Eye contact problem

[Charbel7]

Hello everyone, I've noticed long ago that i'm having problem with eye contact, I didn't really care about it before because it wasn't really bothering me but now it is,

Its like when i have conversation with one of my friends, My eyes are focused on them but when i notice they are focused i start moving them, I just can't look them in the eye

Its just when i talk to my friends, If its my family i never do it.

My question is why is it happening?

And is there anything i can do about it?

Thanks,
God bless you everyone.

 

[dabro]

It's just your noticing your looking.......It is like social anxiety but I get it to......Really when I have done something wrong I can't look into the eye's. I mean I think everybody does it at some point in there life. So you shouldn't worry that much about.

 

[Charbel7]

It's just your noticing your looking.......It is like social anxiety but I get it to......Really when I have done something wrong I can't look into the eye's. I mean I think everybody does it at some point in there life. So you shouldn't worry that much about.

But its not happening because i did something wrong, Again it happens while i'm talking with some one i just can't look at his/her eyes.

I'm still worried.

 

[dabro]

I have it too when I haven't done anything wrong. The more you try to have no social anxiety the more your going to notice that your looking into there eye's. I know what you mean. I kinda think your obsessing on this if it's causing doubt worry and anxiety.

 

[Loven God]

I have always had a problem looking into someones eyes when talking to then it makes me real nerves to do that . It does not matter who it is .

 

[CraftyTurtle]

I rarely look someone in the eye. I tend to look at their mouth - most likely because it help me to understand what they are saying. Too many people mumble, and I miss-hear. If I looked them in the eye, I would get distracted by what I thought I heard, and miss the next sentence or two of conversation.

Apart from social anxiety, it may be your brain is running on full-speed, and they are speaking at half-speed. Your brain gets bored, and needs something else to fill in the gaps. This game of looking/not looking someone in the eye might just be a way of keeping your brain busy while the conversation is too slow for it. Most of us think about 2 or more things at any one time. The word "focus" doesn't appear in the vocabulary of those of us who have trouble picking the one thing that is important right now, and just dealing with that.
Focus? Moi? Impossible. eg, right now, I am filling in a time-sheet, watching a DVD, and writing this post. I have HUGE trouble focusing on the one thing that I should be doing right now (guess which)

It can be a very tricky balancing act dealing with the important thing, as well as keeping the brain happy. If you ever find out how to do this, please let me know.

Looking someone in the eye is not as important at looking interested, paying attention, giving visual feedback, and participating in the conversation.

 

[dabro]

I rarely look someone in the eye. I tend to look at their mouth - most likely because it help me to understand what they are saying. Too many people mumble, and I miss-hear. If I looked them in the eye, I would get distracted by what I thought I heard, and miss the next sentence or two of conversation.

Apart from social anxiety, it may be your brain is running on full-speed, and they are speaking at half-speed. Your brain gets bored, and needs something else to fill in the gaps. This game of looking/not looking someone in the eye might just be a way of keeping your brain busy while the conversation is too slow for it. Most of us think about 2 or more things at any one time. The word "focus" doesn't appear in the vocabulary of those of us who have trouble picking the one thing that is important right now, and just dealing with that.
Focus? Moi? Impossible. eg, right now, I am filling in a time-sheet, watching a DVD, and writing this post. I have HUGE trouble focusing on the one thing that I should be doing right now (guess which)

It can be a very tricky balancing act dealing with the important thing, as well as keeping the brain happy. If you ever find out how to do this, please let me know.

Looking someone in the eye is not as important at looking interested, paying attention, giving visual feedback, and participating in the conversation.

This is the best way to put it.!