Exposing someone...

[TamaraLynne]

I agree. That would have been a good alternative.



As far as judging goes, Jesus said in John 7:24..."Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment." I felt I was judging righteously. I never once judged him based on his appearance. I simply judged him righteously based on his choice to commit the evil he was doing. I never have looked down upon him not once during this situation. My girlfriend and I have prayed for him and his wife for God's will to be done in their life. I have continued to treat him the same as the day I met him. However, he has been bitter towards me...which is understandable based on our flesh and blood.



I agree...bad spirits are tempting him to make the choice to sin. I hope and pray that he will recognize this and put on the armor of God so that he will make the choice to flee from these tempations.

As far as judging goes, Jesus said in John 7:24..."Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment." I felt I was judging righteously. I never once judged him based on his appearance. I simply judged him righteously based on his choice to commit the evil he was doing. I never have looked down upon him not once during this situation. My girlfriend and I have prayed for him and his wife for God's will to be done in their life. I have continued to treat him the same as the day I met him. However, he has been bitter towards me...which is understandable based on our flesh and blood.


I'm not being argumentive and I'm not coming against you in any way................I was just wondering if you could expound more on this verse and explain what you see and have been shown by the Holy Spirit...........
And how to apply it to life...................

What is rightous judgement?

Love
Tam

 

[Deborah6763]

look at the motives of the heart-- on both sides.

When you do that, I believe it all beocmes much clearer.

yes, perhaps mistakes were made on both sides., but who had the pure motive? and who is willing to look at the good and the bad of the situation?

and do not forget, that innocent children are involved which alwys gives one a new perspective. I commend you for your courage. Yes, perhaps there might have been a better way to initially handle this, but hindsight is always 20/20. If the pastor cannot confront this evil in the presence of innocent children, then perhaps we see where some of the problem originates.

hang tough; continue to seek the Lord in this.

Shining the light in any situation is often difficult, but rarely wrong!

 

[bliz]

You did not follow the appropriate Biblical steps.

To be fair, those steps may not have been taught to you in your church, and you have porogbably seen a lot of people handling conflict in the wrong manner.

You should have confrontd the man by yourself - after having asked God you show you the log in your own eye... and there nwas quite a log that you felt compelled to do what you did.

You need to go to this man and his wife and apologize to them and ask for their forgivness. In person. (You also need to do the same with your pastor.)

And you also need to figure out why you felt compelled to set this man up. Say whatever you like abut the church needing to know the character of people in ministry... you wanted to persue this and get the "dirt" on him.

Check out more about how to handle conflict at:
www.hispeace.org