Eye Contact

[tmtj]

Has anyone ever thought about how much eye contact is appropriate to sustain with other people, particularly people of the opposite gender?

I'm starting to attract some attention from members of the opposite gender, and I'm finding that too much eye contact with them is making me weak inside. I fall for people very easily, and I tend to fall for the wrong person, a person the Bible would call "forbidden" (Proverbs 5).

I work at a job where I have to make eye contact with thousands of people a day, and it can be exhausting to feel like I'm getting "eye raped" every day. I want to avoid eye contact because to fall in lust with multiple people daily is exhausting to the soul. I want to fall for someone, but I want it to be in a godly context with the right person.

 

[Unqualified]

Yes go slow on the eye rape with women. Be gentle, understanding. I would be not wanting that much eye contact too if I had your job. Try to keep it pure and holy. You must have a service job. People’s eyes to protrude a bit for various weaknesses like anger, depression, tired, m.i. I don’t think it’s always conscious, but it makes it tough. Meds too cause it.Be strong every job makes one tired. God will give you the strength. Get prayed and studied up for the day. When you are weak, then you will be strong in the Lord. You mission Spock is to do this job and make it through the day.ha. God Bless You.

 

[timf]

If you look at the nose or mouth, most people will not notice you are not making eye contact.

 

[soldier of light]

Has anyone ever thought about how much eye contact is appropriate to sustain with other people, particularly people of the opposite gender?

I'm starting to attract some attention from members of the opposite gender, and I'm finding that too much eye contact with them is making me weak inside. I fall for people very easily, and I tend to fall for the wrong person, a person the Bible would call "forbidden" (Proverbs 5).

I work at a job where I have to make eye contact with thousands of people a day, and it can be exhausting to feel like I'm getting "eye raped" every day. I want to avoid eye contact because to fall in lust with multiple people daily is exhausting to the soul. I want to fall for someone, but I want it to be in a godly context with the right person.

When I'm tempted with lust I pray. I keep my eyes away from all temptation as well.

 

[tturt]

Might want to asks The Lord to let His love to be what's visible. Based on "The eye is the lamp of the body. So if your eye is sound, your entire body will be full of light." Matt 6:22

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Has anyone ever thought about how much eye contact is appropriate to sustain with other people, particularly people of the opposite gender?

I'm starting to attract some attention from members of the opposite gender, and I'm finding that too much eye contact with them is making me weak inside. I fall for people very easily, and I tend to fall for the wrong person, a person the Bible would call "forbidden" (Proverbs 5).

I work at a job where I have to make eye contact with thousands of people a day, and it can be exhausting to feel like I'm getting "eye raped" every day. I want to avoid eye contact because to fall in lust with multiple people daily is exhausting to the soul. I want to fall for someone, but I want it to be in a godly context with the right person.

The bible tells us to "flee" sexual immorality. If your eyes are leading you to sin, stop looking at people in the way you are. I often will not look at people who I feel could make me lust, I avoid eye contact by pretending to not notice them. When you see something that you think will cause you to lust, focus on your job, look at the till, the shelves, any thing. And ask God to help you.

 

[johansen]

If you look at the nose or mouth, most people will not notice you are not making eye contact.

I would notice. Also was in the usmc and you are taught to look through people, as in focus on whats behind them, but look directly at them

So yes i rechognize when people do that to me..

 

[johansen]

I want to avoid eye contact because to fall in lust with multiple people daily is exhausting to the soul

For the first time post age 6, back in 2015 iirc when i was 27 (could have been mid 2014) i had the "instant fall in love experience" with a ups delivery woman who dropped by my workplace. I never saw her, just heard her voice. And never heard it again to this day! I still work for the same company. I have also never had such a "fall in love experience since then.

While driving home from work that day i accidentally tuned the radio to npr (i never listen to it) and they were talking about the movie 'her' where a man falls in love with siri. IIrc i told God to stop trolling me. It took a few days for the strange desire to fade.

Anyhow, since then i have had a lot of other types of psychological experiences i have since overcome. I would have never imagined as a young adult, the opportunities and things i could be tempted with as an adult.

And when you overcome those desires (which may not be "yours") they wont show up again unless you open the door.

I say all this both as a warning not to open doors, but to pray and close the door you have open now.

While i had occasional sexual desires for women as a young adult, it was nothing like what you are describing.