Extrovert girl.. I'm introvert.

[leidulf]

Hi!

I'm currently getting to know a girl. I really like her, and see many qualities in her - she's genuinely in love with Christ, she comes from a great family, we're both into serving God through the use of music (I play the piano, she's a singer).

What makes me a bit hestitant, is that we have different personalities - as I'm introvert - and I don't talk so much - while she, on the other hand, is very extrovert. She's doing things all the time, she talks a lot, and she's so full of energy.

When we hang out, she does most of the talking. I find this quite ok, as I'm more of a listener - and I really enjoy hanging out with her.

Well.. I guess my question is if any of you has experiences with this. Would a relationship work out? Before, I've always been thinking that 'the more, similar the better' - but I don't really know, as my experience is none.

This is my first post here, so I should perhaps say Hi to you all as well - and excuse myself for any error in my grammar/spelling. English is not my first language..

Be blessed!

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

First of all, welcome to CF.com! I think you will enjoy our singles fellowship here.

I think a relationship can work out between an introvert and an extrovert so long as her outgoing personality isn't offensive to you. Sometimes opposites do attract, especially in situations like this one. If both of you were extroverts, neither one of you would be able to get a word in the edge-wise during conversations. If both of you were introverts, you would probably find yourselves being very bored with the lack of conversation. It's important though that you try and break out of your quiet nature from time to time so she isn't doing all of the talking. It's important for her to get to know you as well.

 

[Tenken]

Welcome to CF leidulf!!!

Back to your post, I think a relationship can work out between an introvert and extrovert. In fact I think it will work better than any other type of relationships. She talks and you listen, perfect match!!! Go for it (but I would advise you pray to God first and hear what he has to say about it

 

[Stanfi]

I think if can work. I think you should talk to the girl about it. If she is confortable with you being introvert, and you are confrotable with her being extrovert, then I don't see why it can't work.


I had a similar situation. I can be a bit of an introvert, and the girl was unconfortable that I was quiet.

 

[invisiblebabe]

You write in English very well

I am an introvert (moderate level, not at all extremely introverted but certainly not an extrovert either). My boyfriend is also an introvert, which I feel works best for me. Yet, I have a friend who is introverted and is happily engaged to an extroverted man.

It depends on the individual and what you want and need when it comes to connecting with someone. From what you say, it sounds like you and this girl get along well. Keep getting to know her, and see what happens God bless!

 

[TriptychR]

Well, does she enjoy you listening to her as much as you enjoy her talking? The relationship can work; you might be able to play off each other's strengths well. However, you both would need to be aware of how you are. For example, she'd have to realize that you'd probably get exhausted at a party after a while. Just give it time and see what happens. Is there any need to rush right now?

 

[Cherub8]

Leidulf, that sounds like a good match! Keep in mind that 'personality' is not the determining factor in regards to compatibility. Rather, mutual love for Christ and a strong desire to grow closer to Him - THAT is the quality which binds a marriage/courtship relationship together. It is that characteristic (fear of the Lord) from which all other wonderful qualities come.

I think Proverbs says it best. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Hope that helps.
Cherub

 

[leidulf]

There is no rush, and I prefer to take things slowly - out of experience, it's so easy to get carried away by feelings (not that feelings are bad).

I'm also thinking that it could work out well. It's very true as Cherub8 says, and as the bible states - the single most important thing is that both are deeply in love with the Lord.

A relationship between an introvert and an extrovert will bring more challenges along the road, compared to a relationship between to people who are very similar, and think and act in the same way. But if both are aware of the differences, and there's mutual respect for these - I think that it's not necessarily a problem. At the other hand, I think being different persons also adds possibilities - i.e. I'm sure that she'll take me places, and that we'll do things together, that I by myself (or coupled with another introvert) wouldn't think of doing (in other words; the ideas would probably not even strike me). And maybe I'll bring some other qualities into her life.

Getting married, isn't only for our own pleasure, it's also about becoming a good team together - for to serve God in the best way possible.


But - as I've already mentioned - it's so easy to get carried away, and focus on the wrong things. I'd be happy if you'd pray for the situation, for God's will to be done - so that I'll choose my wife-to-be according to his criterias and not my own.

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts - I'm very grateful - and also thank you for a warm welcome here in CF.

 

[Glorianna]

This kind of relationship can definitely work out. Similarities tend to bring two people together and differences tend to keep them together. That way things won't be boring.

 

[JPPT1974]

Ever heard of Men are from Venus and Women are from Mars. Im introverted and shy and prefer shy and introverted men myself.