Everyone else is getting pregnant!

[Nobility]

Does anyone else get fed up when they see yet another person get pregnant, whether in real life or online?

I currently have 9, maybe more friends who are pregnant and another 6 friends with babies under two months, not including online friends - and I get really annoyed with it because i'd love to have one too, but for some reason my stupid body won't let me.

Since this one is a bust, it's now going to be a minimum of 17 months from trying to getting pregnant - if I do at all (I realise this is a reality and I"m just dealing with that).

 

[CraftsForKids]

We were trying 6 years, before we were blessed with pregnancy. I know how you feel, but you must be strong. Care yourself not to be jealous on others. Be positive!!!

 

[Nobility]

Mmm...

I could think of many ways to respond, but I guess the best one is staying positive and upbeat isn't always the best option - reality does have to sink in at some stage also for me to be able to live my life to the best it can be.

 

[baker_h]

i totally understand your frustration! i have 4 younger siblings, and my younger sister, who was not planning to have a baby, had one 6 months ago, and my brother in-law, also younger and not planning to have a baby, had one 8 months ago. In the past year, i have 3 cousins have babies, not to mention many friends, including one that found out 3 months ago she was pregnant when 1 month before state she never wanted children!

At time like those it makes me feel like SCREAMING! but i try to see the positive side, God is shaping me into a better person, with both of my miscarriages, i felt so close to God, i felt that my dependency on Him was sky high! which is awesome, but some months, when my period marches in, i cry and tell God im pretty upset with Him! haha,
since my last miscarriage, i felt even more depressed, and just lost (hence finding here! haha) but i guess i just wanted to say, i understand the feeling.

and, when people tell me, "i waited 10 years to be blessed"
i feel like screaming, "well I dont wanna wait that long!!!"

 

[Singermom]

(with apologies to baker h...)

My husband and I were married in 1985 and wasn't blessed with our first child until 2002 (and then again in 2005). To be honest, no one SHOULD have to wait that long.

There was a miscarriage in 1986...then nothing. My oldest sister was pregnant at that time also (we were going to "share our pregnancies), so it was really difficult to rejoice with her, much as I wanted to. The same was true in 1993 when my other sister became pregnant. When my nieces and nephews (my brothers' children) started having children before me it just didn't seem right.

However, for me, the absolute worst was during one "temp" job I had, around 1992. I walked in and was greeted by 2 pregnant women. During lunch my first day I found out that almost everyone - including the men (their wives, obviously) - in this office had either just had a baby or was expecting. It was the only temp job I ever had where I asked to be released from early. It was just too incredibly painful.

I truly pray for anyone in the holding pattern. It's horrible when every period you have takes a small chunk of your heart out with it. I know.