uses it to prepare me for when I won't be.

this. oh so much this. I don't love my singleness because i long for the intimacy and companionship of marriage. But I don't despise my singleness because this is where God has called me for now, and this is how He intends to mold me and work through me for now.

If the day should ever come that I marry, He will continue to mold me and work through me as a married woman. The only difference is that then I will have someone by my side who will challenge me and hold me accountable in my faith and who will serve Him with me and I will have the responsibility (and privilege!) of doing the same for my husband.

 

[barefeetonholyground]

"You can be single and serve Jesus or you can enter into marriage and be like him" -Mark Driscoll