emotions (How do you know when to trust them?

[wolfiswill]

Hi everyone,

This is my first time posting in this forum though I've read a lot of threads. I have a question that I would like your opinion on? When can you trust your emotions? Many of us have been in situations where we have liked someone and thought they we were suppose to be with them but it didn't happen. I have been there several times. i know that God has wired us with emotions but how do you know when you can trust them? it seems like a lot of times you can't especially when it comes to someone that you are interested in. What do you all think?

 

[MagicStar723]

You can trust your emotions when they line up with God's will/plan. Study your Bible and if they match up, then you can trust them!

 

[charligirl]

Good advice from magicstar.

Basically I have learnt never to trust my emotions alone, they can change daily, even hourly and can be swayed by everything from hormones to what I ate.

Your 'gut' feelings are often your subconscious mind, not neccessarily the Holy SPirit and it takes time to distinguish between the two. Checking it against God's word is good advice.

I spent 5 years convinced that I was going to marry a particular guy, mainly because I kept asking God to take my feelings away if it wasn't right... the feelings never left, BUT it wasn't right. So what happened? Well, to some extent I chose to love the man, I mulled over him, focussed on it and had all these feelings for him... they weren't from God and God couldn't take them away as I chose to indulge them and dwell on them. It wasn't until I decided enough was enough and accepted it wasn't right and said to God 'TAKE them away, if they are right then you can give them back' They left that very day. Now I don't think God had much to do with any of it, it was basically down to my will and what I chose to let grow in my mind.

We can all have feelings of attraction for a person, but we choose whether to pull them out before they take root or not.

 

[lunalinda]

Oyyy...emotions. I KNOW I can't trust mine. In fact, I'm sick of emotions altogether. Sometimes I wish I can be a robot. An uncaring, unfeeling, cold-hearted robot. *sigh* Dang emotions.

 

[flounder7786]

i feel you on that one lunalinda...i dont really know how to answer your question, because i dont know quite where to draw the line of getting all emotional. I think its something you have to work on...pray about...and go from there. Dont just think though, that reading your Bible and praying will make you less irrational in judgements of emotion...i mean, i think God can do anything, but i also think that this is where our free will comes in...

 

[Johnnz]

Emotions are part of being human and fully alive. We also have an intellect, a physical and a spiritual component to our lives. We gradually learn to intergrate each area. Each has a part to play, and one should never dominate the others.

Be neither frightened of nor controlled by your emotions, or your body or your intellect.

John
NZ

 

[Glorianna]

Pray about them and seek God's guidance.

 

[Lbiagm]

pray for God's guidance.

 

[tinkerbell_145]

Hi wolfiswill

Well, I just wanna say that I agree with what everybody's said so far... I mean, in my life...there was this instance. There was this guy that really liked me and had for a really long time, but the feelings weren't mutual. I didn't like him nor did I want to be around him. But, as usual he constantly pursued me and I started to hang out with him a little bit. Well, I started to FEEL myself falling for him and I started to FEEL myself like him and all the attention he was giving to me. And an icnident where my parents didn't approve of me hanging out with him happened (might I add, he wasn't even a Christian), I broke off my fellowship with him and I was sad and everything. I was crying and the whole nine yards. And NOW, guess what???? I don't even know what I saw in the jerk anyway!!! He wasn't even saved!! But I was going on my FEELINGS.... I thought I liked him, I thought I wanted to be with him, but I didn't! I was just infatuated with the fact that he wanted me so much! And if God hadn't used my parents to talk some sense into me...I would've pursued the relationship and probably would've compromised my purity for him. And to think that now I can't even think of ONE reason why I should've gone out with him. But I was so caught up in feelings, which LIE--all the time. I liked what charligirl said...WE have to choose to tame our feelings or let them go haywire. And if we let them go haywire, then God can't really do much cuz He'd be going against our will. So, just trust God and if He says no, but you're feelings are saying something different...go with God. Because trust me, you'll regret going with your lovey-dovey feelings over what is the truth.

 

[wolfiswill]

Thanks for your advice. This is something that I have benn thinking about for a while. There are currently no girls that I'm interested in right now, but I want God to guard my heart and my emotions because sometimes I do a bad job of it. I have been hurt a lot by girls.

 

[gizmo03]

Thanks for your advice. This is something that I have benn thinking about for a while. There are currently no girls that I'm interested in right now, but I want God to guard my heart and my emotions because sometimes I do a bad job of it. I have been hurt a lot by girls.

Thats what I need to do.. Pray and ask God to gaurd my heart. A lot of things happening here lately and I just can't take it anymore. So I have finally decided to give it all up and leave it in God's hands. If things are suppose to happen and meant to be it'll happen. I don't think I will be able to emotionally handle it if I try to do it myself anymore.