Ex Issues...

[LunEireann]

So back in June, my boyfriend of like, a month and a half ditched me. Pretty tame, right? Well, everything was going perfectly, even though I was heading off to Governor's School for 6 weeks. The night before I left I went over to his house and everything was OK, great actually. Then on the first day of GSW (Gov School West) I got a text message from the bf, saying that he was too busy and stressed out and couldn't be with me any longer. This is about 3 days after we said goodbye (on the 12th, I left the 13th, moved in the 14th and the first official day was the 15th). It's been almost 3 months now and I still can't get over him. I don't know why he just randomly ditched me. I can't help but to think that it was my, ahem, lack of experience, if you know what I mean. He still avoids me, and won't talk to me. I did love him, and now I have no idea what happened. Could it have been something I did? Or said? Maybe I was too busy (a friend of his told me that he'd said that I wasn't around enough). Was he afraid that I was going to ditch him for another guy at GSW? If that was it why hasn't he talked to me?

He did say "I have to make sacrifices, and one of those sacrifices has to be you." that's almost verbatim. But I'm not sure that's the reason. I don't know why I think that, as he's never lied or hidden anything from me before, but I have a hunch that that's not it. Why would he just up and dtich me like that?

thanks for the help...

 

[pianomaster42]

Well, to be honest, I can't give you a good answer, because I don't know all of the details.
For example:
Could it have been something you said? Perhaps, but I don't know every word (or any word, really) of what went down between you two.
Was he afraid? I don't know, I am not inside this guy's head.

I can give you a couple of possibilities, but I will need more information from you if you are to get the answer you want.
One possibility is that he found someone back home. Distance in relationships takes work, and many people don't have the patience for that. Many people think, "Why bother working on a relationship with someone I almost never see when I can do the same with someone I can see?"
I mean, there are more possibilities than that. But again, these are answers I can't honestly give you. I am not the person who broke up with you, I don't know him, I don't know what kind of person he is. I don't know the circumstances that could have led to what happened. Could I ask you to be a little more specific as to circumstances?

 

[Wedjat]

He was your boyfriend for a month and a half...
... we are now at three months since you broke up with him and you can't get over him.

Can you really not get over him? I realize his ditching you was kind of random, although I agree with pianomaster in that it was either the fact that he didn't like the long distance relationship, or he met someone else, or both.
I think his comment "I have to make sacrifices, and one of those sacrifices has to be you." was kind of a low move.
To me it looks like there's no purpose in that sentence other than to make him seem like the victim, get you thinking, to set your mind to searching for the reason within yourself rather than realizing that guys don't dump girlfriends for no good reason and something is up on his end.
I highly doubt that the issue falls on you, it's all him.
Again, I don't know the whole story, and really, internet+relationship advice = not good, but to me it looks like there's something up and you'd be better off realizing that someone like that is not worth your time and effort agonizing over.

Sorry if my post sounded blunt or callous, but I really do think you'd be better off dropping the issue and making every effort to move on.

 

[Paulie079]

Hey, any guy that would decide to break up with you by text message because he wasn't man enough to talk it through with you to your face isn't a guy you would want to date anyways.

 

[liesje]

Hey, any guy that would decide to break up with you by text message because he wasn't man enough to talk it through with you to your face isn't a guy you would want to date anyways.

^This

 

[renee09]

just ask him honey. sometimes things are just worse just thinking about it. ask him and find out.