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Engagement Question

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This is my very first post so I'm going to give some history...I'm 21 yrs. old, and I have been just recently engaged...My fiance and I had discussed marriage often previously, but one day she actually decided she wanted to make things official and set a date...I totally agreed because I know that God has sent her to me to be my wife, simply because I fasted for a whole year of dating and during my fast the Lord told me that I would meet my wife behind the doors of my church...well literally the day my fast was suppose to end, I saw this beautiful lady and I even introduced myself and chatted a little but I didn't want to feel like I'm just jumping back into the dating scene at the first chance I got, so I did not pursue this beautiful young lady. However, a couple of days later, I received an email from her, we began several discussions and she asked me where I attended church...I told her and she became excited and said she would love to experience a church service there...well, honestly my heart was about to jump out of my chest, so of course I asked her if she would go to church with me...(first date to church, now that's powerful) anyways, we hit it off and we were both going through struggles at the time, but we decided to pursue this relationship and we started dating...the rest is history, but now I am having problems because even though she set the date and has often talked about getting married hastely, she now is flip-flopping and I don't know if she wants to get married sooner or later...I am distraught because I keep getting my hopes up on a certain date and she will agree for a few weeks, but then something will happen and she'll change her mind...I feel like I'm riding a roller-coaster and the tracks are being made right in front of me, cause I can't tell which way I'm going...I just need some advice to help get me through, so this is a fellow Christian, pleading for help...THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME, AND GOD BLESS...
 
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Isaiah4031nc101

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Sounds to me that there is a problem with commentment. I dont know your situtation but to me if the date was set and for some unseen reason it had to be postponed I could understand. But if it is happening alot there might be a unseen problem. Maybe you need to sit down and talk to her and ry to find the problem and the solution as well. And as you said the Lord said you would " meet my wife behind the doors of my church ". Well be praying!
 
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