emotional reck

[tajera]

hi i am not sure where i can begin to heal...my husband left me after three years of marriage and three kids. he has given no reason for leaving and i am not sure what to think. at time i feel like he left because i was a bad woman ..but i think deep down in my heart i was so very good to him, i belief i was the perfect wife but still he left..
i have the kids ages 6,3,2 and life at time can be so overwhelming that i feel like i cant go on but them i think who would my kids have ....noone .

he has a new girlfriend and our four year anniversary is coming up and i am hurting so bad ...and i am not sure why iam hurting.
i dont want him back in my life after all that he has done to me but its the kids i am worried about.

my christian friends say i should pray that he comes back and i should not get involved with anyone else but i am not sure that is what i want....I hate him for what he did to the kids and i!

but it can get very lonely at times i am so confused i am not sure where emotional to go from here

 

[christalee4]

This is terrible. How long ago did he leave? You have young children and you need to get yourself together for their sakes. First of all, your husband has to pay some kind of child support right here, right now. You need it. Get yourself a lawyer and get going. He may change his mind down the line once he realizes his mistake, but you need to get support for you and your children.

As far as your mental status, friends help and it's good to talk to anybody and everybody, including a counselor. When my husband left me, I thought that's it, it's the end of the world. He left me for another woman, and we had had a son together. It was hard and I thought I was going to die too. My counselor said that there was nothing wrong with me, it was my ex's fault. With the help of God, family, and friends, I picked myself up and went on. You can do it.

 

[ghs1994]

It breaks my heart to read this. I'm relatively new to this forum, but it breaks my heart to read some of the heart wrenching posts I read from time to time.


All I can tell you is to be faithful to God. Pray and have fellowship with Him. He is the only One who can bring peace to your life. Have faith and don't doubt.

 

[madison1101]

I remember feeling that way when my husband left me. I was devastated, and my kids were all grown and gone. We were married for 25 years.

But, you have to start taking care of yourself. You do not say if your divorce is final. Either way, divorced or separated, you do not need to get into another relationship right now. You need to heal, and learn to trust God for you and your kids. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you...plans to prosper you not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future." Trust God for this. Memorize it. Everytime you start to sink into despair say it out loud.

Also, the suggestion to get into counseling is very good. Find a therapist and start working through all your fears and emotions that are associated with your situation. Talk to your friends if they will listen.

Hang in there. God loves you very much. He is taking care of you.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[jenelis]

This makes me sad to read too.

You absolutely have to take care of yourself in order to take care of the kids. Yes, they have no one but you (and maybe him), all the more reason you need to look out for yourself.

Pray for strength and pray for peace. You can not change him-- and you have to deal with whatever is thrown at you. But you know god gives you the strength to overcome the obstacles of life.

Talk to a counselor or just close friends, or use this forum for positive input!