Engagement Ring Question

[Dorothea]

It's a nice tradition- but it isn't critical.

I've never had a priest tell me I had to move my ring to the right hand- and I've been to more than one Orthodox marriage workshop. Most people who wear their rings on the left hand have never heard of the hand to heart superstition. I don't see how such a superstition can hold sway over me if I didn't know about it or acknowledge it as my reason for doing so. I'd have to get it resized to make it fit on my right hand- and I find that to be inconveniencing. How many people do I know that have been married for years who don't wear their rings anymore because their rings don't fit or for other valid reasons? Loads. Are they any less married or blessed? I should hope not.

Sure, that understandable, and I agree. We wore ours on our left hands for about a decade. My husband changed to his right hand sometime after that, the past few years, and after a few months, I did the same. Out of preference, really, to follow the tradition. No priest told us we had to.

 

[ex-pat]

My husband and I both wear our rings on the right hand.

 

[Lirenel]

I'm not married, nor is there a chance I likely will be in the near future, but I've still given this some thought. I do a lot of writing in my job, with pencil, and I'm right handed. An engagement ring with a raised diamond (as is the usual engagement ring), would get in the way a lot when I'm erasing something. But I like the tradition behind the wedding ring being on the right hand.

I'd have to talk it over with whoever my future husband ended up being, but I think I would prefer either wearing the engagement ring on my left, wedding ring on my right. Heck, if we wanted to go completely traditional, with one ring that goes left to right during the ceremony, but still wanted to make sure it's certain that I'm 'taken', I could always just wear my great-grandmother's engagement ring (which I inherited) on my left. No one would know the difference.

 

[OuterWater]

My wife and I just have plain gold bands that we wear on our right hands. She asked me not to get her an engagement ring. *shrug*

 

[Dorothea]

I'm not married, nor is there a chance I likely will be in the near future, but I've still given this some thought. I do a lot of writing in my job, with pencil, and I'm right handed. An engagement ring with a raised diamond (as is the usual engagement ring), would get in the way a lot when I'm erasing something. But I like the tradition behind the wedding ring being on the right hand.

I'd have to talk it over with whoever my future husband ended up being, but I think I would prefer either wearing the engagement ring on my left, wedding ring on my right. Heck, if we wanted to go completely traditional, with one ring that goes left to right during the ceremony, but still wanted to make sure it's certain that I'm 'taken', I could always just wear my great-grandmother's engagement ring (which I inherited) on my left. No one would know the difference.

I'm left-handed, so I wore my wedding ring for a decade or so on my left hand, like I said, with little problem. H husband's ring got too small so he replaced his w/a titanium ring. I got a gold band with tiny, flat diamonds in it. I wear this one every day (of course on my right hand now), and my original wedding band set with raised marquis diamond on special occasions and outings.