engaged and confused

[littlelambinal]

Is it a sin to marry someone who does not claim Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior?

My fiance' and I met while attending the same 12 step meetings. We are both recovering alcoholics and addicts. I'll have 5 years sober in October, and he will have 2 years in Sept.

We do pray together, and I know he believes in God. He also has a personal relationship with God. The problem is he does not claim Jesus. He believes that the Bible was written by man to impose their will not God's.

I have to admit early in my own recovery I had doubts too, and I truly believe that Jesus is working on his heart just as he did mine.

So, what do you think? Should I wait and see if he changes before I say I do, or trust that God will open his heart in his time?

 

[Ruhama]

I would generally recommend waiting, although I know you probably hate to hear it. The reason being, later down the road, if one of you is going one way spiritually, and the other is going a different way, you will eventually go further apart from one another, because this is one of those things that seem less important at first and get more and more important as time passes because it shapes who you are. Married couples need to be traveling in the same direction (that's what the unequally yoked thing is all about - it makes it very hard to travel in either direction when two want to go different ways). And if you have to choose between your husband and God, you will be bound to choose God. That's not a situation I would want for myself and I don't think you want it either. So, yeah... I recommend waiting until you are sure you will both have the same goals in life before committing yourself to the same 'yoke.'

 

[johnfiredup]

you have both came through so much how about going a little further?
i wouldnt advise marriage under your circumstances.
get him to a church where Jesus is preached ,i dont think it will be long before he is born again-- now of course you will have to very wise on how you do this .i certainly wish you both every happiness in Christ

 

[rhema glory]

that he believes in God and that is a good sign,but I would take it a step further and dig into the scriptures together about being unequally yoked and your concerns!I'm sure he won't resist bc usually men like to please their women in the early stages,and it would be another way for you both of you to dig deep and see where your convictions lie!I know it's so tempting to just jump right into it,and hope for the best,but Gods way is better than ours,you don't want to have regrets!
~Blessings