Father's day

[Life2Christ]

I do not acknowledge father's day. My father cursed me again today. And now that I'm 40 years old I can brush him off. It doesn't hurt that much anymore. He is the cross I have to bear and every christian has one. Every abusive thing he does to me makes me pray "change me Lord, strengthen me oh God." The best thing I can do to my father on father's day is stay away from him. I'm so blessed to have Jesus to carry me through my trials. Thank you God!

 

[blackribbon]

I try to ignore it. My kids don't need a reminder of their loss. My dad is worthless. I need to remind the kids to call my husband's dad tomorrow though. He is okay and one of few people I feel guilty about having to move my children away from.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

Sorry that you guys went through tough times with your fathers.

I guess the good news about Father's Day is that we can also celebrate it together with God, who is our Father in heaven.

It's not like I have the world's most perfect dad either, but such is life.

 

[power2theweak]

This is my first Father's Day since my dad died.

 

[dayhiker]

praying God's grace to each who didn't have a good father.

I thank God I did have a good father. I pray God blesses him.

 

[blackribbon]

This is my first Father's Day since my dad died.

((hugs)) I know this day is tough for you.

 

[Life2Christ]

This is my first Father's Day since my dad died.

I'm sorry to hear that.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

My father - aviator, engineer, world-traveler, inventor, musician, teacher. He had an active, I would say even restless mind. He helped me learn about aviation, science, and history. I got to know a lot about the world through him. His life had a lot of twists and turns and he had several careers. He didn't really slow down until he was almost 80 and had a stroke. His life was marred by tragedy and he never got over some things and I think he was depressed to one degree or another for much of his life. Alcohol didn't help. A negative influence from some other people didn't help. I have tried to let go of some negative things and remember the positive things - I know not everyone is lucky to have positive memories to draw on. Sometimes when I see vintage airplanes of the type he owned, or flew, or worked on, I can almost feel his presence.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

When I was young my dad was a musician and an alcoholic although I didn't realize he was an alcoholic until he divorced my mom and re-married, THEN I saw it and lived it.
BUT it didn't go well living with him, and when I told him I wanted to go live with my mom (I wanted to live with her all the while but they made me go to my dad first) he disowned me. I didn't speak to him for 15 years. Then one day I realized that even though he wasn't in my life he WAS affecting me and in a negative way. So I wrote him a letter and told him that even though he didn't want to be my dad, he was still my father and he could not change that and so I chose to forgive him. We have a relationship now. It would be closer if my step mom weren't around, but since she got him by getting him to cheat on my mom, she watches him like a hawk and I guess he doesn't mind cuz he's been with her since I was 12 and I'm 54 now. I SO wish I could have some time with him by myself but I don't see that happening any time soon. But I am glad we do have a relationship even if it is mostly surface type. He is not the person I would call if I needed to talk to someone or needed help. But he has never forgotten my boys' birthdays or Christmas and I have to love him for that. He has only seen Chase once when he was first born, and my older son he hasn't seen since he was one and a half.

 

[dayhiker]

wow, so many sad stories about fathers.

I had a nice talk with my father Sunday.
When I was a kid we didn't talk much. He was busy making a living. When he bought the farm we worked together for 3 or 4 yrs. Nice, but also very business like.
Later I thought if I asked him a few questions we might have better conversations when we talked on the phone as I've not lived near my parents in over 30 yrs now. Sure enough as soon as I'd ask a few questions our relationship fell so much better with the conversations we have has over the last 15+ years.
This seemed to get even better when my father retired. before it was pretty much all making a living. Once he retired, he started looking up his old friends from work, family, people he meet. Mom and dad would take trips to visit. Then as some of them got sick he started calling to check up on them and sometimes even taking them to doctors appointments. Retirement showed me a whole knew side to my father that I don't recall every seeing before.

I thank the Lord for the parents I have.

 

[Life2Christ]

I thank the Lord for the parents I have.

Me too. My suffering brings me closer to the Lord.