Failing

[broken mach1ne]

I'm failing Chemistry and it is really affecting me. I took it out of interest and now I found that it takes a clear conscience which I don't have. I try my hardest but I still fail. The first test I did terrible on and the second as well. This affects my morale dramatically. I try to get help from the teacher but he is never there. My friends who are taking it are about as clueless as me and my parents don't have a clue either. My brother never took it and my sister is terribly rusty and next to useless. Unfortunately, praying won't do a thing for me in this scenario unless God can slip some Chemistry into my head manually.

All of my grades have been going down since my attitude has become so sickening. I can't seem to bear the fact that I'm failing a class. I don't ever get a break. All I feel is turmoil, sadness, hatred and envy.

 

[GodOwnsMe]

awww hang in there bro I don't know your school sytem

but hey I am praying for ya to get help somehow....

hehe I don't think its impossible for God to make you a chmemistry genuíe (sp ?) at all....

don't stress about stuff to much, you say you're failing but you're really not...you even said you're giving your best..

I came to a point where I was seriously like stop no I just don't care anymore I'll forward all that pressure right to God and

I'll just rock this life with him no matter what happens........

I sometimes feel even weird about that but I really just don't worry about some things anymore-it gets you nowhere

and I know nothing can ever divide me from God's love anyway..

I dunno how that sounds to you but to me it became so important I just couldn't do without knowing that God Bless ya

 

[Auntie]

broken mach1ne,

I think it's wonderful that you care about your grades, coz some people don't care at all! So give yourself credit for caring, but you are being too hard on yourself. It's not that you can't get the Chemistry, I think you are very bright and able to learn most anything. The problem is your depression is keeping you from enjoying your studies and enjoying learning.

Even if you fail, it's not the end of the world! I took high school Biology twice before I passed it, and then I passed with a "D"! And does it make any difference in my life now? NO, not one speck of difference!

Just do your best, that's all any of us can do. There is always next year, and the year after that! The important thing is for you to learn to enjoy learning. Don't worry about your grades so much, your putting too much pressure on yourself. Learning is more important than grades anyway!

More than anything, try to enjoy your life and enjoy school. It's OK to "worry a little bit" about grades, but NOT to the point of letting it get you down!

Have a (((hug))).

 

[Blessed-one]

yeah, failing a subject doesn't mean the end of life, as Auntie said. Life is like a roller coaster ride sometimes, there'll be a few bumps along the way, you just need to find a way to handle it.

Maybe Chemistry is not your strong point, i did chem in high school and dropped it in the second last year. Don't be too hard on yourself, life can be fun and cool if you allowed it, but it can also be depressing and dull if you allowed it. Attitude really matters a lot. Don't let yourself fall deeper into the attitude trap! *praying for you*

 

[Mr.Cheese]

I'm right there with ya bro. I'm was a disaster at chemistry.
Try to do this: no matter how jacked up things seem to get, believe that God is good and that he'll get you through it even though you absolutely do not understand why life took a sudden nose dive.

 

[broken mach1ne]

I do believe in self-discipline, self-control to an extent. I always think of this kid in my school that has the same build as me but has no where near the same mind but I'm mistaken for him numerous times and it just drives me crazy. He isn't very intelligent and he's no angel either. His morals don't exist nor does his dignity. I try to motivate myself to steer away from that as far as I can. I bathe, try hard, don't use drugs or alcohol and I don't gossip since that seems to be his high point in school as is the other peoples there. I dunno.

 

[GodOwnsMe]

phew.........you remind me a lot of myself there.........I am still trying to figure some things out but its definately cool you keep yourself away from the bad stuff..................you just get so quickly caught up in stuff like you get totally upset when something goes wrong....
no matter what happens you will always be safe in God's arms.
I ask him to give you peace over this and always get you the right motivation to do stuff and keep anything bad and harmful all away from you.. keep seeking him he knows how life works

 

[wvmtnkid]

broken-

I agree with Auntie on this one. I think it is your depression that is causing these feelings, maybe more so than not just being good in chem. Particularly if chem was something you were once interested in. Depression does that to you, it takes away the joy of the things you love. I know, because I have been there. When I was depressed, I enjoyed nothing at all. Even things that I loved to do, I just didn't have any interest anymore. But once I got help for the depression, joy in life came back. I once again found pleasure in the things that interested me.

So my advice to you would be to, one, please find somebody who can help you with this depression. A pastor, youth leader, parent, school counselor, someone who can get you pointed in the right direction and can get you help. And two, for your chem, maybe your school offers tutoring services or maybe someone in your community offers tutoring. I know that this is a service my church provides so there may be something like this were you live.

Just please don't give up. Sixteen is a hard age sometimes, but just know that these hard times will not last forever. Maybe God will use all of this to make you stronger. Just keep leaning on Him. He will provide, all you have to do is ask!

 

[GodOwnsMe]

really hope you're feeling better.. God Bless ya

 

[ZiSunka]

Chemistry is tough. Don't beat yourself up over it!

I had to drop biochem in college and take a lesser degree because of it. In a few years, it won't matter at all what you got in chemistry, or any of your high school classes. Really.

Keep your perspective...it's not the end of your world.

Can you drop the class? It's perfectly okay to give up on something that is too hard, especially if it is making you that sick.

 

[mel3]

Do yourself a HUGE favor and give you a break, kid. Unless you are wanting to be a chemist, is it really gonna matter in a few years whether you failed or suceeded in chemistry???? I suspect what is troubling you the most is not your grade but the feeling you are failing at something. But that's life. If we were all exactly alike and did everything as well as the next person, what a boring world we would be living in right now! If your best friend was coming to you for advice on this same subject, would you be as hard on him or her as you are being on yourself? I doubt it. Try treating yourself as you would treat somebody and see if that helps. And, as far as the other kid is concerned, don't compare yourself to him or anyone else. You are unique, no one else is quite like you are. Love yourself as God loves you and stop knocking yourself around like you are. I wish you well.

 

[DaveKerwin]

study with someone, maybe a fellow student will help tutor you.

it will work out, don't be discouraged.

 

[coastie]

I've failed stuff before, and I am a terrible perfectionist. Actually chemistry was the subject I failed.

I HATED that class even though I found it incredibly interesting. It just wasn't my bag. I had to take it twice before I could take physics, but it was worth it, because physics was one of the best classes I ever took. Stick in there, buddy.

Hard work is the key. One failed class won't keep you out of college... hehe, I know that for a fact

Zach